Originally Posted by mama2soren
A little boy can't CRY?? Can't be sweet and gentle?? No wonder this little boy of hers might be a little more challenging than average.
Yes, exactly! More challenging than average is right! B/c seriously, this mama is the only one I know who has SO MUCH trouble with her child. I think I needed to hear everyone's responses to really have it sink in that she definitely has other issues going on that make her child act out. I just wish she would STOP BLAMING HIS GENDER for his misbehaviour!!
I met with her once for a playdate with our kids at a local park. Poor DD was terrified of this mama. Her son wanted to pick up rocks and she reamed at him DON'T TOUCH! He wanted to swing or run or slide and everything was No!! NO!! He couldn't do anything without getting yelled at. DD was more than willing to share her ball and every time he stole it away and she got upset it was b/c "He's a boy and is pushy," not b/c she never taught him to share.
I know there are a ton of issues at play. But I just really don't know how to get her to stop blaming his gender for it. I think the only way will be when my theoretical son grows up to be a normal, well behaved (but obviously with some boundary pushing) toddler and child. I almost want the challenge just to prove her wrong.
I told her today that my MIL had three boys. Only one was mischievous, constantly pushing buttons and doing crazy things, and my DH and his youngest brother were quiet and inquisitive. She came back with, "quiet isn't what I'm talking about. it's not how their brains are wired. boys need activity."
I wrote back, "do you think for some reason girls don't????"
What's also funny is that my MIL often compares DD to her mischievous son, saying she has an awful lot of Uncle Ryan in her!