potty learning - what to do now?

[colsxjack]

Our DD is 19 months old. She was showing signs of being ready to start using the potty. She liked to flush, she mentioned it, wanted to be closes free, was very interested in a book about potty's, etc.

So we bought her a potty chair. She LOVED it. Wanted to sit on it constantly. Then over a week she actually went poo in the potty a couple of times. It made her pretty freaked out. She had nervous laughs and anxious sounds. Then she wouldn't flush it or anything.

Now, for weeks now, she doesn't want to even try it. We offer here and there and she always says no. At first she didn't even want to go near it. Now she will actually touch it and move it around and play with it.

We let her go diaper free sometimes and she just pees wherever. She doesn't seem to know at all that she has to pee. She just lets it go, and then acts kinda surprised.

Is she just not physically ready?

Is there something we can do to make her less anxious?

Should we just put it away and stop offering? At this point it is around and we ask. She says "no" and we say "ok". We never push it.

Do we get a video or more books about pottying and get her more used to the idea?

Although it would be fantastic not having to deal with diapers so much, we are not in any rush for her to be out of diapers. We just thought that she really seemed enthused before, and we dont want to miss the boat.

Thanks.

[myfairbabies]

My dd was kind of the same way. We let her go naked a lot because she loved it, and if I put her on the potty she would usually pee, but she would also pee on the floor like it was nothing. She was also terrified of pooping in the potty. We used the 3daypottytraining method and it worked great. Worst thing to happen is a lot of laundry and finding out your kid really isn't ready. With poop, we roll played with her dolls (which she loved), made up a silly song with sound effects, and let her stand over the little potty with me or dh holding her up in a semi-squat (or sometimes she wants to hug me). We also made sure to be happy anytime she pooped, because I think she got scared when she would poop on the floor and we would say "uh-oh, poop goes in the potty". She didn't like the "uh-oh" even though we didn't make a big deal about it. We changed it to "yay! you pooped! Let's go put it in the toilet!" She was in underwear full time by 19 1/2 months (including night). GL!

[myfairbabies]

Oh, one more thing. She often tells us she has to go pee but then doesn't want to stop doing what she's doing to sit down. In those cases, I try to take whatever she was doing with us (let her eat off her tray during lunch, or I'll offer to nurse her, or we bring the blocks or whatever).