I am stepmom to a teenager who lives with his mom. The child support judgment was made about 6 years ago, when he was still in an expensive after school program and his mom wasn't making as much money as I believe she makes now. Also before my husband & I had our 1st child. I'm now pregnant with #2 (haven't told anyone yet).
I asked my husband to try to deal with this when DD1 was born and DSS stopped going to afterare, but he didn't really deal with it. It was emotionally hard on everyone last time around (they'd had an informal arrangement up to that point and she took him to mediation we we got married) - but we're also looking down the barrel of another 4 years of daycare starting next fall and feeling a little daunted. DSS hasn't been in any aftercare for a few years, and DH has continued paying a higher amount, but DSS won't graduate from high school until 2014 (I'm assuming payments continue until then, not until the 18th birthday?)
I don't want to be a jerk, piss her off, make our stepson think we don't are about him or that he's less a part of the family, hurt DSS financially, but we also could really use the extra $300 hundred bucks a month I think the adjustment would be worth.
So, am I a total jerk for wanting to get this adjusted? Will taking this back to mediation totally ruin our relationships? Is it really worth $3000-$4000 dollars a year to get this dealt with? These are the questions I'm asking myself. Anyone been through this?