Woudl you let your toddler wear footie pajamas to Target? - Page 3

[mamazee]

Kids naturally want to conform with other kids as they get older.  Really, this is not an issue.  I don't even like the argument "if you don't teach it as x how will they know to do it at y?"  It's completely normal and rational to have different expectations for different ages.  Honestly I wouldnt' even care if my 9-year-old wanted to go out in pjs, but she hasnt' wanted to since she was a toddler.

[mrspineau]

clearly im the odd one out here, but no I wouldn't allow it.  Also I disagree with those that said no one would bat an eye at a 2 year old in jammies.  one time when we were on a road trip, we had a situation where we had to take our son into a store with footed jammies on, and he was only 1 and we got a ton of weird looks and even a comment.  Even if we are just staying home for the day, the rule is that everyone has to get dressed for the day in our house. 

[shulamis]

I understand there are different expectations at different ages. But I don't agree with just giving in at ANY age. And unless it's an emergency situation where you need to leave the house immediately for some reason, I think one should take their time to teach what is right. I see every little "battle" as an opportunity to teach that child. Young or old. It's not about the PJs. The child isn't even battling because of the specific monkey footies. They're battling because they want to assert themselves in some way. Which is a GOOD thing. The situation should be used to allow them to assert themselves,  but in a socially acceptable way. Again, give them a small choice in the matter, clearly directing away from the PJs....

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Originally Posted by mamazee 

Kids naturally want to conform with other kids as they get older.  Really, this is not an issue.  I don't even like the argument "if you don't teach it as x how will they know to do it at y?"  It's completely normal and rational to have different expectations for different ages.  Honestly I wouldnt' even care if my 9-year-old wanted to go out in pjs, but she hasnt' wanted to since she was a toddler.

[katroshka]

Everyone has different expectations for these little kinds of things... I think the important part is how the parent deals with whatever decision they make, more than the actual decision.

[onyxravnos]

not a fight worth having. if they are weather appropriate and all the 'bits' are covered i call it a win! i wouldn't even worry about shoes unless she would be walking outside in snow/rain/mud

[mamazee]

Well first, I don't think there's anything wrong with footie pjs on a 2-year-old anywhere.  Second, why can't you give in?  It's the kid's body.  IMO unless it's a serious issue, which footie pjs on a toddler isn't, the kid gets to choose what happens to the kid's body.  And I don't think there's anything socially unacceptable about a 2-year-old in footie pjs anywhere at any time.
 

Originally Posted by shulamis 

I understand there are different expectations at different ages. But I don't agree with just giving in at ANY age. And unless it's an emergency situation where you need to leave the house immediately for some reason, I think one should take their time to teach what is right. I see every little "battle" as an opportunity to teach that child. Young or old. It's not about the PJs. The child isn't even battling because of the specific monkey footies. They're battling because they want to assert themselves in some way. Which is a GOOD thing. The situation should be used to allow them to assert themselves,  but in a socially acceptable way. Again, give them a small choice in the matter, clearly directing away from the PJs....

 

[sapphire_chan]

Would and have. We only own footie pajamas to make it easier to make dd not-naked for getting out of the house. Specifically for mornings when we'd drive dh to work.

Without jammies  with jammies

undies --------------jammies

shirt

pants

socks

shoes

Since each item on the list was a fight, you see why we bought some footie pajamas.

That said, for playing out in the snow, I have told dd that jammies won't work with her boots, she wanted to try, she tried and found they were a PITA, and agreed to change clothes.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by mrspineau 

clearly im the odd one out here, but no I wouldn't allow it.  Also I disagree with those that said no one would bat an eye at a 2 year old in jammies.  one time when we were on a road trip, we had a situation where we had to take our son into a store with footed jammies on, and he was only 1 and we got a ton of weird looks and even a comment.  Even if we are just staying home for the day, the rule is that everyone has to get dressed for the day in our house. 

Eh, I got more "jammies day?" type comments when I had dd in leggings and a t-shirt--not even pajamas! The only comments I've gotten about her in the footie pajamas are "looks snuggly!" and "you've got fuzzy penguins!"

People where you live need to get over themselves.

[mrspineau]

I think that it's worth teaching your children to dress appropriately for what they are doing.  As far as it being "their body their decision" type thing, well I'm not sure that my 2year old has the ability to make decisions about proper dress. 

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by shulamis 

I understand there are different expectations at different ages. But I don't agree with just giving in at ANY age. And unless it's an emergency situation where you need to leave the house immediately for some reason, I think one should take their time to teach what is right. I see every little "battle" as an opportunity to teach that child. Young or old. It's not about the PJs. The child isn't even battling because of the specific monkey footies. They're battling because they want to assert themselves in some way. Which is a GOOD thing. The situation should be used to allow them to assert themselves,  but in a socially acceptable way. Again, give them a small choice in the matter, clearly directing away from the PJs....

