Bajingo in the Spring-O! TTC#1 in Our 30s - March - Page 2

[LivingSky]

Rambuzo: LOL! That's hilarious! Gavin was on our list until yesterday when we finally crossed it off (didn't like it quite as much as the other two). Logan is pretty much my favorite boy name ever, but because both DH and I are big comic book fans (as are most of our friends) we can't use Logan or everyone will think we named our baby after Wolverine from X-Men. It's funny how popular culture can influence baby names, both for and against!

[Ramzubo]

Pop culture definitely gets in the way sometimes. We liked Duncan, but this is a big Dunkin Donuts area and you know any kid named after a fast food chain would be made fun of!

[Ramzubo]

Alrighty, I thought I'd start off vacation pics. Here's from our honeymoon in Australia.

           

                        That's me with the Kangaroos.

[Taxlady]

First of ALL - RAM!!  CONGRATULATIONS!!  Happy and Healthy 9 Smoooooooth months to you!!

Second.. thank you sooo much for all the hugs and support.  I guess I finally freaked out about everything, I sincerely appreciate everyones understanding.  I'm just working really hard right now, 60+ hours per week + taking care of my home life + dealing with the "I" word.  Plus, on the same day, my sister called because she was having stomach pains, but mainly she just wanted me to confirm it might be implantation pain.  It was all I could handle. I knew it would happen eventually, but not on THAT day.  WHY? WHY?  What is it?  I'm not sure I understand why I am being tested like this.. but I know I am not living up to the task list.  IT all just built up and I had a really bad day.  I am so used to trying to be happy and optimistic, sometimes I fail at that.

This is a short post because I've got to leave for work early.. but I AM THE MAN!  PREDICTION QUEEN!!  I updated my prediction list with my newest WIN! IT was so fun reading DH the news from Livingsky.  Tank - as soon as you said, Can you make a prediction for me.. My brain said GIRL!  SO here is the updated list..

Sister - boy - correct

SIL - boy - correct

Friend M - boy - correct

Friend L - boy - correct

Cousin Twins - girls - correct (although I didn't think they would be identical and they are - like completely)

Cousin D - girl - correct

Friend K - girl - INCORRECT

Friend K - boy - correct

Meander - girl - ?

Livingsky - boy - CORRECT 

ValH – Twins (boy/girl) - ?

Hykue – Girl

Tank – Girl

I hadn't updated the list since I last posted it.. so remind me if I've left anyone off.  As far as boy names.. a friend of mine is naming her baby - Emmett.  I also like, Carter, Miles and Walker.  I can't use any of those.. we have decided on family names.  So if I get triplets out of the IVF.. who knows what we'll do.  LOL. 

OH one other thing.. why is FF not giving me crosshairs?  Is it because I had that really high temp on Monday morning??  I am boggled.  

[cristinimartini]

Taxlady, that's a pretty amazing run at guessing gender!! I hope I can have you guess for us one day!!!!! Can you please make me a wish and let it be twins too? Thanks!  Does your sister know about your situation? If she does, that was pretty insensitive of her...I hope this breakdown was the worst of it and from here on out you'll be looking forward to the great things that are to come!!! Like triplets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Living, Congratulations on the the healthy scan and the boy!!!!!! I like the name Julian if that's something you'd consider...maybe I'm just too Italian? LOL...I would want to go into it with a couple of names to pick from and then once I see him/her, decide. Plus, back in the day when ultrasounds weren't as sophisticated, the technician told my mom she was having a boy (she only had one ultrasound), low and behold, I'm NOT a boy, and my name couldn't be Anthony like they had been calling me in the womb hahaha...So how they decided on my name was to turn on the radio and the first name they heard, that's what I was going to be ...awesome, right? Hehehe....Also, I don't remember if it was on the list someone else had posted, but to go along with the theme you seem to have going, what about Carson?

Ram, LOVE those pictures!!!! I want to play with kangaroos and koala bears!!!! All our photos are on the home computer and I rarely get on the computer once I'm actually home, so maybe this weekend I can upload some if I get a chance. Thanks for the update too on what you did this month! I do like PreSeed, and will continue to use it!!

