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Welcome, happycalm! An acupuncturist! Very cool. I happen to be heading to an appointment this afternoon :)
 

And welcome to Glados, too! 35 is a great age to get pregnant! I had DD when I was 39 and had no problem getting pregnant. I don't think age alone is a good predictor of fertility these days. And unless a specific condition is known to cause a m/c (or the m/c caused damage) then it should have no bearing on future pregnancies smile.gif

 

Congrat, indigo! I can imagine how happy you both are!! Now you are officially ready for baby #3 thumb.gif


 

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Afm bfn greensad.gif 8 or 9 dpo early right


Way too early!! Wait a couple of days!

 



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2ez: thanks for your help and good luck Thursday!

What does everyone think about which OPK is the least sensitive one? We were using the Answer Daily opks and I don't know how well they were working for me, as I never got a SUPER dark test line. So I sprang for the First Response tests and am now second guessing not buying the smilie opks (clear blue). My doc said I'm ovulating now, but last night and this morning were both neg. Any input would be much appreciated! Thanks!


I always just used internet cheapies and for a few months I never got a positive (but I did get pregnant 2 of those times so was obviously o'ing). You might already be doing this but I ended up testing twice a day and I eventually was able to get very definitive positives - I tested at 11am and 2pm (ish). I was just testing first thing in the morning. So maybe mix up the time you test and try a couple of times a day.

 

 

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AFM~ SO SLEEPY!!!! Had a doc's appointment today. All's well. I lost 4 pounds, but apparently had it to lose since no one was worried. Had our last ultrasound and actually got to see Miss Thing punch me in the bladder. Nice. She's apparently big for her age~ 51/2 lbs with the head size of a baby of 36 weeks (I'm 33). So this should be fun.


Glad to hear everything is going well! Don't worry about size. DD was 9lb7oz and came out just fine!

 

Afm: cd 32 which would normally be the end of my cycle. I'm feeling more confident that I o'd on cd25 as my cm dried up after having tons for 3 days. Hoping af shows up again in 5ish days! I'm off to acupuncture again this afternoon. I'm soooo looking forward to it. DD slept even worse last night than usual due to a new tooth coming in so I welcome the hour rest!

 

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2ez - Sue and I recently saw "The Kids Are All Right", though Sue didn't want to watch it at first. It was disturbing that one of the mothers slept with the donor, but like I said before, that seems to be a theme in mainstream films with lesbian characters. rolleyes.gif We did choose a WTBK donor in case our child ever wants to know more about his/her genetic background, but like seraf, we're not too worried about him/her spending a lot of time with the donor because we live so far away. Glad to hear the injectibles aren't giving you too much of a hard time. Are you paying out of pocket for them? I've heard it costs thousands of dollars.

Library - I also watched part of the Oscars. I was so happy Natalie Portman won best Actress. She was amazing in Black Swan. What a movie.

qmama - So sorry about AF. hug.gif Hang in there.

Brite - I would maybe do a test shipment of his swimmers and check them out under a microscope to see how they hold up. We're actually thinking about trying the same thing with a close friend who lives in Arizona... if this cycle doesn't work, that is.

maybeababy - greet.gif So glad you found us. This is a great place to get advice, information, and support.

smiling - I wish I had answers for you, but I'm confused about whether you're talking about a cyst, a follicle, or a corpus luteum. Anyway, here's hoping you have clear signs on your chart to show when you ovulated! thumb.gif As for the OPK's, I never get a super-dark line either, no matter what test I use. I know it's positive when the test line gets as dark as the control, but it never gets darker.

Glados - Fraternal twins (more than one egg) can be hereditary, so that may explain things. If you're very concerned about twins and your partner's health and well being, you can always consider selective reduction. That would be a very hard decision to make, though. I've also heard it's easier to get pregnant in your 30's or even 40's if you've had children before. I hope you have beginners luck! shamrocksmile.gif

Happyclam smile.gif - Welcome! Fingers crossed for you the third time's the charm! fingersx.gif

Indigo - Congrats on getting that visa taken care of! joy.gif

Carmen - I hope you and DD are able to get some rest tonight!

AFM, 9DPO and nothing to report. Still no symptoms. I could not feel less pregnant.
post #23 of 502

Whew!  Trying to catch up on everyone's news after being away for about a week and a half.  Congrats to everyone with good news and hugs to everyone with not so good news (it will happen!).

 

AFM, I spent the last 10 days in Phoenix helping my sister with her newborn.  I think I posted here before I left that I hoped it wouldn't be hard for me--and it wasn't.  As soon as I held my niece, I just felt happy--and even more convinced that I'm doing the right thing by TTC.  She's a beauty!

