It's really unlikely that I'm pg, right? (spotting when af is due, then no af)

[DevaMajka]

We've always used wd typically, and abstained when I was fertile based on timing and cm. Last month (during my recent fertile time), we used wd, but didn't abstain at all.

My periods for the last bunch of months have been 28-29 days. Last month was 34 days. I'm currently on cd 31. I wouldn't think much of it, but 3 days ago, I had very light spotting briefly, which I assumed was af starting. It stopped, and I figured it would start up the next day. No such luck. It's been 3 days without so much as even an hint of color. I told myself I would wait a week from the spotting to even think much of it, but I'm stressing.

But the chances that I'm pregnant are pretty slim, right? And pre-period spotting can happen and not mean anything, right?

This would...not be a good time. And that's putting it lightly.

[Hykue]

Oh dear.  I have read some of your previous posts.  If you had known then what you know now, you would have abstained during the fertile period, wouldn't you?  (I hope that doesn't sound snarky, I'm just thinking that if I was in your situation, that's what I would be thinking).  Oh, I'm so sorry . . . hopefully it was just a random bit of spotting.  I'm sending you all the no-baby vibes I can muster.  I would wait three more days, if you can hold out . . . and hopefully AF will show.  If not, I would test, because I personally would rather know than not.

It will work out okay for you either way, but I hope it works out the easy (not pregnant) way!

There's a pretty good chance you're not pregnant, even with a bit of spotting in a strange place in the cycle.  It's really not that likely, even when a couple is trying!

[DevaMajka]

Originally Posted by Hykue 

Oh dear.  I have read some of your previous posts.  If you had known then what you know now, you would have abstained during the fertile period, wouldn't you?  (I hope that doesn't sound snarky, I'm just thinking that if I was in your situation, that's what I would be thinking). 

 Nope, doesn't sound snarky. Just "yeah that!!"

That's what I told him- even when someone is ttc, the chances are only like 25% that they'll conceive. But yes, hearing that it's unlikely from someone else helps calm my worries. 3 days is Friday. I'm going to check this thread a couple times today, then I'm going to try really really hard not to think about it until Friday. Stressing about it won't change anything, and knowing earlier won't change anything either.

I put on white panties with no pad today, thinking it might tempt fate. lol. Wish me luck!

[Scrapluvnmomma]

For what it is worth i had the same experience this month. I started lightly spotting too early for my period, four maybe five days before it was due. I was thinking it was coming early then nothing. I was slightly optimistic. Then the day I was due nothing, i get it in the morning. Around five she reared her ugly head. So maybe, dont freak yet? Best wishes.

[DevaMajka]

That does make me optimistic :)

I'm sorry, though, that you didn't end up pg (I'm guessing you wanted to be?). I know I'm in a really different boat now, but we ttc'ed 20 mos for ds1. TTC was a lot harder on me emotionally than this- this is a one shot deal. I remember the devastation that came every month with af. :hug

[justKate]

Sending all the "come AF" vibes I can muster.  Maybe the spotting was somehow stress-induced.  Keep us updated. 

[Scrapluvnmomma]

We were hopeful but not devastated, we didn't try terribly hard last month, like you said it takes a toll. But the timing should have been right. TTC should be fun but after a certain point not so much!
Thank you! Hoping AF has shown for you!

[DevaMajka]

Well, not yet. CD32 today. Last month was 34 days, so I'm trying not to stress. The more days pass since the spotting, the less signifcant it feels, so I'm actually stressing less. I was really busy today, so didn't have too much time to dwell- that's a good thing!

Thanks everyone!

[justKate]

Hope you're doing okay mama.  Any updates? 

[DevaMajka]

Wellll.....

What have I learned from this? That statistics don't apply to me. For real- ds1 took 20mos ttc- charting, fertility tests, all that. Nothing wrong, just took 20 mos. Ds2- got pg the one and only time that we dtd without w/d'ing after af started after ds1.

This baby, the only time that we dtd during my fertile phase after ds2. We used withdrawal, and yes, we definitely did it "correctly"- my ex has a lot of control, and has no problem doing it.  According to planned parenthood, it's pretty effective.

What else have I learned? I'm getting my tubes tied if I decide I'm not dating only women from now on.

It's been causing a bit of stress.

background- ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago. (right after I conceived, apparently). We decided to live together and co-parent as we have been. We've actually gotten along WAY better since then- we feel like friends. Then..this. Wow! Exdp is stressed out. I am too. Even when things were going well, we never wanted 3 kids. I never watned to be pg again. My body is going to look even worse, and dating (when that time comes) is going to suck because of it. It wasn't as big of a deal when I was with exdp, because it was due to his kids. Money is an issue. I hate being pg- it hurts.

But even so, I'm a little bit excited. I'm already attached to it

Exdp just said he hopes it's a girl. :lol

[justKate]

Well I know it comes at a really bad time, but congrats anyway!  Maybe this LO is going to be your comfort through everything that you're going through with DP right now.  Stay strong mama.  I hope you have an easy pregnancy. 

[Kindermama]

You can't stop what's meant to be! Congratulations!!! Wishing you peace with your pregnancy! 

[Scrapluvnmomma]

I'm sorry it isn't the situation you were hoping for but congrats! And here is to team pink! I hope the stress level comes down. I've been thinking of you!

[Hykue]

Oh wow.  Well, I'm sorry about the timing, but not much to be done now!  Congratulations and I hope all goes well for you for the pregnancy, birth, and life after that.  Perhaps I'll see you in the November DDC?

[dawncayden]

 Congrats Becky!

[AntoninBeGonin]

Team pink!    Congrats, I hope this pregnancy goes really smoothly for you. 

[lactatinggirl]

Congrats! I realize this post is late, but I just wanted to say that I spotted right before I would have had my normal period and I turned out to be pregnant. In hindsight, I think it was implantation spotting. Though I did continue to spot at various times for no particular reason (according to my OB) for the rest of my first trimester and maybe even a bit into the 2nd.