I've been pondering Butterflymom's list of desires and decided that I can't put them in any order, because every single one is very important to me. I have a very long page of attributes I'm looking for in a soulmate as I've been doing a lot of work with Deliberate Creation (what's popularly called "the Secret" nowadays but I've been practicing for about 15 years) and I want to be sure the universe doesn't leave anything out All those 10 are included in some way in that list, though stated a bit differently. Overall, I need to be with someone who is a good fit for me and my family and our life; I'm not gonna be changing to fit a man and I don't want him changing to fit me. I need to be physically and emotionally and intellectually attracted to him, and do not care a bit if he's attractive to the rest of the world. I'm not into dating as a past-time, only as a means to get to know someone. I'm pretty low maintenance and don't like generic romantic gestures; I prefer hanging out casually and just being part of each others lives.
Such a good point Rubelin. I'm also into manifestation/deliberate creation (though not for as long as you - 15 years of practicing it is impressive) and have been thinking about how to apply this to romantic relationships. I think I have been focusing on the negative a lot about my current guy and this is really going against creating something positive. I want to keep my thoughts and feelings centred around a positive, nurturing, committed relationship rather than what is missing in the current one, or what could go wrong. That way I trust that even if LCG is not right for me in the end, I will attract somebody who IS. One thing I wonder though, with the deliberate creation stuff, maybe you could shed some light on it: with the whole emphasis (in books like 'The Secret' and 'The Power', 'The Vortex' etc) on thinking and focusing only on what you want more of, what you like, how do you avoid deluding yourself to what's really going on, as in, if a guy is just taking you for a ride? I realised that I've mainly been reporting on the lacks and negative stuff about LCG, on here, but there is just as much good stuff - and what is good, is really really good. If I had been posting about that, everyone would have said, wow, great. But I've chosen to focus on what isn't working, so of course people have heard that and responded with negative interpretations. It's still only one side of the story. So that results in a whole loop of thinking that is in the end pretty disempowering. Does that make sense? Hope so!