Not only did my sister circumcise her son, she did it less than 24 hours after he was born, despite me pleading with her to consider waiting until he could have proper pain management. I am devastated. I feel like I should have done more but at the same time I didn't want to cause a huge problem in the family.
About a year before she became pregnant, I was pregnant with my son (I did not know he was a boy yet) and was doing all kinds of research on the foreskin. I was shocked at what I learned (as in "look at all of this information and why am I just learning about now at the age of 35 and my husband is too", kinda way.) I had a very emotional experience where I went form the thinking "I'm not circumcising because I think it's gross but to each his own" to "routine infant circumcision is wrong and if you knew the truth you would think so too." I wanted to share this information with any woman I felt it was appropriate to discuss it with. So, thinking it was best to have the heavy conversations with my sister before there was even the thought of her having a baby (so I could talk to her without there being anything to get all emotional and defensive about), I shared stuff with her. Over the course of several conversations she seemed to be interested in what she was learning and then at some point even said, "There is no way would ever do that to my child."
Then her future's husband's sister has a son and does not circumcise. I believe there was a lot of family teasing about that during the frequent family get togethers. Evidently, "circumcision is a K_____ tradition."
So she gets married, then pregnant, then at 20 weeks learns she is having a boy. I asked her if she had discussed circumcising with her DH. I got a snarly butt out message in return.
I new it was a lost cause to convince her not to do the procedure after she said that "it was her husbands decision because he has a penis." I gave up and then felt compelled to plead the case for waiting until the baby was old enough to have decent pain management and the procedure could be done by a trusted doctor (rather than it being the first interaction between the pediatrician and the baby and family.)
I had to let it go and I was never able to talk to my brother-in-law about it.
He took the baby on his first morning and had it done. My mom told me later that my sister was crying a lot that day over it.
I want to be supportive when my sister is ready to talk to me about he birth experience (if she ever is), and I know I will be. But right now I am really upset and a little mad about it. Thanks for letting me get this out.