Is this normal? And what is the best response?

[mami2f3]

My 2+ y.o. DD says "I want Pa" about 10-15 times a day. She is very loving and snuggly with me, but it makes me worry. I tell her Pa loves her and will see her 'soon' (it'll be end of march). Is that right? What do I do? 

Is this normal that she is asking so much? 

Her life quick synopsis: 0-15 mo. living with both parents. 15-24 mo living with mom, seeing pa every 2 or 3 months. 25-31 mo. living with both. 31-33 mo. living with mom, will see pa in one month. 

Sorry, I know that sounds crazy (guess it has been) but that's the reality. Anyway, I just need to know if this is common, and how long it lasts. It kinda tears me apart every time she asks, but I am trying sooo hard to just be positive.

[rubelin]

Both of my kids did that a lot when they were toddlers/pre-schoolers, too, and their Daddy was still living with us then. Part of it is trying to make sense of the schedule of their lives and to figure out where everyone fits in, and part of it is that little kids can be very daddy focused at certain times.

I do get your upset, though. My youngest still asks when he'll see Daddy all the time even when they were seeing him nearly every day. It has been especially hard in the last month since their visits with him have been reduced a lot because when it's going to be more than half a day, he's really sad and it breaks my heart especially since I can't do anything about them getting to see him more (new GF in the picture). I am very positive around them, but vent and let out my emotions about it when they aren't around.

I try to be really specific about the schedule (even when youngest was just 3 at the beginning when Daddy moved out) and show them a calendar if needed. If they seem especially missing him, I'll see if he can talk on the phone with them and a few minutes chatting with him seems to help. Can she talk or webchat to him more often or does that make it harder??

oh, geez, I looked at your timeline again and realized that I know you =)  we miss you tons and send you good vibes all the time. I'm torn about wishing you'd come back 'cause I know you love where you are so I send wishes that you end up in the perfect place for you. Come & play when you're in town!  (and I'll delete this part if you think it's too personal)