 

I have about a week and a half left in this cycle that I've been sitting out...and then we'll start up again with a couple of IUIs next cycle, with Clomid/ultrasounds/trigger.  I'm in the process of getting my medical records from Kaiser (annoying) in order to give them to the at-home midwifery service we're going to use.  I'm super excited about doing at least one at-home IUI and then one in my doctor's office.

 

Hi to everyone; I'm glad to be back!

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Glad things went well Kelly good luck !

Amanda your no symptoms is probley better then my drifting me crazy possibly not real but hopefully real symptoms I don't think it's a bad sign fingers crossed when are you testing ?
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Hey ladies...... Does anyone use kaiser for their health insurance? If so, do they charge to store your swimmers for you? How much does it cost? How soon after the first consultation can you start? We have our first consultation next week and I am due to "o" a week later. I wonder if that will be too quick. I hope not..... I am sooooo ready to get this thing started..... Lots of baby dust to everyone! Welcome to everyone who has been lurking and has decided to chime in!

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Hey ladies...... Does anyone use kaiser for their health insurance? If so, do they charge to store your swimmers for you? How much does it cost? How soon after the first consultation can you start? We have our first consultation next week and I am due to "o" a week later. I wonder if that will be too quick. I hope not..... I am sooooo ready to get this thing started..... Lots of baby dust to everyone! Welcome to everyone who has been lurking and has decided to chime in!


I've been seeing the REs at Kaiser San Francisco for the past year and I've never been charged for having our sperm stored there.  Granted, it's never been there for more than a month or two, but they never said anything about charging for storage and its never been on one of my bills.

 

I think your question about how soon you can get started after your consultation just depends on your medical history.  Are you planning to do in-office IUIs?  Have you already had fertility testing?  I had to get a bunch of testing done when I first started with Kaiser, but it all went quickly because it was just blood tests.  The RE practice (in SF, at least) is used to moving quickly so as long as you don't have any major problems you might be able to get an ultrasound (if needed) and then be ready for your IUI(s).  Good luck!

 

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CNM  I hope they can start right away !

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My partner was able to start with her first O following our appointment with Kaiser. I think there were about 2 weeks in there? But there were tests and stuff to be done.

 

Now we're just waaaaaiting for a BFP. The Kaiser folks said to check 16 days after the IUI, so we can check 3/15.

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Library: I'm trying next month. I was going to be a good girl and patiently wait until June but I have come to the end of being patient and I'm trying in March (if AF ever comes).

 

Go_Vegan: Thanks. I think we have two lucky smilie ones left from Max that I'm going to use next month to double check my First Response tests. 

 

HappyCalm: Hi orngbiggrin.gif, and welcome welcome welcome! I am feeling a bit more calm about finding the darker line of these new tests, but maybe I'm making stuff up. If I feel uncertain next month, I'll go buy some smilie tests to double check my line spotting abilities. 

 

MrsP: Hi! Best of luck with your paper. At least its a topic near and dear to your heart and sounds like good fun to write! 

 

Carmen: I do think I'll start trying two times a day. I tried tonight and think I got a positive (I'm waiting for the camera to charge to take a picture of it to show to sara when she gets home). My mucus is really good tonight (best its been in two months). Hopefully trying twice a day will get me the answers I need. How was your hour of relaxing and acupuncture?! Fingers crossed for AF for you! 

 

Amanda: Its a cyst (according to the ultra-sound print out the doc gave me a copy of). Its 22mm. That's all she said, nothing about a follicle or corpus luteum (I dunno what the last one is). Tonight I think my line is just as dark as the control, but I could be looking too hard at it. Who knows?! I hope you start feeling pregnant soon soon soon! 

 

Kelly: Seeing your niece sounds like an amazing wait to make the month go by quickly! Hope you get to see her again soon and there's a play mate coming for her in the near future! 

 

Hello  Glados!  Welcome! wave.gif

 

MayBeaBaby: Welcome to MDC! biggrinbounce.gif

 

Thanks for all of the input about OPKS girls! You all rock!

 

AFM: sitting, twiddling my thumbs, waiting for AF. Trying to get my testing right and that's about all.

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Welcome to all the new folks...HappyCalm, Glados, Maybeababy...I hope that your stay is short and sweet!!!! hola.gif

 

Indigo~ Yah for the Passport! Glad that worked out for you and DP!!!

 

2EZ~ are you on injectibles? I think that you said that you were. Oh and can you add me to waiting for AF!!!! eeeeeK...we are back!!

