I will just say up front that I think lying is not the solution, but I don't know what is.
Dd attends a language immersion school (one-way) and has English language arts for 1 hour each day. She's in 3rd grade. The English teacher gives 10 - 15 words a week for spelling. Dd aces these tests and gets the bonus every time. She has no problems with spelling. Each week, they get their spelling packet with some exercises, one of which is a "practice" for the spelling.
The teacher, all year, has stressed this particular method of studying for the test. Something like reading the word, spelling it out loud, covering it, then writing it. Dd doesn't do this. She just copies the words down because that part of the spelling packet can't be left blank. But she just pretty much doesn't need to drill the words. She does fine the way she does her studying.
The teacher is really stressing studying these words "by the rules" and says she will ask each student if they did the studying the "right" way or not. Of course, I don't want to tell dd to lie to her teacher, but the method dd is using is *obviously* working for her even if it isn't the teacher's way. I've told dd that I'd talk to the teacher, but she is fiercely independent and wants to handle it on her own.
Would you email the teacher (against dd's wishes) or just leave it alone and let dd lie to the teacher if she wants? This teacher is notoriously a "hard-nose", so I don't think dd would confront her, but just say that she studied the "right" way. I've told dd to ignore the teacher's directive about studying and do it whatever way she feels most comfortable with, so I don't know what more to do. The teacher sounds like a control freak, but she *is* a good teacher. I'm just having this ethical dilemma about whether or not to tell dd to just lie and forget about it or be honest and deal with her teacher.