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March 2011 Queer TTC - Looking For A Few BFP's!

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Here's we go ladies...! I am going to try and not screw this up! I've shortened the list just a bit, and deleted the 2008 & 2007 graduates in order to merge the list a bit. If anyone objects, and wants me to put them back, I'll gladly do it. For now, here's the current list. Please let me know if you need moved to another location.


Let the BFP's begin...




whistling.gifWaiting to O


* cnmk14

* Nosreves

* Smilingsara BFPChart2.gif

* Indigoscot & DP

* Maybeababy

* Gellybeangrl BFPChart2.gif

* CrystalPerez


fingersx.gifWaiting to Know... Braving the 2WW


* Go_Vegan

* Qmama42

* Cananny

* Graceie




baby.gifWorking on IVF

* MaxK



af.gif  Waiting for AF  

* Kgulbransen    BFPChart2.gif



om.gifTaking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be Ready 

* Happycalm

* IrishBabies

* AmandaMom BFPChart2.gif


* FiveGrandBaby

* RainbowValleyMama

* Glados


* SwtRainbowBrite

* Prettyisa  BFPChart2.gif (May 2011)
* DesertSunset (August 2011)

* KSDoulaMama (May/June 2011)

* KellySF

* Lisedea  BFPChart2.gif

* Serepartera (February 2011)

* Miss Scarlett BFPChart2.gif
* MrsPP
* Milletpuff
* Chiquitayy BFPChart2.gif chart1.gif
* Carmen358 BFPChart2.gif
* onemommyonemama (April 2011)

* Lyndzies

2011 Graduates!


March   * Seraf BFPChart2.gif   broc1.gif* 2ezforyou broc1.gif *Mommy55 broc1.gif * Mami2mami broc1.gif

February * Escher12  BFPChart2.gif  joy.gif  *SharriKitColorado  BFPChart2.gif joy.gif * DAWNMP1  joy.gif

January    * Starling&diesel joy.gif



2010 Graduates!

November * Mizyellow 7/25/11 * AmyPDX 7/30/11 * AmandaHope 8/3/11 * Cejae 7/4/11

September * Solejean 5/19/11 * Painefaria 6/5/11

August * Bttrflygypsy 4/10/11 * 2happymamas 4/15/11 * LibraryLady 4/15/11

July * Beastie 3/21/11 * Gumshoegirl007 4/2/11 * Wehrli 4/1/11

June * Coco & DP 2/14/11

May * Burg 2/4/11 * Korey 2/1/11

April * Calimeow * Mtnlisa * Kimlyn32

February * Mistral * Quasar & smartycat * Monarchgrrl * Erthe_mama & DP

January * Lyndzies * FtMpapa

2009 Graduates!

December* Osker * Megan sacha * Mkpgoddess

October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl

September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious

August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'

July * Hbog

May * Indigoscot's dp

April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen

March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4

February * Deny_zoo29

January * Jodybird511

Edited by 2ezforyou - 3/30/11 at 8:13pm
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so I'm a rather impatient girl right now, waiting for AF seems to be taking forever so I can get ready to start testing to try next month. I had some mid-cycle bleeding again this month and went to the OBGYN today to have it checked out. She did a pelvic and then an ultra sound and found a cyst that is 22mm on my left ovary. My lining is 12.5 mm and she said the reason I'm bleeding is because I'm ovulating. Its day 24 for me, I thought I had a positive opk on day 17. I've had no temp jump (infact my chart is all kinds of crazy right now). My mom also told me that she had mid cycle bleeding when she was younger (would have been nice to know) and thats how she knew she was pregnant. 


So I have some questions. I took a "First Response" OPK tonight and it for sure has a faint pink line (not ovulating). Does anyone know if the cycst is still on your ovary, when it comes off and you actually ovulate (how many days after about)? She said the blood means that I'm having a really good ovulation. I'm a bit confused. I'm going to keep testing, but this seems so late in my cycle to actually ovulate. OY!