 

Gracie~ cd9 is way early...your BFP is just around the corner.

 

Kelly~ Welcome back!

 

MrsPP~ Yeah for almost being done with your paper. Sorry this isn't baby making month, but it will be here soon!!!!

 

AmandaMom~ Cd9 is still very early in the game...I have my fingers crossed for you and I'm sending you baby vibes!!!

 

AFM~ Well, I finally, finally, finally got in to see the RE. My appointment was 3hrs long. She is sooooo great! My DW wasn't able to go tot he appointment with me, so the RE let me put her on speaker phone. I don't know if you all remember that a few weeks ago I had a mini-meltdown because I thought that I would have to sit out March because I couldn't get the insurance company, and my OBGYN to move fast enought to get my records to the RE so that they could schedule me. Well, everything worked out. I went in today..CD28 and when I woke up this morning I was feeling a bit crampy so I know that I would be starting here SOON. Part of my 3 hour appointment was a full physical...with vaginal ultrasound. When she looked at my uterus she could see that my lining had already began to disentigrate, oh and my lining was a 10.4 (which I think is good)...and AF is here tonight! Yeah! 

 

She also told me that she does not think that I have PCOS...it would not be a diagnosis that she would have made. So, she thinks that my getting knocked up shouldn't be too hard. She did warn me about the "advances maternal age", so she decided to start me off with injectables...since I have already had tried clomid and femara. Anyway...I am on follistem 150 units for 7 days...starting with CD3 to CD9. I think that I will go in for my u/s on CD9..she will adjust the dosage and when the follies are readywe will trigger and inseme. The only thing that I had a little issue about was that she doesn't really think doing 2 insems a cycle increases our chances. If we really want to do two insems then she will. I am just so excited that I got in and that we will be able to get started this cycle. We will do one IUI this cycle and then take it from there.

 

Oh...and she told me to hang up my BBT thermometer...that I didn't need to track my cycle anymore. I told her thanks but I like to know what is going on. I have to be my own advocate. She seemed to respect that.


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gelly that sound good to me ! and thanks yes I know early  the box says test 6 days before your peiords late that would be 9po but I might be 8 dpo also that box could be wrong and even if its right its onley 60 % acurete at that point anyways GOOD LUCK on the ingecables hope its smoth sailing for you

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Ok ladies, I *think* I now have everyone in the correct place. I made the requested changes. If you're still not listed corrected, please let me know. (And thanks for Seraf for giving me the crash course in thread keeping 101.)

 

SmilingSara - I've used Answer for months and I hate them...with a passion. Yes, for some stupid reason, I always find myself buying more. I use the CBE digital monitor, which I also hate, but my cycles are so whacked that I use sometimes 3 opk per day each cycle. I don't fully trust the digital or the Answer, and for as long as I sometimes have to test, it doesn't make much financial sense for me to constantly use the FRER tests. I'd be bankrupt by now. So, I keep the Answers on hand since they come in a larger quantity.

 

Indigo - joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifHot diggity damn for the Visa!

 

AmandaMom - My insurance doesn't cover much so we're paying mostly out of pocket. They will cover 2 u/s per month, but I average 6 per month. Tragic, I know. The injctibles themselves only cost me $500 this month because the RE's office gave us a free 300 cartridge. They required us to take an injectibles class, which cost $100, but we saved a bit with the free sample. Plus, the class also gave us the free Follistim pen and needles. It wasn't too bad this month. Next month I am looking at approx $700 just in meds. Luckily, I am on a low dosage of the Follistim, so I should have a bit leftover from this month. The meds, along with the u/s, Ovidrel, and blood work costs will be approx. $1400 next month. And we're on our last vial of sperm so add another $700 for that too. Ugh! I hope DS wasn't planning on college. Ha! Kidding of course. Follistim was one of the more expensive meds I could choose, but it's probably the easiest of the 4 I could have chosen from. Bravelle was the cheapest, but I didn't want to have to mix all the meds and worry about counting, etc. Gonal F was a bit cheaper too, but I didn't like the feel of the pen. I am left handed and it was more for a righty. Stupid, I know, but it was only a difference of $10 I think. Follistim just seemed to work best for me.