AFM, I think I'm out this month. I know I'm only 6DPO, but my chart is looking exactly like last months...I don't know when a chart starts to look different and "pregnant", but I have it in my head that it should be by now. Implantation probably hasn't even occurred yet, but I feel crampy...no twinges, just a constant cramp. Oh well...At least I'll get to have a drink on St. Patrick's Day!!  I think I'm going to stop temping for a couple days, what do you guys think?

[rush2ady]

oh my gosh. found u guys again... don't know why I get so lost on MDC!

[rush2ady]

ok, now I'm caught up!  WOW exciting news Ramzubo!  Congrats!!!  and darling kangaroo pics!

Thanks everyone for the chart suggestions, and the acronym translations, that helps, I'll go enter some data now...

and whao... pregnant dreams!  That's quite the nightlife you've got going Hykue!  and hope your sheep are ok.

Awesome predictions Taxi !  u must be good at listening to your intuition.

hello to everyone else :) and baby wishes to everyone

[ValH]

Ramzubo - LOVE the vacation pictures! 

LivingSky - I have a friend that named her son Jackson, so I've always liked that name.  I also really like the names Elijah, Jacob, and Ransom (kind of old names, I think).  Ransom was actually my GF's name.   Good luck with the name-picking!! 

Taxi - I thought about you today while I was driving.  (WARNING - anyone offended by religious conversation might want to skip this part)  I was listening to a contemporary Christian radio station, and the lady was talking about how spring is amazing and how God takes all the nastiness of winter, and literally overnight he can change it, and make things bloom.  (It sounded better when she was saying it).  The whole point was about how when there is a difficult time in our life, God can change it in a second.  Anyway, it made me think about you, and I prayed that God will change your situation, or at least give you the peace and strength to make it into your spring and time of blooming.  (Okay, religious talk over, everyone can resume reading here).  Anyway, take care of yourself and don't work too hard!  I took a peak at your chart... I'm thinking maybe you O'ed on CD16 (yesterday).  It will take three days of higher temps to give you crosshairs... if you don't have crosshairs in three days, maybe try discarding the high temp on CD15 to see what happens.  I'll keep stalking to see how it works out. 

cristini - Just so you know, I didn't think my chart looked "different" until around 11dpo, when it kept going higher instead of lower like it normally did.  So... don't count yourself out yet!  I hope you have to have a sober St. Patty's day. 

rush2ady - Glad you found us again!! 

Hi to everyone else!  Bel, caly (I hope you have power), boots, tank, hykue, and everyone else (my mind isn't remember names this afternoon). 

Oh, some vacation pics...

This is looking up at the Luxor hotel in Vegas, which is where we went for our honeymoon. 

The fountain outside the Bellagio - so cool. 

This is from a different vacation - we went to a Seattle Mariners game.

And you can't go to Seattle without seeing the Space Needle!

[ValH]

Okay, I just need to vent really quick... hope you ladies don't mind. This is totally un-TTC related, and more for my own mental health.  Anyway, as I mentioned earlier, my MIL is visiting for a month.  Now don't get me wrong - I love my MIL and am happy to have her here.  But we're just having some adjustment issues.  I should admit that I'm a bit OCD about cleanliness, especially in the kitchen.  So today MIL was cutting up some meat for something for DH (I'm vegetarian).  When I looked at both the cutting board and knives she used and "washed," all still had raw meat stuck to them!  Ugh!  AND she used my good dishes (the ones we only use when special company comes over) to cut some of the meat on.  Really, my good dishes???  Like I don't have stacks of everyday dishes.  Oh, and she wouldn't come ask me where the ziplock backs are (I was in the next room working... or posting on MDC), so she just put it in a grocery bag and put it in the freezer.  It's probably in there leaking blood on my veggie burgers as we speak.  I just finished re-washing all the dishes she's used today, and scrubbing all the kitchen with Clorox wipes.  I guess I need to quit being so obsessive and just go with it.  At least I'm not having to cook all the time, right? 

