I have a friend who has a DS around 2.5 years old. She has been a nightmare to me since we found out we *might* be expecting a boy. She keeps feeding me horror stories about her son and telling me I have no idea how to raise a boy b/c I'm spoiled with this with DD being "a girl". She's very hung up on gender versus personality, and as much as I try to talk to her about how it's not necessarily b/c he's "a boy" that he does certain things, she won't give it up.
Now, I don't know if it's hormones or what, but it's really pissing me off. And bothering me. And making me doubt that I can "handle" a boy. I mean, DD is a tough kid as far as I know. She climbs on me and throws monster tantrums like most 2 year olds. But I love her nurturing side, the way she plays quietly, the way we can laugh and dance and sing together. Tell me boys do these things too? Please, just tell me it's this woman's boy who is misbehaving b/c he's 2 and not solely b/c he's a boy.
She just now texted me that he's walking around with the vaccuum attachment in his mouth and I better "pray for another nice, calm, little girl," and I'm like, livid!! UGH! I wish she woud just freaking back off and stop with it, but no matter how much I try to tell her she just rolls her eyes and treats me like I have "no idea" what it's like to raise a boy.
Our parenting styles are different. She doesn't AP, didn't BF, we definitely disagree with how to discipline. I want to say her parenting is a major part of why this kid misbehaves, but part of me just has doubts. I'm curious what I'm in for and if she's just feeding me her own issues. What do you think, guys?
Ok, verbatim, here is her latest text, "boys are different than girls you will never get a boy to sit quietly like nora does and color while you're in the shower. boys just aren't wired that way."