post #3 of 502

hope you get it straitened out before your first insem sara

afm bought the test I will be poas in the am

post #4 of 502
Thread Starter 
Hey Sara - I can't speak to the EXACT specifics, but last month, I KNEW I was ovulating and was at my RE's office the day it happened. They told me I had 2 cysts on cd17, and no follies. So when I was there on cd24 for my injectibles class, I asked for an u/s. This time, I was told I had 3 cysts and 1 follie. (My "knowing" was based on a positive OPK and CM.) I had a progesterone test done 2 days later, and results came back at a 5. It's not terribly high, but anything over a 3 (I think) is considered O, according to my RE. My point is that even with a cysts or multiple, some sort of O can take place...even at cd24. Because of the multiple cysts, I decided not to insem last month. I didn't want to waste the one last vial we had in storage. Not sure if I helped any, but I had a somewhat similar experience. I never seemed to be amazed at what our bodies can do.
post #5 of 502
Ummm....not sure if I should post a separate thread just to introduce myself or just get things rolling here. Opting for the latter---My partner and I are just about to embark on attempt #3. #1 and #2 were late last fall with a known donor. His counts were low, we ran out and had moved across the country since he had made his "deposits". So we had to start over. We found an anonymous donor we like and are back on track.

I had a BFN for attempt #1 and a chemical pregnancy for #2. Wow was that a fun 3 days when we thought we were pregnant (or were but it didn't stick).

I am due to ovulate any day now, probably 3/2 or 3/3. We are using physician assisted iui with just one insemination per cycle.

Oh, and a bit more about us. We live in Oregon. I am an acupuncturist and my partner is in grad school studying nutrition. I'm carrying because she has no desire to, I do and she's 6 years older than I am anyway.

Have been lurking on other forums on Mothering for a while but only stumbled here recently. Can I join the party?
post #6 of 502
Sara~ I can't help you with your problem, but I'm sure that the wise women around here will give you great advice. I'm keeping everything crossed for you though.

Happy~ WELCOME!!!! You've certainly come to the right place and please do hang out with us! Congrats on your insem~ I look forward to your journey!

2ez~ Hello!!!!! xo
post #7 of 502

Ok! So I'm brand new (this is my very first post though I've been lurking for awhile now)


I'm not sure if I should make another thread to introduce myself, but these current month threads seem to be the meeting room for everyone so I thought I'd start here, besides I like reading about everyone else too. =) 


I'm 27 and my partner is 35. Although age wise I should be the logical choice for trying to get pregnant, I have a medical condition that would make things a little more complicated for me so, she volunteered to be the one to get pregnant. 


A little history on her, she had twins at the age of 23 while she was in a relationship with a guy. Two years after that she got pregnant again but had a miscarriage, the doctor suspected that pregnancy was possible twins as well. She is a fraternal twin, as are her kids, so its likely that she either hyper ovulates or maybe it was just a coincidence that a twin almost had two sets of twins? 


Why all the background information on the history of twins? Because to be honest, if she does naturally hyper-ovulate, I'm worried about her having twins again. They have a higher chance of miscarriage and I rather not put her through that again, especially at the age of 35 after she already went through this already 10 years ago.


I'm of course being paranoid and getting ahead of myself, we haven't even decided how we are going to try inseminating but I through talking to others first would help. I have several concerns, first being age. Her kids were a result of the first time she had unprotected sex, I doubt we'll get that lucky with artificial insemination 12 years later, although I've heard that its easier for women to get pregnant in their 30s if they already have had children before. No idea if theres any evidence to support that.

post #8 of 502
Good morning everyone,

2ez, thanks for the shiny new thread! Looks good.

HappyClam and Gados welcome to the board. It seems like here is a fine place to post (that's what I did anyway) because if you post on the main board someone says, why don't you come join us? Glados, I like your stat about if being easier in your 30s if you've been pregnant before, since I'm now in my 30s...

Escher, new job is home health. 14 hour shifts, 3 days a week. The 3 days I don't have the kids. Super nice people, keep asking about my husband.

Graceie, how was your test??

AFM, I woke up and took my temp after a week of no temping. It's only cd 13, so it's not like it would have been anything weird. Sara asked if I was going to test. I said, I don't have any tests. She said I do.... I have a box with a "fertility test," I totally would have tested if I'd had a test, even tho that wasn't the plan.
post #9 of 502
thanks for the shiny new thread 2ez. smile.gif nothing much to report here on the ttc side - today is cd8, tomorrow the monitor will begin pestering us for urine covered sticks. dp is still waiting for bloodwork to come back from our appt on friday and her sis is on thursday. that about covers it i think.

our BIG exciting NEWS though is that dp's uk visa for our civil partnership was APPROVED yesterday! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif her passport (with it's official visa sticker) and packet of supporting documents just arrived via ups and now we can mail the paperwork to the registrar's office. we are SO flippin' excited. smile.gif

welcome to glados and happycalm. i hope you have very short stays on this thread and graduate to q&p soon! smile.gif the ladies on here are very knowledgeable and supportive.