 

Gelly - Wow, you're on 150 of the Follistim? I am on just under 75. Apparently, my AHM tests came back super duper high, which is good, but my doc gave me a low dose to make sure I don't overproduce and be the next Octomom - lesbo style. ROTFLMAO.gifI am only doing 5 days for now, cd3-7. When I go in on Thursday, they'll decide if I need more, less, no more, etc. What days are you being monitored? I had an u/s and blood work on cd2, then will again do the same for cd8, and who knows after that. Great news on the PCOS! I've been diagnosed, undiagnosed, diagnosed again, undiagnosed again, and just last week - diagnosed. I have 1 or 2 of the characteristic PCOS traits - way high ovarian reserve (AHM test can determine this) and tend to have the 'string of pearls' on my right ovary, which hasn't produced a viable follie in 2 years. All my other tests are fine. Hooray for an injectible buddy!!!

 

Happy - It's tough, I'll tell you. February marked 2 full years that we've been trying. It's definitely had it's ups and downs to say the least. At first I had all these "rules" about TTC. The sperm donor has to have this or that, then I could only try on certain months due to my work schedule, etc. Now....if it swims and can fertilize an egg, I'll take it. If I have to get up and do an IUI at 3:30 am, done. Whatever.It.Takes. It is hard and there have been times I've wanted to give up, but I just have something inside of me that won't let me. One of the best things has been this board for me. The women on here are truly amazing. You can't believe the amount of support you'll receive. We're all going through the same thing together. Plus, the amount of information I've learned on here has provided me with tools in this journey. I never knew pineapple could possibly help thicken my uterine lining or that evening primrose oil increases CM. It's the little things you learn that make you want to keep going. I've also met some wonderful women that I now call friends. winky.gif Hang in there. You and your DP will be excellent mommies!

 

Ok, novel over. I am off to research hot presses and screen printing. DP has decided we should go into the t-shirt printing business. Translation: I'll be designing, printing and shipping t-shirts all by myself. dizzy.gifShe's the one who comes up with these ideas, and I end up being the one implementing them. Good grief!

 

 

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AFM, 9DPO and nothing to report. Still no symptoms. I could not feel less pregnant.
 


When are you testing?!

 

 

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Whew!  Trying to catch up on everyone's news after being away for about a week and a half.  Congrats to everyone with good news and hugs to everyone with not so good news (it will happen!).

 

AFM, I spent the last 10 days in Phoenix helping my sister with her newborn.  I think I posted here before I left that I hoped it wouldn't be hard for me--and it wasn't.  As soon as I held my niece, I just felt happy--and even more convinced that I'm doing the right thing by TTC.  She's a beauty!

 

I have about a week and a half left in this cycle that I've been sitting out...and then we'll start up again with a couple of IUIs next cycle, with Clomid/ultrasounds/trigger.  I'm in the process of getting my medical records from Kaiser (annoying) in order to give them to the at-home midwifery service we're going to use.  I'm super excited about doing at least one at-home IUI and then one in my doctor's office.

 

Hi to everyone; I'm glad to be back!


Welcome back! Spending time with a newborn must have been delightful. That's awesome you were able to experience that and I bet it helped your sister a lot.

 

 

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Carmen: I do think I'll start trying two times a day. I tried tonight and think I got a positive (I'm waiting for the camera to charge to take a picture of it to show to sara when she gets home). My mucus is really good tonight (best its been in two months). Hopefully trying twice a day will get me the answers I need. How was your hour of relaxing and acupuncture?! Fingers crossed for AF for you! 

 

AFM: sitting, twiddling my thumbs, waiting for AF. Trying to get my testing right and that's about all.



One more thing...when I was actually getting positives - it was very easy to tell it was positive - no straining or crossing your eyes to see it lol Good luck!

 

Afm: Acupuncture was awesome today. I never get that much time to myself these days! It's amazing how different my thoughts are during treatments this time around. I was so focused on getting ready for a baby that my thoughts were all about that. This time around my thoughts are all about what needs to be done and what's up with DD, etc. I also got some chinese herbs today and will start them on cd1.

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Glados, Happy, Maybe--Welcome to you!  I'm glad you joined us and may your stay be short and sweet!Welcome.gif

 

Maybe-Good to see you here--I'm keeping everything crossed for your dp!

 

Happy--I know what you mean in terms of waning enthusiasm.  It is really hard to stay excited after a failed IUI...but you now have a wonderful community of supporters cheering you on!

 

2ez--can you move me to waiting to O? And, it really sounds like you're taking care of yourself and getting your body ready.  Everything crossed for your upcoming u/s.

 

Indigo--congrats on the visa stuff! whew, what a relief!

 

Graceie--you're definitely on the early side, so I say your negative doesn't mean anything yetfingersx.gif

 

Sara--I used First Response the first time around with my dd.  I would also freak myself about when then lines were really close in intensity.  This time I have used the smiley faces and am not planning to go back to the lines.  I don't want to deal with the ambiguity and risk missing ovulation.

