My daughter (14 yrs old) has had this friend, who is a guy, who is also 14 yrs old, for a year and a half now. The mother is obviously anti-homeschooling. She is not even big on private schools and thinks the local schools are so great. I have always been polite and nice to her. But I used to work in this school district, and my sister still works here, and I have some friends who work here. This district has so many endless problems it is insane. Fortunately, after some heavy campaigning last spring, we did overturn half the school board and it seems maybe things will be looking up, which is very good. There have already been some good changes, but not enough that I would go back and send my children to these schools. My sister won't allow her children to attend here either even though she works here.
So everytime I have to see this mom, as our children are in some activities together, somehow, she has to bring up how much she loves the local public schools. This past year, apparently, her husband did not want their son in the public school so he has been in private. This mother is discussing things with her husband and trying to get him to let them return the boy to public school. That is her current issue. Thing is, she is really clueless about so many things that have gone on here. She also seems to think if the schools ever had a problem, it would be in the news (some things have been, but yet, she was clueless about even that stuff, only a couple things I have commented on). We live in a major metropolitan area. I do not think that every single thing going on in the public schools is going to be big news. She grew up in a smaller town area (so did I) so I don't think she gets that in an area like this, the local schools and their problems are not exactly big news. She does not even have a clue as to some of the issues being worked on at school board meetings or such.
I do not have any desire to argue with her about schools. I don't generally discuss my school choices with other people. BUT, I don't know how to respond to her. I want to keep things on the nice, especially since my daughter and this boy are friends. But I just feel so awkward. I am thinking I should not tell her anything else about the problems at the local school (all I mentioned to her tonight was that the high school principal was fired and he was so bad that in 3 years, he had 100% turn over of the GT teachers and 50% turnover of the teachers at the high school over all). If she had kept up with the school board meetings, which are open to the public, she would have known that. But instead, she tried to tell me if that were true, it would have been in the news. Next time she brings this sort of stuff up, should I just be polite and make excuse to walk away? Or should I suggest to her she start attending school board meetings? (very few people attend even though we have about 55,000 kids in the district).
I want to keep things nice, without me having to walk away feeling stomped on. Any suggestions?