since there are so many newbies, a quick bio on me: my dp and i have 2 sons - b and f. i carried b, she carried f and she will carry our next baby too. our sons have the same donor and we have 2 tries left with him before we'll move onto our backup donor. we have been together almost 8 years. <3

post #10 of 502
Indigo: Sara said you guys are trying early too?! When do you guys plan to start trying? I'm impatient and figure if the folks are gonna disown me, they might as well three months in advance and I can try for a 2011 baby! Are your partner and I still going to be ttc together?!
post #11 of 502

Well I wasn't sure where I had read that women had an easier time getting pregnant in their 30s if they had children already in their 20s, but I hope its tru because my partner and I probably won't be ready to start until she's actually closer to 36. My main concern is the combination of age, possible hyper ovulation (having twins again is a big possibility) andthe fact that she's had a miscarriage before. We have completely opposite personalities, she's not worried about a thing, which is great!


I worry about everything, I feel like she's taking a bit of a risk. If I wasn't taking Methotraxate for my condition, I would definitely be the one TTC.

post #12 of 502
Glades welcome 36 is nothing and lots of women miscarry then go onto have heAlthy bAbes it's three miscagares that's. Concern slay about typos in bed with the babe. On the iPad dme self correct

Afm bfn greensad.gif 8 or 9 dpo early right
post #13 of 502
Thread Starter 

Welcome.gifHappy and Glados! Let me know if you'd like to be moved into one of the categories listed on the first post.


Indigo - Shall I move to you/DP to the "Waiting To O" section?


Graceie - Waaaaaay to early for a BFP. Hang in there. There's a spelling button above on the tool bar if the iPad auto correct gets on your nerves too much. thumb.gif


AFM - I am a mid 30's who is NOT finding it easy to get preg. irked.gif Every month it seems to be one thing after another. RE said "oh it's soooo much easier in your 20's." Thanks doc. Anyway, I just told DP this morning that if these injectibles do not work, then I wonder if anything will EVER work. It seems we're doing so much more this month to try and make it all work, that all I can do is cross my fingers and pray it does. Here's my current rundown - morning: take pills: pre-nat, evening primrose, and bromelain, eat pineapple, drink green tea, then in early afternoon: drink pineapple juice, and have a ton of water throughout the day, while limiting the dairy, evening: more pineapple and eat somewhat healthy dinner and inject just before bedtime. Sheesh! My taste buds are gone, and I really hate drinking pineapple juice and so much water. But....hopefully it works! And all that pineapple and bromelain had better make my uterus thick! LOL. I will go in for my u/s on Thurs to check things out.

post #14 of 502
2ez: thanks for your help and good luck Thursday!

What does everyone think about which OPK is the least sensitive one? We were using the Answer Daily opks and I don't know how well they were working for me, as I never got a SUPER dark test line. So I sprang for the First Response tests and am now second guessing not buying the smilie opks (clear blue). My doc said I'm ovulating now, but last night and this morning were both neg. Any input would be much appreciated! Thanks!
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Glados and Clam~ Welcome!!! I've never heard of hyper-ovulation and such a history of twins, but it totally sounds possible. I do know it's easier to get pregnant in your 20s, but it's far from impossible later on (as my 'elderly maternal' butt will prove!) Hope your journey is short and successful!

Indigo~ YAY for your CP visa!! I'm glad they didn't hassle you this time around and that everything happened as it should. And double yay for finally getting to your conception cycle!!! Everything crossed for you.

2ez~ A big hug for you. I'm sorry it's been so tough. I hope you are able to stick with it and not give up. I'm sure you'll succeed xoxo

Graceie~ Way too early to mean anything. I mean, realistically the baby'd only be implanting now so it'll be a few days before you could know anything.

Sara~ When are you going to try again? You probably said before but I've forgotten. Sorry....

AFM~ SO SLEEPY!!!! Had a doc's appointment today. All's well. I lost 4 pounds, but apparently had it to lose since no one was worried. Had our last ultrasound and actually got to see Miss Thing punch me in the bladder. Nice. She's apparently big for her age~ 51/2 lbs with the head size of a baby of 36 weeks (I'm 33). So this should be fun.
post #16 of 502

I have been using the clear blue easy smileys for 8 months and I really like them. I have O'd every month though (as far as I know) and am very regular. I like the clear yes or no, no futzing with lines.

post #17 of 502
Indigo whoo hoo!!!! on the visa.