 

Except that PJs on a toddler isn't something that I actually care about, while wearing the jammies is something the toddler DOES care about. My arbitrary pointless whims do not override my child's deeply felt feelings. And yes, there are differences between dd's whims and her intense desires.

As for the "if you let them do it at two they'll be doing it at twenty!!!" idea? Nonsense.

[lalemma]

I'm not interested in getting into a power struggle with my kid over something that insignificant.

[MusicianDad]

Originally Posted by shulamis 

I understand there are different expectations at different ages. But I don't agree with just giving in at ANY age. And unless it's an emergency situation where you need to leave the house immediately for some reason, I think one should take their time to teach what is right. I see every little "battle" as an opportunity to teach that child. Young or old. It's not about the PJs. The child isn't even battling because of the specific monkey footies. They're battling because they want to assert themselves in some way. Which is a GOOD thing. The situation should be used to allow them to assert themselves,  but in a socially acceptable way. Again, give them a small choice in the matter, clearly directing away from the PJs....

 

So... We shouldn't allow it because others might not like it? Sorry, but my kids get to pick what they want to wear out of the house and society can go to heck for all I care. By your logic I should steer DS away from dresses because it's not "socially acceptable". Sorry, but my kid's right to be himself is more important than so arbitrary clothing rules the rest of the community wants to impose on him.
 

[MusicianDad]

Originally Posted by mrspineau 

clearly im the odd one out here, but no I wouldn't allow it.  Also I disagree with those that said no one would bat an eye at a 2 year old in jammies.  one time when we were on a road trip, we had a situation where we had to take our son into a store with footed jammies on, and he was only 1 and we got a ton of weird looks and even a comment.  Even if we are just staying home for the day, the rule is that everyone has to get dressed for the day in our house. 

What is the purpose of getting dressed if you aren't going anywhere? I am genuinely curious. It's not like anyone is gonna see you in your pj's or anything. And sometimes it's nice to just hang out in them.

[MusicianDad]

Originally Posted by mrspineau 

I think that it's worth teaching your children to dress appropriately for what they are doing.  As far as it being "their body their decision" type thing, well I'm not sure that my 2year old has the ability to make decisions about proper dress. 

A 2 year old is appropriately dressed if they are clothed and said clothes stay on. I dunno about your kids, but my son will at some point remove clothing if he doesn't want to be wearing them. So if he wants to leave the house in PJ's I let him, if he wants to leave the house in a dress I let him, if he wants to leave the house wearing one of my t-shirts, a hat with ears and socks for mittens, I let him (though he has to agree to be carried cause the shirt poses a tripping hazard for him). Coats tag along on cold days, but he won't wear one until he gets cold.

[Agatha_Ann]

Originally Posted by shulamis 

I understand there are different expectations at different ages. But I don't agree with just giving in at ANY age. And unless it's an emergency situation where you need to leave the house immediately for some reason, I think one should take their time to teach what is right. I see every little "battle" as an opportunity to teach that child. Young or old. It's not about the PJs. The child isn't even battling because of the specific monkey footies. They're battling because they want to assert themselves in some way. Which is a GOOD thing. The situation should be used to allow them to assert themselves,  but in a socially acceptable way. Again, give them a small choice in the matter, clearly directing away from the PJs....

 

Wearing jammies outside of the house is wrong? Seriously?

Where do you draw the line? Can an infant wear a sleeper outside the house? What qualifies outside clothes vs inside clothes? I'm a person is going to the gym are they allowed to wear their sweats in the car on the way? What if said person has to stop at the post office on the way, is that allowed?

So long as it is weather appropriate, my kids are welcome to express themselves through their clothing. Wedding, church, and funerals- those are the times I can understand clothing for a toddler being an "appropriateness" issue, other than that I can't see how a child could be dressed wrong.

[em123]

No, I would not. Pajamas are for sleeping, we get dressed before we leave the house.

[tzs]

i wouldn't but only because her pajamas are always covered in dog hair. yick.

[Mama Mko]

I don't care at all what my kids wear as long as they're clothed and the clothing is clean. If the pajamas had breakfast all over them, we'd change. If they were clean, I'm cool with it. I wear pajama pants out of the house sometimes and the world hasn't ended. ;)

[craft_media_hero]

Yes. I would not make footies in public my hill to die on with a toddler. I see kids at grocery stores all the time in their pajamas--it's cute! No big deal in my book.

[Chamomile Girl]

My kid can wear whatever he wants. Dress codes...ALL dress codes are lame and society should bite me.