[LivingSky]

Taxlady: I remember thinking that you had predicted the opposite of what everyone else predicted, and lo and behold, you were right again! With my next baby (I'm getting ahead of myself, aren't I) I'm not even going to try to guess, I'll just ask you

I'm going to touch a couple of the names suggested: Julian I really like and DH doesn't so much (we also have a friend with a son named Julian), Elijah is on my list as well but not DH's, Jacob I reeeeally like but I'm skipping it due to Twilight reference (I don't care if it's wrong of me to say it, Taylor Lautner is drool worthy!), Emmett is one DH suggested but it's another Twilight reference in my head! See, the pop culture problem is really bad! Same problem with Carter (2 Fast 2 Furious) and Walker (Walker Texas Ranger). It's awful. Also apparently I watch too many movies and too much TV!

I hadn't though of Carson or Miles though, I have to remember to suggest those to DH.

The idea of using Babycenter's lists brought me to one that tentatively both DH and I like - Kaiden (or some spelling variety of it). So that's been added to the list.

Ramzubo: Your Australia pictures are GORGEOUS. I love the brilliant underwater colors, and the kangaroos look adorable!

ValH: I love the Bellagio shot, and the Space Needle you're so right about, can't go to Seattle and not see it! And in regards to your rant - no, I don't think you should have to just suck it up. Respecting someone's home is important, and respecting someone's food choices is just basic courtesy. Especially in their own house! And even more especially so since you're pregnant. Maybe you or your DH could talk with her about it?

cristini: The only symptom I had the month I got my BFP was cramping. Pretty consistently, almost right from O day. otherwise my chart looked just like every other month.

[tank]

Livingsky how about Cadence since you like Kaiden.  That is our friend's son's name so we can't use it but I love that name.

Thanks for the prediction for me taxlady. I think girl too although I am secretly hoping boy just because I like way more boys names.  That's the only reason though.  Silly huh?

[bootsvalentine]

I'm so burnt out today :(

Taxi, I am grateful to you for sharing how hard things have been because it's not been an easy month for me either. You are dealing with a lot more and more gracefully!

I am loving the vacation pics and I need that mental escape now. 7 more days until Spring Break!

I LOVE names. Livingsky, have you ever watched the girl on youtube from babynames.com who does videos about names? I really like her, even though huz thinks she's annoying. I hate that stupid Twliight took so many good names. I LOVE Esme and Jasper, love love love, but don't feel like I can use them now. As for other boys names I like: Cyrus, Silas, Lyle, Ned, Clyde. Those are my top picks. My grandpa's name was Bennett which I think is pretty cool. Others I found on my long-abandoned babynames.com list are: Julius, Jude, Jory, Sawyer, Milo, Ezra, Rory...Also, my mom's maiden name Bedell, which I like as a first name for a boy, but maybe a girl. I like the nickname Dell for either.

Tank, I usually hear people say that they have no boys' names and not vice versa!

Ugh, I am so burnt out but I don't want to go to sleep because I don't want it to be morning again.

[ValH]

LivingSky - Since you like Kaiden, how about Kaemon?  That's my nephew's name, so obviously I think it's pretty cool.  As for the Twilight references, I've never read a single book or seen the movies, so I have no idea what names are in there.  I guess there's something to be said for being out of the pop culture loop - there's nothing to sway my baby name choices!  :)  Thanks for making me feel like my rant wasn't irrational.  The thing with my MIL is that she's getting older, is somewhat feeble right now, and is having a lot of memory issues... so I don't think she's doing stuff on purpose, I think she's just not all there.  She's been here nearly a week, and she still gets confused on where her room is in our house, and our house is not that big!  She keeps trying to go into the garage (you think the deadbolt on the door would be a clue it's not a bedroom).  DH is taking her to the doctor today, so hopefully we'll have some answers (we're hoping it's medical issues - she has thyroid, BP, and diabetes) so things can go back to normal.  I don't remember the whole kitchen issues being so bad last time she visited... or maybe I was less OCD then... or at least less hormonal! 

