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post #21 of 32

I would be upset at the sonogram picture, but honestly, if you post pictures up on Facebook you are really handing them over, and can't expect to retain control. That is the nature of the internet, and particularly the nature of sites like Facebook. And it's another reason why I refuse to use FB. I am very careful about what I put up on the internet.

 

As for the other pictures, I think you should feel flattered rather than annoyed. Pictures you post are really no longer 'yours', and imitation is really flattery.

 

Where she crossed a line was in her intended use of your picture, imo, not in copying them in the first place.

post #22 of 32
She's not respecting your boundaries, and it sounds like she's almost being passive aggressive about it. This is way over the line. She's just going to keep pushing you more and more if you don't stand up to her.

I think your DH needs to call her or email her to tell her that the two of you are upset that she keeps taking your photos off of FB, and in the future she needs to ask before giving any photos of your children to others. Unborn or not.

Then you need to defriend her on Facebook OR block her from viewing your photos. She's lost your trust, so she's lost that privilege.

Go to Account -->Privacy Settings --> "Customize Settings" (at the bottom) --> Under "Things I Share" click "edit privacy settings for existing photo albums and videos."--> On each album click on the grey box underneath and choose "customize"--> Under "Hide this from:" type in her name.

That way she can still be on your FB list if you want her to be, but she will no longer be able to steal your photos.
post #23 of 32

 

 

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I know I'm probably wrong as FB is pretty shrewd behind the scenes... but I still don't see how it is legal. I severely doubt there is a database full of 5 billion useless obscene pictures just sitting around for fb to figure out how they can profit off of it especially pictures of children. And IF Fb owns those pictures anyone would still then need to get written permission from the founder to use it anywhere else.

Its not that FB is waiting around to use these photos for monetary gain or whatever it is the fact that you can never rid the internet of them. Once you posted them you can not get them back. And if you post them with little privacy attached ANYONE can use them. So if you if have a MIL with boundary issues, well you will continue to run the risk.

 

And if you are a teen who thinks posting those drinking photos are funny, they might not seem too funny when the college admissions director gets a hold of them. 

 

Here is a case where a mom posted photos on her blog and they showed up on a billboard

http://www.extraordinarymommy.com/are-you-kidding-me/stolen-picture/

 

I post lots of photos on FB but I post knowing knowing that some day my son will be viewing them and so will his friends. I try to keep that filter in my mind before I post.

 

post #24 of 32

I also do not post any personal or family pictures on FB for this reason.

post #25 of 32

 

The "stealing" of the other pictures would mildly annoy me, but probably not enough for me to say anything if she's just using them among family.  I'd try to see it as flattery.

 

The sonogram thing would send me through the roof.  I am extremely pro-choice, and to have someone steal my image to use in their "pro-life" propaganda would infuriate me.  I would do what I needed to do to have them stop using it, I would defriend MIL, and I wouldn't be speaking to her again, period.  That is completely over the line.

 

And just because you post something to facebook, does not mean you are no longer the copyright holder.  You are.  See FB's policy on intellectual property.

post #26 of 32

Block, block, unfriend, unfriend. She might get pissed, but whatever. It's just FB, she'll get over it. Just say you are unplugging or something. She has proven to be untrustworthy in that forum.

post #27 of 32

The law doesn't protect people's images very much. And it really doesn't protect images that have been put out in public without registering copyright.

 

So, my first thought is that you get the info from your MIL, create a throwaway email  address, and send a message to the group that MIL's Name is a hardcore pro-choicer and you don't know what she told them, but that picture is a sonogram from right before her 3rd abortion.

post #28 of 32
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post

The law doesn't protect people's images very much. And it really doesn't protect images that have been put out in public without registering copyright.

 

So, my first thought is that you get the info from your MIL, create a throwaway email  address, and send a message to the group that MIL's Name is a hardcore pro-choicer and you don't know what she told them, but that picture is a sonogram from right before her 3rd abortion.



Or 13th.

 

sapphire_chan is hilariously petulant. I say 'thumbs up'.

post #29 of 32

I don't think your feelings are at all out of line. I would be angry too. The sonogram grab and its intended use would especially upset me.

post #30 of 32

Personally, and I don't mean to offend, but it's possible you're overeacting. How old is your MIL? And what is her experience on the internet? My in laws aren't even on facebook because they don't know how to use a computer. You could first assume something like, she doesn't know how to put pictures on the internet. Plus, you are making these pictures public, and they are pictures of her grandchildren. I can't see how someone would define this as "stealing". They are being made available to most of the world, but she can't take them off your page?

 

About the pro-life thing. All I can say is that there is probably reasoning on her part that you don't understand, and I really don't understand why anyone would assume it's meant for harm. Why don't you TALK to her about it? 

post #31 of 32

I wouldn't be pleased with my MIL taking my photos, but I wouldn't cause a family feud over it either.  You have an easy way to stop this from happening again and that is to block her from your FB pictures.  I'd keep the peace in the family and let it slide.  If she asks you why she's blocked, tell her you don't feel comfortable with her re-posting your photos.  She asks why not...you say "pass the bean dip."

post #32 of 32
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post

The law doesn't protect people's images very much. And it really doesn't protect images that have been put out in public without registering copyright.

 


This isn't true. You don't have to register a copyright to own it. You have to register a copyright in order to be able to obtain attorneys' fees if someone violates the copyright. It adds an extra measure of damages.

 

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