OH. MAN. YES!!
@guppiegirl, gagin37, ericaRN, kittn...because using government assistance is the real concern, isn't it?
so sorry for the soap box rant, but it kills me that there's so much concern and debate over women's bodies recently, and it's a total catch 22. being up the duff is evidently the only legitimate role a female can play in this political climate (considering abstinence education and the defunding of PP and so on), and yet we're also a threat to the deficit if we have children young or if we have more than two, or we're not spacing children at the appropriate times, although timing is a more confused notion than it is a consensus…either pregnant or not pregnant (not pregnant = concerning our menstruation or our employment status), our bodies just can't be adequately under someone's control. it's the bristol palin/natalie portman contradiction. it's alright if bristol is a single mother, because she chose life, but it's a morass if natalie is expecting, even though she is earning her own wealth and has a partner. our bodies just act so craAAAaaaAAzzZZYYyy! these comments made to us are just indicative of how we are just a walking comment box. i'ma definitely start using that one (8 kids + welfare!) if anyone comments on my size, though.
@mrsbone, i'm feeling you. i have a 2 yo boy and am expecting a girl, and i can bet on a comment like "oh, one of both, so you're all set!" thank you for giving me my fertility cut off point, random stranger. but you're absolutely right, pregnant women's bodies are just open for discussion in a way that regular bodies aren't. i have to remind myself that most comments are just vomited out, too. there's just this compulsion to touch pregnant bodies physically or through commentary. although that doesn't make them any less honest, i have to breathe and remember...well thought out, evidential and original…no.
@oregonicmama, immediately i cringe when i prepare to read posts about what husbands say to their pregnant wives…but it would have made my day if my husband had given me such ingenious descriptions like "bear gullet," "tanker," and "love boat."
anyway, i originally just wanted to mention that every time my neighbor sees me (every. day.), she says, "so you're still pregnant, huh?" or "how's the baby doing?" Drives me crazy. this is the same woman who moved here and had nothing to say to me except how much she hates how her freedom and career was stolen by motherhood, and then, when i became visibly pregnant, mentions at least weekly that she cant wait to have another one…even though her husband is not on board at all.