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Kparker, I hope your beta turns out well!!

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I got more results back and they aren't so good.  I wasn't all that worried at first, partly because I had no idea what the results really meant, but then I consulted Dr. Google (I know, I know) and now I'm feeling very worried.  So it's more testing for me and I'm really hoping things aren't as worrisome as they seem.  :(

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So sorry to hear that Jennabella!! I hope you will get some more positive answers, soon.

 

Good luck today Kparker!

 

No action here this cycle, as dh has been sick. That is just as well, really. Since the who knows how many perfectly timed cycles have not helped, taking one off is no longer a big deal.

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Good morning all! Good evening for most of you, actually, except for LessTraveled, who is over here on this side of the globe with me. 

Jennabelle, I hope you don't put too much weight into what Dr. Google has to say about your results. They are strange, unpredictable places, our bodies, and I'm still not pregnant 18 months later after perfect test results on both DH and myself...

 

The weekend adoption class was awesome! Group of nine (four couples and one single woman), all excited to talk about the challenges and joys of international adoption (the only kind here in Sweden, since unwanted births are almost non-existant). It will take at LEAST two or three years to make this happen (long waiting lists, beaurocracy, etc.), but that will give us time to save some money (very expensive!) and maybe get a sibling for DD the old fashioned way in the meantime. In either case, it feels SO good to have my heart set on another child, and be making actual progress, rather than all the wondering and trial and error I've been drowning in the last year. 

 

I'll continue to take my Optivite for the next 6 weeks or so, but when that runs out, I'm not going to do anything else specifically for conceiving (besides being a little naughty with my handsome husband now and then love.gif). 

 

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I just got back from the draw. As always, totally pessimistic, and I don't expect anything, so if it's good news I'll probably faint.  They said it would be noonish here so about 3 more hours or so before they call.

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Thanks ladies! 

 

Emaya - I know, I know.  I need to just slowly step away from Google.  There is a lot I don't know right now and I'll be having more testing over the next few weeks.  I think it's just that for one particular test, the results are just really not good, no matter how you look at it.  So it's hard for me to imagine how even if all the other tests come out great, it could turn out all okay.  So I don't know.   But I do have other results that do not confirm the poor test result, so we'll just have to see how all my other tests turn out.  It's hard not to google though.  I'm someone who just likes to understand a situation as completely as possible and google is the best at providing information.  ;)

 

Trying to stay positive and hopeful. 

 

kparker - Good luck! 

 

LessTraveledBy - We are taking off this cycle and now I'm guessing we are taking off next cycle as well.  I think by the time we finally feel able to actively try again it will have been almost a year!  And that is hard for me right now too, feeling like I am wasting all this time, but I know I need whatever answers I can get before we try again.  But I don't think one cycle is that much and I know people who have gotten pregnant right after (or during) a break from TTC.  Maybe that will be you.  :)

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What a positive thread this has been for the past day or two. (And so sorry to those who are having lots of pain right now! Please post if you want.... There is space here for every emotion, even as we celebrate with MBA!)

 

My exciting (ha ha) news is that I got an e-mail my SA stuff was shipped from the US. Assuming that mail does not take longer than normal, we'll probably be doing the SA in about 10 days and getting the results in less than a month. I feel awful thinking "Please God, let there be something wrong there," knowing that many suffer from male factor and can do very little about it. However, I have tried everything possible with myself in the past years and so if dh had an issue, things would finally make sense. Here though they are saying that the varicocele (not unlikely that could be causing the issues... dh does have one) operation is not all that helpful. The percentage they gave was depressing. However, I still would just like answers and if dh had a bad SA, had the operation and still had bad ones, we could move on, knowing the chances are not great.

 

In our case I would rather take something we could try to do something about, as if the couple were ever asked which problem they would prefer, hah. As we will not be doing IUI or anything, the end of the road can come pretty quickly. It seems that here they often don't even operate the varicoceles, as the results are so much better just doing IVF (or which it is they would suggest, not sure.) Anyway... It is strangely exciting to think we might know why soon. This would be a better thing for us than having immune issues, which we won't have the money to do anything about. (This country recognizes them but there is no treatment here.)

 

I know I have said this many times, but I would just like to know if more babies are not likely. Then we could very seriously try to see how we both feel about either remaining a family of 3 or figuring out how to afford adoption. I know dd would like to adopt. I do think I would, also. It is dh that needs to know our real situation and then move on. IF that is our situation. I suppose waiting some months is not so long, as we have already waited for years.



