We're expecting our 2nd baby in June. Things were really rough with DH with our first baby - long story short, he didn't bond with her at all or help me out in any way for about the first 2 years of DD's life. It was brutal and almost cost us our marriage. Looking back, I think he had some PP depression, though he'd never admit to it. He's also incredibly stubborn and acted as though being a SAHM was like being on holiday. 
He flat-out refused to believe that it was hard work or that I might need a bit of help from time to time.
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The good news is that he's come around a lot in the last 18 months or so. He's finally formed a good bond with DD and become a partner in parenting. I'm optimistic that things will be considerably better (though maybe not perfect) the second time around. I NEED it to be better. Not just for my sake, but for the baby's sake and his sake. I feel so sad thinking about how much he missed out on with DD1.
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I'd love to compile some resources for him. Does anyone have any recommendations for resources aimed at fathers? My DH is allergic to anything even vaguely new-agey or hippy sounding, so something that's very straightforward and evidence-based would be best.
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Any other suggestions for helping him to bond with the baby would also be very much appreciated. :)
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TIA!
