Right before DS was born, we made a conscious decision that when DD woke, one of us would come to her instead of her coming to our bed because we were hoping this would limit the motivation to come to our bed and help everyone (including the baby) sleep better.
Now, nearly 2 years later, I end up sleeping most of the night in a twin mattress on the floor with a flip-floppy 4 year old who hates the covers and keeps pushing me off the bed. I usually *intend* to go back to our bed, but fall asleep helping her back to sleep, or I just get tired of several wake-ups and decide to wait it out. Meanwhile, DH and DS are living the high life in our natural latex king size with the awesome pillows and the yummy down comforter.
Having all 4 of us in the bed for any length of time is not an option for us. The kids are just too big and kick, push, etc. way too much. Both kids start out in their own beds, so DH & I usually get a LITTLE bit of time to ourselves, but I really miss my grown up bed and I don't think the kids' sleep patterns are going to change any time soon.
I guess I'm trying to decide if we should accept this and get DD (and probably DS while we are at it) a bigger bed, or try to summon the will to make changes.