 

Thanks so much for the support yesterday.  This failed cycle hit me pretty hard.  I woke up in a funk this morning and later nearly jumped over the counter at the pharmacy when they told me they didn't have my clomid ready and could I wait for 15 more minutes while they filled it even though my doctor called the scrip in 24 hours prior. I pulled myself together though and feel better. We only have two donor vials left and it's putting me a little on edge.  I just want this to happen.

 

 

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Hi everyone, I am new to this site and I am so glad i found it! My DP and I have been together for 3 years now and started trying to concieve last month. Our friend and donor was only able to donate one time, the day after I had my LH surge, so I thought that would be the day I ovulated and we were really hopeful but turns out I am not pregnant and i should ovulate the 10th if my cycle is the same as last month but it has varied 2 days longer before. I am aiming to do inseminations on the 7, 9, and 11th since I hear that it is best to do the insemination early rather than late since the sperm can live up to 5 days. I am nervous that our donor wont be able to make it in time or something this time. I was hoping you guys might have some advice for us if you have been in this situation, how long did it take to concieve?

 

Also, does anyone on here have endometriosis? I am not sure if i do but it runs in my family and I am scared that I have it to, I am going to the doctor next Tuesday so I guess we'll see.

 

Thanks for any advice!

 

Also, what does TCC and BFP stand for?

post #36 of 502

trying to concive and big fat postive    WELCOME ! GOODLUCK ! 

 

off to bed with me another test in the am 

 

 

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OHHH! thanks!! good luck to you too!!

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smilingsara i think it was you who asked if we would be trying this month?  we will be IF certain things fall into place.  those are:

 

1.  dp's tsh is within range.

2.  dp does not have any polyps or fibroids at her sis tomorrow

3.  our re is ok with us having the insem before we fly to scotland since our tww will be up before we are back in the states

 

#3 is the one i'm worried about.  we won't be able to get betas done or tsh testing done and pregnant women have to take more synthroid - last time her tsh went up to 8 right after her bfp and her dosage had to be increased right away.

 

dp just called our re's nurse this morning to see where her bloodwork results are from friday.  she needs to start metformin asap if we are going to try this month.

 

her march cycle should start on march 25th.  we fly to scotland on april 9th. 

 

it won't be the end of the world if we can't try in march.  may will be here soon enough.  :)

 

dp poas this morning for the monitor - low fertility and the estrogen line was as dark as it could be, lol. 

 

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Carmen~ Thanks for the encouraging words. I'm less concerned about the baby coming out on her own than her being ALLOWED to come out on her own. BUT I have to remember we went to the midwives for a reason and they're not going to force us to do anything. I just have to be patient, which is getting harder ;)

 

AMom~  No symptoms is good!!  I had nothing the whole 2ww of my success cycle until I had the bit of cramping and the crazy cm. But before that, I was even getting frustrated with the lack of feeling anything. I'm hoping that no news is good news for you too!!  Black Swan was really good, even though it scared the crap out of me!! I don't want to spoiler, but there were several places that I screamed like a horror movie and had to hide my eyes. Still, it was quite something!!

 

Kelly~ I'm glad your time with your sister and neice was good for you. I'll bet she's just precious and that your sister enjoyed the visit as much as you did.

 

Sara~ Yay!!!  I agree. If they're going to throw a fit in June, let 'em throw it now and maybe you can be getting what you want as well as getting the crap. Everything's crossed for you. Can't wait for your updates!!

 

2ez~  Tshirts!  That does sound cool. A friend of ours does that kind of stuff with really neat results.  I've though about opening a cafe press account and making a few tshirts for teachers which I know would sell well.   One of them is based on a quote from an actual parent in a conference who turned to the counsellor and said 'Who is Ed and why is he so Special?'  I've always thought it would be a million seller.

 

Crystal~ Welcome!!!  TTC is trying to conceive  BFP is a big fat positive on a pregnancy test. There are about a bajillion acronyms on boards like these, so brace yourself!!!

 

Qmama~ I'm sorry you're still feeling so down. It's the most cruel injustice in the world that a failure cycle ends in a grody period and lots of pms and hormones. Thanks, universe!  Big hugs and don't give up!!

 

 

AFM~ Not a great start to the day with the mean girls around here. I wish I were able to take off starting next week and just stay home.

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Figures crossed everything lines up indigo

Library when do you get to go on leave ? Most of my birth class ended in c/s. All exept two of the moms who had home births babes where over 9 pounds really showing size means nothing when it comes to the kinda thing
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