I recently relocated to the midwest from the west coast, to live with my boyfriend and his two children from a previous marriage (ages 10 & 7, both girls). Now I am pregnant with my first child, & feel like I've been thrown into the fire, so to speak, as far as parenting experience goes.
For the most part, my boyfriend's kids are wonderful, well-behaved kids. They alternate weeks between our house and their mom's.
It's really been a wild experience, so far.
I find some things bothering me more now that I'm pregnant than they did before... my boyfriend & his brother were raised by a father who was very into martial arts, & taught them to fight from a young age. My boyfriend is raising his daughters that way, too, & they play fight a lot with each other & with him, kicking, punching, slapping... inevitable, someone always gets hurt, but he treats that as part of the learning experience. For me, the violence & all that entails makes me uncomfortable. While I respect being able to defend oneself, philosophically, I just have issues.
Any thoughts, suggestions?