Boots - Sorry you are feeling so burned out... but at least Spring Break is right around the corner!!  I don't know when my next day off is... the last one was New Year's, and we don't get Easter, so whatever the next holiday is after that.  I'm guessing Memorial Day at the end of May - geez, that seems so far away!  Normally, I would just take a few vacation days, but gotta save them this year.  Anyway, enough complaining from me, really I just wanted to say lots of hugs to you!!! 

Tank - I'm with you on the hoping for a boy because of the names.  DH and I actually agree on a few boy names (first and middle)... not so much on the girl names (got the first, tend to argue about the middle).  DH keeps telling me he'll just fill out the birth certificate while I'm passed out after giving birth... he's joking I'm sure.  Just like he keeps telling me that rather it's a girl or a boy, the baby will have his first name... he's just messing with me... I hope... :)

[LivingSky]

tank: I don't think it's a silly reason at all! The only reason DH and I were kind of hoping girl was because we had a girl's name picked out It's just one less thing to think about if you already have a name worked out that you both really love.

Cadence - I love that name - no, actually that one really deserves a LOVE! But, I love it as a girl's name! I do like it for a boy, but not as much.

Kaemon - I do really like that too. I also really like Callum. I haven't seen DH since Tuesday night really (he's working evening shift right now so we're kind of passing like ships in the night!) so haven't been able t discuss names with him again.

boots: No I've never seen that, now I'll have to go look for her I love names too - I'm just bad at picking them! I love going to my doctor or midwife and looking at all the birth announcements and seeing the different names that people pick. I find it really interesting. I see names that make me think - Ew, why would someone pick that? - but then I know it must mean something to the parents so it really doesn't matter if I like it or not And the Twilight thing - I KNOW! SO many good names are just completely written off now. *sigh*

I really like Bennett, but don't like the short form Ben (both DH and I have had very negative "Ben" experiences). I adore the name Silas but one of my horse clients renamed one of my horses to Silas, so it would seem a bit wierd to me

Oh and I love the nickname Dell - my mom is Del (short for Delyth) and a very close family friend who is like an uncle to me is also Del (short for Delbert). It's a definite contender for a middle name here

Taxlady - I forgot to mention, that you are always free to freak out about things here with us! This is the best group of ladies in the whole world IMO and we're always here for each other. I've been so impressed at your strength through everything, but you don't always have to be strong here Lean on us any time.

And Val: That's rough, very rough. One of my best friends is going through a similar thing with her mother. She moved her on to her farm with them so she can take care of her - but her mom is forgetting things and getting confused, so a lot off the time all she does is yell and rant. I know she's scared but it's really tough to deal with. I do remember when they first started taking her to the doctor that they were told there was a strong possibility that the right meds combined with a better oxygen supply could make her a lot better - I hope that works for your MIL! Apparently often what looks like early stages of senility is actually a lack of oxygen getting to the brain.

[Taxlady]

Livingsky.. I come from a family full of Dels.  My father's father is Delbert and my father is Del.  It's sort of a tough name when they are in Spain, since Del is for last names and used for saying "of the" in Spanish.  Still, I really like it.  Good luck picking there are so many truly great names out there.  In a thread a while ago, one member said she'd have to have 1084080984505 kids in order to use all her favorite names.  So funny, I have never seen Twillight, 2 Fast 2 Furious or Walker Texas Ranger.. but now those names are done.  Gosh, Hollywood, stop picking all the best names.. OH MY!  I wonder if I like those names because I live in Hollywood??  Is it rubbing off on me?  I have to go take a shower now.  

Valh - thank you for thinking of me.  That's what I am hanging on to. Trusting that things are all happening the way they're supposed to.  I have to remember I am truly not alone, God is standing with me through this - he won't give me a challenge he doesn't think I can handle and most importantly he will not leave me to face it alone.  

AS FAR AS YOUR MIL - I'm really sorry, I know you enjoy having her, but the vegetarian thing is sort of upset me too.  I don't think it's OCD at all to be careful with cross-contamination.  I almost when I read about the meat on the knife.  Different styles of doing things is hard, again, you'll get through this and you'll have a wonderful time.  Just know that some tension is expected when living situations change.  She's probably having a little difficulty adjusting to.  Hang in there, and just rewash everything .  Some people don't understand special diets, and sometimes they don't respect them.  I know when my mother stayed with us it was difficult because she thought she was the queen of the castle, but this is our castle, there was little tension there.

