I am sorry you are having problems and its becoming an issue with your partner...being that I believe in CLW I believe that a child will let you know when they no longer need to breastfeed/nurse/suckle. I think some husbands/boyfriends don't understand the emotional bond that is created through nursing your child as IMO after a child reaches a certain age it becomes more about the bonding time with their mommy and comfort nursing rather then the actual need for the nutritional benefits of mommy's milk.
I think nipple/breast twiddling is very common for children nursing, I did the same thing with my mom when I nursed and my dd does it with me too, I read that it helps to stimulate milk flow in your breasts and its natural for a child to do that.
So each child is different and what a mom chooses to do should be what is best for their child and themselves. I hope that your partner can learn to understand this and not force something because they are being selfish or because they don't understand.
I know that I comfort nursed/suckled for longer then what is considered "normal" (8.5+ years old) and I get attacked from other moms because of it, because they can't see themselves ever doing such a thing or judging someone because they don't understand, but love will always overcome hate.
I was a child doing what to me was totally normal, I didn't see it as strange or weird or disgusting, it's funny how adults will use their adult mind and try to place those thoughts onto an innocent child and how they see the world at that age.
So again I say do what is right for you and your child/family, just love your child and be their mommy and that's all you can do...
As a mommy myself now spending time with my dd is the best part of my life and I love her with all my heart and just pray that I can love her and be there for her like my Mom was for me. I will let her breastfeed/nurse/suckle for as long as she wants and needs that bond with me, I don't put an age limitation on it as she will let me know when she no longer needs that bond with me, and then I will continue to be there for her in new ways, always loving her.
Nursing/Breastfeeding = nutritional benefits of mommies milk for child.
Comfort Nursing/Suckling = an older child still needing/wanting that bond with mommy, but not the nutrients.
Wishing you the best,
Originally Posted by anilmom
thanks for your support. my great kid is 3 years and 9 months old...still very enthusiastic with breastfeeding. Only at bed time and some crisis moment, like when he hurts himself or for the nap. The point is: my milk now is very very little, he says: "only drops." I feel some sorry for not believing he really needs to keep with it and for this reason I think my body stopped producing milk, after so much and very much (he was only breastfed until was 13 months old and led 100% the introducing the solid food). he never had the pacifier and never the bottle. we are still co-sleeping.
My partner is quite annoyed with this prolungued breastfeeding but i don't feel like close it down from my only side. I believe the will be able to stop... but when? What is a bit disturbing is his playing with the other breast meantime: that can drive me furious. for the rest it is very nice and sweet to allow him to be a baby when he wants and to offer him a safe nest where he love to rest.
For your experience, is there any way to help him to ricognise himself able to go without breast??? will not become a kind of psichologic dependence to keep the mother busy with him?