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post #41 of 48

(OP has not updated this thread in over a year.  Zombie thread ...)

post #42 of 48
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Originally Posted by Goodmom2008 View Post

The courts can't determine custody without first establishing paternity.  The custody will be heard after this is done later.  Either way, get a parenting plan signed off on by a judge before any unsupervised visits. 



Actually, they can. I don't know how this happens, but I've seen it happen to a friend of mine. It's probably unusual, but it can happen.

post #43 of 48

I have been reading on here through my whole pregnancy, I'm due next month. Your post made me sign up so that I could respond to you. It's quite possible that we got knocked up by the same guy. (kidding but not really)

 

I know it's hard but don't be scared. You are very lucky that you are in Massachusetts. This state favors moms. You would have to do something outrageous in front of the judge for that baby to be taken away and daddy would have to prove that he has been an active, caring and supportive parent to this child. I feel like the name change issue would just be looked at as petty by the court. They look for what is in the child's best interest. If you are breastfeeding it is a plus because you cant be away from your baby for too long.

 

On Custody:

http://www.masslegalservices.org/system/files/Chapter+09+Final.pdf

Also Read

Chapter 7 - Paternity

Chapter 8 - Child Support

 

In Massachusetts when a child is born to an unwed mother she has sole physical and legal custody of that child even if paternity has been established. The father has no rights until the court decides otherwise and even when the father has to pay child support it still does not grant him visitation or custody. 

 

Stay strong and don't engage with him. When you end up in court you'll see a mediator. Let the mediator help you.

 

::hugs::

good luck mama.

 

post #44 of 48
I think you should just cut off contact with him.

If he takes you to court to get his name on the birth cert then deal with it then.

He's obviously not the kind of man you want around your child. Hopefully it will be such a long drawn out process he will get bored and move onto his next victim.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this greensad.gif stay strong mama x
post #45 of 48
Oops just seen the date of the thread!

I wonder how it turned out for the op
post #46 of 48

I want the OP to clarify in her original post what it means that this baby was the result of his controlling ways?

post #47 of 48

Ah, OP hasn't even posted anything in five months. Zombie thread indeed! I hope all is well with her and the little one.

post #48 of 48
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Originally Posted by Mama Soltera View Post

I want the OP to clarify in her original post what it means that this baby was the result of his controlling ways?

 

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Originally Posted by Mama Soltera View Post

Ah, OP hasn't even posted anything in five months. Zombie thread indeed! I hope all is well with her and the little one.

 

I don't always get a chance to get online these days.  I'm doing well, the baby is doing great, as is my older son.  We are getting on with our lives and only have to deal with the father on occasion.  The father (and I use that term loosely) has supervised visitation and has had it twice a month for about 4 months now, but he is beginning to lose interest, reschedule, cancel, etc.  Hopefully...

 

Anyways, to clarify and answer your question, EVERYTHING about my relationship with the baby's father was the result of his controlling ways, even his conception.

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