BOOTSIE!  SPRING BREAK- SPRING BREAK.. you are so lucky!!  What do you have planned??  P.S. thanks for the graceful comment, fortunately, there is a veil on the internet, if you had seen me at work on Monday.. I'm not sure you would have called my red puffy cried out eyes, graceful.. but I love you all.  The  and  are really felt over here.  

AFM - no crosshairs, I feel like I've done my temping wrong.  Oh well, it doesn't really matter, the appointment is on Monday, and even if we're not ready to go, we're keeping the appointment to get more informed.  SO glad I'll have all of you to report to.

XOXO

[h4ppyphant0m]

Hi all!

As a lesbian, I'm not sure how to define a start date of TTC, DP and I have 2 amazing children - both non-bio to me. Each of their births brought up new physical issues for DP, so she clearly cannot carry #3. This leaves me and I've been having a heck of a time getting my cycle regular-ish. I have PCOS and suspected hypothyroidism so it complicates things, but there is hope. :)

I have been working on regulating dear AF since Aug 2010. In that time, I've also been making healthy changes. I started charting basal temps in Jan 2011 and added on the fertility monitor in Feb 2011.

I look forward to reading through the thread and getting to know each of you!

Edited by h4ppyphant0m - 1/15/12 at 12:25pm

[Ramzubo]

Welcome Happyphantom!  Good luck on you TTC journey.

Val: Love the pics, I think my DH would say forget the space needle we're going to the Mariners game. Secondly, you are far braver than me to live with your MIL for a month. My in-laws live overseas but spend 1/2 the year in the U.S. Luckily they only spend a couple of days with us (we don't get along so well) but they can spend up to 3 months with my SIL. Even if you do get along it can be stressful having someone else in the house. The meat thing would have been too much for me and I'm not a veg, but that would have wigged me out.

Hykue: I'm glad I'm not the only one having weird dreams, although I'm a bit disappointed that mine don't involve lusty farm hands! You'll have to tell me about your sheep, we've been looking in to getting some. Our home used to be a horse property, but its kind of hilly so we thought sheep would be a better option.

Boots: Sorry you're feeling run down, but the Spring Break countdown is on...time to recharge your batteries!

Livingsky: My dad, granddad, and ggranddad all had O'Dell as a middle name. All of the males before that going back a couple hundred years have the middle name Kane which I think we would think about for a boy. I like the idea of family names but we are just lacking in cool girl or boy names.I like Callum, but how would you pronounce that? Kay-lum, Cal-um?

Taxlady:  for your appointment. Information is always good to have and even if you're not ready to move forward right now you will hopeful get some good info to store away for the future.

So my mom called last night and her and my younger sister are planning on flying up here on Monday to stay for a week (my sis will be on spring break). This is a shock because my mother has always refused to visit in the winter, she's not a fan of snow. My stepfather just left for Afghanistan so I guess she's lonely, so even though we are in the middle of home renovations I'm not going to say no. The thing is I was waiting to tell them about the +preg test until I was further along, my mom's had multiple m/c and my older sis had one a couple of years ago so its always in the back of my mind. I think I will have to tell them if they come up because we live very far apart and don't see each other much. I think it would sound really rude to tell them three weeks after they came up, like I'd been lying to them. I know it will come up as mom has not been too subtle over the last year and once you tell mom you might as well have taken out a full page ad in the newspaper. Plus I don't want my sister to spend her whole spring break listening to mom obsess about grandkids, I mean how fun can that be for a 20 year old?

[rush2ady]

Hello Happyphantom!  and everyone else!

I think I saw my nephews name Sawyer up there??  it's a gr8 name.  Willow and Tallulah are gr8 names too (Sawyer's sisters)!  At least I know in my family who to go to for name ideas :)

Val  I've heard taking coconut oil is really helpful for early senility issues.  Supposed to be very nourishing for the brain.  Maybe give it a try (obviously in addition to whatever the docs say)?  Other than that, my own relationship with my live-in MIL is pathetic and I have no suggestions! 

