My name is Rebecca and I'm 26 years old. My husband and I have been married since 2008 and our son Nicholas just turned 2 on Feb. 14. I'm an at-home mom and trained as a birth doula last year, although that path is on hold since I got pregnant last July. My son was born with a CNM at a hospital, but we planned a homebirth for this pregnancy. I had a great CNM and the first six months of my pregnancy were perfectly normal, healthy, and very happy. We were excited about growing our family and felt much better prepared than before our son was born.
AND THEN...at 26 weeks I was measuring 4cm ahead, and my midwife sent me for an ultrasound at 27 weeks. I had opted out of earlier ultrasounds -- I didn't want any unnecessary testing. I wasn't excited about this ultrasound -- my 20 week ultrasound in my first pregnancy was a 2 hour long ordeal that left me with nothing (not even a decent picture) except a huge bill. I told the ultrasound tech that I wasn't thrilled about being there and I absolutely did not want to know the baby's gender -- we were just there to "rule out twins or anything else bad" (total foot-in-mouth moment, especially since the tech turned out to have 15 year old identical twin boys!). Of course, a few minutes later she announced that she saw two heads...and thus began the roller coaster of the last month!
Fortunately both babies (believed to be identical) were a good size and appear healthy. Obviously that's the most important thing. But this was a huge shock -- I really had not prepared myself that we might be having twins, despite measuring big -- and we've had to make a lot of adjustments, emotionally and practically. I wanted to keep our options open after this pregnancy and possibly have a third child, but my husband was really set on 2 kids. We don't have any family nearby, although they are going to come help after the birth. We just bought a new car for my husband in November, but after finding out about the twins, we decided to trade my car for a minivan. Our homebirth plans had to be scrapped -- my CNM only does low-risk births, and even if I could find another midwife willing to attend a twin homebirth, we're more than 40 miles from a decent hospital (our local hospital has only a level 1 nursery). I've struggled to find a supportive care provider to give me the best shot at a low-intervention, preferably unmedicated vaginal birth. And I'm nervous about how I will mother TWO newborns, plus my toddler. I'm committed to breastfeeding the babies and also plan to use our cloth diapers. But I only have two arms, and I'll have 3 kids under 3!
I could really use any advice, encouragement, or just commiseration from some like-minded mamas right now. I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you and learning your stories!