TMI, but need some help/support

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

I am 33 weeks pregnant and went to the midwife yesterday for a regular prenatal and had her check me down thier....i noticed a tiny bump about week prior on the top of my labia right where the hair line starts/stops. My belly is so big i cant really get close enough to actually see what it was...but it's so tiny that i had to point it out to the midwife. So she looks and looks and says " well if someone pointed a gun at my head and wanted me to tell them what it is...i would say it's HPV/genital wart" " but i'm not 100% sure" Holly Molly......i've been married for 8 years and have never been with anyone else. I'm so concerned as to what do i say to my husband. He has displayed some iffy behavior about a month- 2 months ago. And i'm not sure if i should come out and say....you gave me this....all the research i see online is so vague about transmission and dormancy. That i'm at a loss. I am going to start vitamin C and daily. Just wanted to vent about this. I had her test me for all std's int he office and waiting for the results. But i dont even want to talk to my husband. Thank goodness he's away on business. So i dont have to face him.

[Okapi]

I'm afraid I don't have much practical advice, but I wanted to offer You must be so stressed out Take care of yourself. Make sure you're getting lots of rest. I hope your mw will be able to get you better information once you know for sure what is going on.

[rockymtnmama]

Oh mama, I am so sorry you are going through this!  I just wanted to chime in and say to be careful about jumping to conclusions regarding your husband.  Several years ago, I had an abnormal pap and was diagnosed with cervical dysplasia, which is also caused by the HPV virus.  My doctor told me not to blame my partner because I could have been exposed to HPV ten years before and just now be experiencing symptoms related to the virus.  Likewise, your husband could have been exposed before he even met you.  It is common for HPV to flare up in pregnant women because our immune systems are suppressed during pregnancy and less able to keep the virus under control.  I am not trying to make excuses for your husband, and I think you are right to get tested for std's, but I just wanted you to know that this is not necessarily the result of him being unfaithful!

Good luck to you, hopefully you will have some answers soon.

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

The only thing though is this is my 3rd pregnancy with my DP, so i'm thinking that it would of showed up in those pregnancy's too? Why this one and not hte others? I'm so confused.

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

The midwife just called me the test result for other STD's came back negative. so that's a good thing. But she did encourage me to confront my DH..about this. Considering we have been together for 8 years and this is my 3rd pregnancy and something like this has not shown up before. Oh...my...i always said if i ever get a STD from a partner that's the end. But damn i'm 33 weeks pregnant and it's not that easy. and all the info online says it's so east to get....and geez...im numb....i want to cry and feel sorry for myself. Yet....i dont know how to think or feel. He's away on business so i dont have to face him. I cant even respond to his txt messages right now. I dont want to talk to him. I know that's probably not fair.

[Marnica]

This happened to me when I had DS.

HPV can remain dormant for DECADES, causing no signs or symptoms. Testing negative for HPV only means that there is no superficially detectable virus at that time — you could still be harboring the virus. I would not jump to conclusions. You could have gotten this before you ever met your DH or he could have had it and passed it to you 7 years ago and nobody was the wiser.

Once I gave birth my "spot" disappeared and my HPV screen after that was clear. Pregnancy supresses the immune system, allowing things to surface that might not otherwise. HPV is so common. 80% of the population have been infected at one point or another and don't even realize it. Once your immune system is back on track, it will likely clear out the infection on it's own.

FWIW, I told DH about it thinking he would freak out. He was like well that sucks, but whatever.

[Mulvah]

First of all, I'm really sorry you're going through this.    Not that I would doubt the midwife, but I would probably do the vinegar test, myself.  If the wart didn't turn white, I would probably want further testing, but that's just me. 

Since you already suspect your husband of an affair, I definitely think you should talk to him.  If/when you do discuss it with your husband, try to bring it up without accusing him of anything.  I would see where the conversation goes.  Try not to stress yourself out with the possibilities; it may be nothing, it may be unrelated to anything your husband did whilst with you, etc. 

Take care of yourself!

[Panserbjorne]

Originally Posted by Marnica 

HPV can remain dormant for DECADES, causing no signs or symptoms. Testing negative for HPV only means that there is no superficially detectable virus at that time — you could still be harboring the virus. I would not jump to conclusions. You could have gotten this before you ever met your DH or he could have had it and passed it to you 7 years ago and nobody was the wiser.

\ Pregnancy supresses the immune system, allowing things to surface that might not otherwise. HPV is so common. 80% of the population have been infected at one point or another and don't even realize it. Once your immune system is back on track, it will likely clear out the infection on it's own.

I'd still talk to your dh given the "suspect" behavior...but the reality is that this is true.  you may never know what triggered it, or why now (but stress is enough to do it and if you thought your dh was doing something shady....that's a stressor.)

I'd certainly be supporting my body nutritionally at this time though-no question.  Vitamin C wouldn't be enough for me.

[BubbleMa]

  I agree with those who have said not to jump to conclusions.  I know it's hard not to though.  Just wait until he comes home and tell him the news.  See where the conversation goes from there.  Definitely ask him about his suspicious behavior too.  

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

Originally Posted by Panserbjorne 

I'd still talk to your dh given the "suspect" behavior...but the reality is that this is true.  you may never know what triggered it, or why now (but stress is enough to do it and if you thought your dh was doing something shady....that's a stressor.)

I'd certainly be supporting my body nutritionally at this time though-no question.  Vitamin C wouldn't be enough for me.

Any certain supplements that you suggest during pregnancy?