Hope you get a bit of a break there Boots.  Wow, dreading the mornings... it's usually only by afternoon I get discouraged about my day. 

And all the best in your appointment taxlady!

Now I'm sitting here thinking of baby names!  guess I have a while before I have to think about it

[cristinimartini]

Hi everyone!! And welcome Phantom!!!! Have you been under treatments for your diseases? What do your doctors say your chances of conceiving are?

Val, that's just awful about your MIL. Leaving raw meat chunks on anything is gross and unsanitary. This might be a repeated question but, does she know you're preggo? Maybe you can hide the good dishes and leave some baggies on the counter for her to use, and then just mention to her that you're more than happy to help show her around the kitchen if she'd like. I lived with my MIL (without my husband there) for months. It was nice at first, but then her bipolar disorder started taking its toll on me. She ended up decided to move back "home" 6 months later after giving us 8 hours notice. My hubs was pissed, but I was secretly relieved.  <-- that's my happy butt dance!

Ram, I vote to tell them but explain your fears/concerns and hope that they can respect that and not spread the news until YOU'RE ready. I think it will make it hard on you to keep it a secret while they're there, and also be a really nice "present" to them both to hear it so early!

Taxlady, I'm so glad you're keeping the appointment! Will this involve an internal exam too? Or is it more for options and education purposes? They might be able to tell if you O'd based on the physical exam if you do get one, and blood tests if they order them? I'm so excited for you!!!!! Please let us know what happens!!!

Tank, I'm so lost with boy and girl names. We never really talked about them, but my husband's last name isn't a "nice" one. It has a curse word in it, so I have to be careful with what we pick. It really sucks to be hindered by something like that. I have like 4 boy names I'd like, but only 2 go with his last name. He wants to change his name to my last name, so maybe if that ever does happen, I'll be happier with my name selection! hehehehe...

AFM, I'm 7DPO, and feel this constant tightening in my pelvic area. I thought it was cramps, but it hasn't really been pulsing, just a tightness or squeezing. I can't say I've ever felt this before, at least not for this long. I think this is day 2 or 3 of it. I also think I had some spotting today. It was like a drop of brown/red, like 3mm sized drop small, so nothing I'd even really call actual spotting. Just another weird sign. TMI ALERT: I also haven't pooped since Monday...I'm dying here!! LOL...My temps went down and then back up, just like my previous charts...so I don't think there's anything to really get excited about yet.

Wish lots and lots of baby dust on you all!!! I'll chart stalk later today I'm sure!

[tank]

welcome happyphantom! 

Val I am vegetarian so I sympathize with you.  I had to deal with stuff like that back when I had roommates.  But vegetarian or not, meat left on dishes is disgusting and unsanitary.

Ramzubo I would just tell her.  If she had miscarriages herself hopefully she would know enough the importance of keeping it to herself and understanding that is it still early and something can go wrong.  Plus if the worst does happen it is nice to have people you can talk to about it. 

Cristinimartini I hadn't even thought about how all these names I have picked out would go with a last name.  Actually we haven't even decided on a last name yet.  We aren't married yet and haven't decided what we are going to do for a last name anyway.  We will either have my last name or he will change his last name to his grandmother's last name and that will be our last name.  His last name right now is his fathers name which wasn't in his life at all, his grandmother raised him.  She offered him her last name when he was a teenager but he denied because he was a stubborn teenager and now regrets it.  So it is sort of complicated.  The babies name will either be REALLY german or REALLY italian sounding. 

AFM  same old same old.  I actually really want to smack my dog upside the head.  She is driving me nuts!  I left today for an hour to drive DP to work and she had gotten into the trash and spread it all over my bedroom for the 2nd day in a row.  She never used to do that and she is 3 years old.  This is a relatively new activity.  I don't even know what to do about it.  Everytime it happens we do more and more things to make it an obsticle to get to the trash but she still gets it.  I wish I didn't have such a smart dog.  She has also been really needy with me which has led me to leave her home more instead of having her at work with me so maybe that's why she is acting out.  I am pretty sure she can sence that I am pregnant and wants to be on top of me 24/7.