Hi LTB - just popping in here to quickly say that I am glad that your DH is doing a SA. My DH has a vericole problem, and very low morphology. His semen has greatly improved with some simple vitamins (actually, many, many vitamins), so don't give up hope. He didn't have the surgery because it didn't seem like it would help much. In fact, now that our IVF has failed we have a lot more information, it looks like even with his low morphology the problem is my eggs after all.  Anyway, just wanted to tell you that semen can improve without the surgery. It did for us. We conceived DS 4 years ago, but we don't know if we just got lucky (and he had the semen problems back then), or if things have changed since then.

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Originally Posted by jennabella View Post But I don't think one cycle is that much and I know people who have gotten pregnant right after (or during) a break from TTC.  Maybe that will be you.  :)


Right after a break.. possible but not likely. During a break.... ummm... no, no action whatsoever so that would be quite the miracle. ;) ;)

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HI RCR,

Can I join? I definitely fit the rules and I'm slight bitter, we have been TTC since 10-6-09 - 1 ectopic- 5-28-10 and 2 MC(8-30-10 & 1-14-11) later here I am, still trying... I'm finding I do need a little support a long the way, I'm 29 now and turing 30 in August and I thought that I would have a baby or at least be pregnant by my 30th B-day... I have been Charting my temps, which helps give me an idea whats going because I have long cycles.

 

 

Thank you,

AGreenmum10

 

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Drive-by post to say I'm gloomy today. My friend, on baby #4, had a blog post up about starting the 3rd trimester. Third trimester! It seems like just a few weeks ago that she told me she was pregnant, and I was just around O time thinking that this could be the month for me and we could be pregnant together. And here I am, still not pregnant.

Should O probably at the end of the week or this weekend, and my mom is wanting me to go away for the weekend (w/out hubby). As much as I'd like to go on the trip, I just don't feel good about probably missing O. I know I said just a week and half or so ago that I didn't even know if I'd keep trying, but I don't know how not to try. I have scaled back my obsessiveness this cycle so far, but to knowingly go away during probably O time...I just don't think I can do it.

Ok, off the computer until tonight. Trying to get some things done before I start my 3-in-a-row tomorrow.
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Welcome AGreenMum10! It sounds like you've had a tough row to hoe. I hope your stay here is short and sweet.

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kparker, any news?

I think I was rude to the lady at the bank today. She asked me if I had any kids (this part isn't annoying, that is a normal question, I'm sure she just wanted to sell me an education savings plan if I said yes). I said, "Not yet." So she said, "Oh, you're still young, enjoy the life!". That bugged me, but I should have kept my mouth shut. Instead, I said, "Yep, I'm sure enjoying the infertility." redface.gif I regret saying anything, she didn't really deserve that, but URGH!
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kparker, any news?

I think I was rude to the lady at the bank today. She asked me if I had any kids (this part isn't annoying, that is a normal question, I'm sure she just wanted to sell me an education savings plan if I said yes). I said, "Not yet." So she said, "Oh, you're still young, enjoy the life!". That bugged me, but I should have kept my mouth shut. Instead, I said, "Yep, I'm sure enjoying the infertility." redface.gif I regret saying anything, she didn't really deserve that, but URGH!

Oooo! I would probably feel both bad and good about saying something like that. I HATE comments like that. Like children magically ruin your life. Or like I enjoy being told I'm "young". :P
 

 

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kparker, any news?

I think I was rude to the lady at the bank today. She asked me if I had any kids (this part isn't annoying, that is a normal question, I'm sure she just wanted to sell me an education savings plan if I said yes). I said, "Not yet." So she said, "Oh, you're still young, enjoy the life!". That bugged me, but I should have kept my mouth shut. Instead, I said, "Yep, I'm sure enjoying the infertility." redface.gif I regret saying anything, she didn't really deserve that, but URGH!


