I feel so ridiculous getting upset over crap that happens on Facebook.
Long story short- I posted a rant about being upset because I saw a pregnant person registering for formula at the store I was in. My mood that day was craptastic, and I put up a little blurb saying 'I will not flip out on this person registering for formula. Not even going to TRY to breastfeed? I just don't understand.'
I realize that this post was a rant, not an educational opportunity, and I realize that this person may not be able to lactate, and so she was registering for formula because of a million reasons, none of which I know. I was judgy, but I'm human and I am working through my issues like anyone else. Most of my posts (the ones that aren't about funny stuff my kid does) are helpful links about co-sleeping, breastfeeding past infancy, etc. I feel as an attached parent, I have a responsibility to spread the love through knowledge, to advocate. This was not one of those times, it was purely a rant.
A cousin got mad, because she is a formula feeding mom, who I believe is projecting her baggage upon me. Chaos ensued, more family members got involved. I can honestly say that I stayed respectful in the discussion while not compromising my beliefs, and when it got too ugly and I saw that my point was not going to get across to anyone, I stepped away.
I then decided that in order to maintain peaceful in real life relationships with family members (whom I don't see terribly often anyway), that it would be best to remove them from my friend list, so that my strong beliefs and passionate views on controversial subjects doesn't lead us into altercations.
I feel that finding out about AP, and learning to parent in a gentle, responsive manner has been so personally gratifying, I feel like this is something I am exactly in tune with, I see how well the tools I get from here and other resources (my local tribe, especially) work in my family and I want to share them with everyone. I'm proud to be passionate about things like extended bf-ing and babywearing. I'm having a hard time reconciling the fact that my strong opinions and passionate beliefs can be seen by others as me being 'selfish, self-centered, rude' (some of the words that were used to describe me).
I am as of late, stating an intention to be more peaceful. As part of my own personal growth, I am growing in my spiritual life with God and my family, I am getting a healthier body and embarking on yoga for the first time, I am trying to make a calmer, more peaceful path for myself, to remove all stressors, to set healthy boundaries.
Gosh, this is getting long. Getting my words out in print is helping me work through my thoughts, and so I thank you for that. Any advice or stories about how you achieve the balance between the two worlds (the one that thinks I'm a kook for parenting this way and for advocating for it, and the world that embraces me for those reasons) would be greatly appreciated. I'm feeling fragile and out of sorts, and I'm thankful there is a forum such as this where I can discuss it without fear of judgment.