Thanks ladies today would be the absolute earliest and odds are low lots of hope
post #18 of 502

Hey, Glados--glad I'm not the only newbie.

Indigo--what great news about the visa!  How many vials per cycle are you using?  We decided to just buy 3 vials and use only one per month so we have 3 tries with this donor.  We'll try to get more of this donor but move on to another if we need to.

2ez--it's just not as easy as we want it to be, right?  I feel for you with all the pineapple.  Good luck with the ultrasound.  I guess one question I have for you is how are you keeping your enthusiasm up?  I feel like my excitment about ttc is waning.  And I've only had two unsuccessful cycles!  Too early to be jaded, right?  

Graceie--crossing my fingers for you!  


LibraryLady--Thanks for the welcome.

Smilingsara--I've always used the Clearblue digital OPK (the smileys like Go_vegan uses) because I just can't handle the "look for the darkest line".  I never felt like I had a test line that was darker.  But the digital definitely picks up on my surge.  


AFM (just figured out what that meant, I kept looking for someone named AFM!)--I'm waiting to ovulate (can you add me, 2ez?).  I'll probably get a smiley tomorrow or the next day.  Will report back once I'm in the 2ww.  I've gotten a bit paranoid about missing my smiley.  I can't always hold my pee for as long as I'd like and I seem to only have one pee when the smiley shows up.  So if I miss it, I might just miss the whole cycle.  Yesterday, I totally flaked and forgot to test until it was too late (too bad you can't use it once it lands in the toilet).  My cm was such that I didn't think it would be positive anyway but I got worried and called the advice nurse at my RE's office.  She said just to test again later in the day because the surge should be present for 12 hours.  Do any of you find that to be true?  I have only gotten 1 smiley per month.  But I hate the OPKs that are not digital.  Any advice?


Oh, and one more thing.  I absolutely LOVE that happycalm gets read or typoed as happyclam.  I think I might even like happyclam better.  This might spur an online identity crisis.  :) 


post #19 of 502

Good afternoon ladies! Just taking a quick break from my paper (which has been killing me!) to check in. 


Library - you said you hoped it was on a good topic, it is! But it is still killing me. It's for my group counseling class and the purpose of the paper is to come up with a group proposal for our fictional agency - my proposal is a support group for lesbians ttc! It's great and I am enjoying writing it but it's long and time consuming - but I'm in grad school so what do I expect, right? winky.gif I'm sorry you're so sleepy today! And holy cow - big baby! I bet you just can't wait to meet her - not long now!!!


Happy and GladosWelcome.gifYou're in the right place! And Glados - I'm glad you brought up the hyper ovulation - it is something that has been on my mind lately too. My great-grandmother gave birth to triplets and twins (they were in the paper all the time!), as well as several other single children. My grandmother is one of the triplets. She did not have multiples but some of her siblings did. My mother did not have multiples either but she didn't have trouble conceiving AT ALL (my little brother is an "oops" baby). I am dying to know if I carry the gene too! Sometimes I see two distinct temp shifts on my chart which lead me to believe I ovulated twice. I don't know. It's all very interesting! 


2ez - thank you for the lovely new thread! You can actually remove the March 2011 from next to my name as we will not be trying this month - thank you! My fingers are crossed for a great u/s on Thursday!!!


Indigo - Hooray for the visa being approved! Great news!!!


And...Vegan, SwtRainbow, Mami, NAMW, Qmama, Graceie, AmandaMom, AmandaHope, seraf, Sara, RainbowValley, Isa, KSdoula, Max, Carmen, gelly, lisedea - HI!!!! I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their day!!!!


AFM - So a few months ago I downloaded a countdown app for my iPhone. I woke up this morning to a little message that said "It's Baby Making Month!" - no, iPhone, it's not. Awww. I actually thought it was kind of funny lol.gif I don't want to jinx anything but I think we might be getting closer....I'll know more in a few days. Ok, back to work!

post #20 of 502

Thank you for all the warm welcomes everyone. =)


Mrs PP (hilarious username btw) I don't think my partner was even aware there was such a  thing as hyper ovulation genes. But early in our relationship when she mentioned being a fraternal twin, and having fraternal kids herself (and almost has a second pair!) I just had to do some research on my own. I think its quite possibly genetic for her. I'm hoping it might work in our favor and make it easier for us now.

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