Okay my husband and I LOL'd at this

My beta was negative, I figured as much! On to round three, going to do clomid, trigger, IUI again. This mixed drink is so yummy :D

 

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Okay my husband and I LOL'd at this

My beta was negative, I figured as much! On to round three, going to do clomid, trigger, IUI again. This mixed drink is so yummy :D

 


I'm sorry. hug.gif
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Same here, I never feel a thing when AF is coming... but when I'm pregnant, I feel like AF is coming....wait...does that make sense? redface.gif

ENIGOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! I've been thinking about you and wondering how you're doing!!! HI! blowkiss.gif How are you?
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Okay my husband and I LOL'd at this

My beta was negative, I figured as much! On to round three, going to do clomid, trigger, IUI again. This mixed drink is so yummy :D

 


hug.gif I'm sorry, hun.
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kparker, any news?

I think I was rude to the lady at the bank today. She asked me if I had any kids (this part isn't annoying, that is a normal question, I'm sure she just wanted to sell me an education savings plan if I said yes). I said, "Not yet." So she said, "Oh, you're still young, enjoy the life!". That bugged me, but I should have kept my mouth shut. Instead, I said, "Yep, I'm sure enjoying the infertility." redface.gif I regret saying anything, she didn't really deserve that, but URGH!


Kyamo-

 

Sometimes I say things like this all the time (occasioally, like this weekend at a party, I even say them in a friendly way.)  It's usually on days when I think everyone should be open and honest about fertility issues - and to help people realize that the questions they think are friendly and acceptable are easily interpreted as rude and hurtful.  

 

OH, and HI BSL!

 

I can't keep up with you and I just peak in every now and again to see how the friends that are still here are doing...

 

 

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MBA!!!!!!!!!!!!broc1.gifjoy.gif I came back from my long weekend to wonderful news for you, and I am THRILLED for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Really, truly, I am so happy for you! And so excited that we had 2 bfp's in a week!!!!  Also, MBA, I had cramps off and on for about 5 weeks when I was pg with DS. And he is perfectly healthy and happy! I honestly thought AF was coming that whole time, the same way Maeryn did. I didn't even know I was pregnant until 6 weeks. Then alot of things suddenly made sense, LOL. And it took my acupuncturist flat out telling me she thought I was pregnant for me to take a test! Anyway, the point is, hang in there! And rest. Lots of rest!

 

I am really sorry for everyone who was hopeful and it didn't happen this time.

 

AFM, Thurs. I woke up with a migraine and my temps plummeted, so I knew AF was coming either Thurs or Fri, and sure enough, on Fri she reared her ugly head just in time for me to deal with my horrible IL's and AF at the same time. I was incredibly depressed on Thursday. I cried off and on all day. I just really, truly thought I was pregnant, for the first time since I had DS. I was having so many symptoms that I hadn't had since DS, but no. I was actually shocked, because that's how much I really thought I was, and DH thought I was, which was making me think it even more. Then dealing with the IL's..well, it was just pretty much horrible. I wish I was coming back to tell everyone better news, but that's my news. I am grateful for the fact that I did finally ovulate though, and now I am trying to decide if I want to continue with acupuncture or just start Clomid or Femara. I need to find a new ob.gyn since mine retired, so I guess that's really my first step. If I can find a doc I like here, who I feel comfortable with, I think I might just go for the Clomid or Femara. I want to keep going to acupuncture, but it is expensive, and I'm not sure how I feel about my acupuncturist. I thought I really liked her the first time, but the second time, I don't know. On the other hand, she did help me ovulate again, after just one visit. But I still feel like the Clomid might work faster, and I just don't know how long I can afford to keep going to acupuncture. Sigh. I don't know why I am struggling so much over this decision. Part of it is, DH wants to go straight to Clomid. I think I would rather go to acu as long as possible but I know DH is right as far as the money issue is concerned. Anyway, I need to find a new ob.gyn so I will go from there I guess, and keep my next acupuncture appt I think.

 

AGreenMum nice to see you again, my long cycle friend. I am sorry you are still ttc to no avail though. I hope you don't have to be around here long.

 

enigo What's the latest?

 

Jennabella Google has given me nightmares before. And it makes me insane! I start googling and the next thing you know, I think I have every disease known to man. I recommend stepping away from the google! I hope though that you get some more positive news soon about your results

 

Everybody else..I know I am leaving so many out, I apologize..I am so tired and drained emotionally and physically right now, as DS does not sleep well away from home which means I don't either..plus just trying to pull myself together after so much craziness and meanness from my MIL. I have no energy to even discuss it at this point, but anyway, I am thinking of all of you even if I can't remember everybody I wanted to say something to. Hang in there everybody.

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