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I agree as well,people love to help others and they are offering b/c they are in a position to doit. We have received so much help over the years, much that was never asked for. I used to say no, long, long ago, but now I say yes. Why not? I had a lady at Church tell me how much she has loved our family from afar, bringing all the kids to Mass every week. She asked to do something for us and offered to come over w/ her teenage dd and cook my kids dinner, watch them while dh and I go out and do  something on our own. Well we do go out a lot by ourselves, but why not. My kids would like, they get to have a different experience and she wants to as well. I thought it was a lovely thing to think of.

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well....we're holding up...sort of

 

there are little stresses here and there...small temper flare ups from everyone

 

my older daughters have not been incredibly gracious which is tough to swallow because theyre well taken care of

 

we're in a weird phase of limbo it appears...they start on the house next week (clean up gutting and demo)

and we should be finishing up with the contents of the home this week and are in a weird spot where we have enough to get by but not quite if that makes sense?

 

I want to get going on getting the baby's stuff together but feel stuck financially...like I cant spend what money I have because Im waiting for someone to pull the rug out from under us

 

this has been a very weird road.

 

I'm taking what everyone has said about people helping needing to do something because they feel helpless to help and trying on just saying "thank you"

maybe I need a lesson about pride (letting go of it)

post #23 of 23

so sorry and sad to read this--hope you are figuring things out, and becoming okay with asking for help.

 

i found that motherhood is a constant push and pull of needing, but not wanting, then asking for, and accepting help, and if you need it, you should let people help you. If you feel weird about people buying you things, you could just say you're not sure yet and maybe tell someone that a gift card would be most helpful right now...then you can use it for what you need when you figure out what that is?

 

sending good wishes your way!

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