It amazes me how much practices differ from hospital to hospital. I'll tell you my experience so you can glean some ideas from that.
If you want to see the birth, talk to your OB about setting up a mirror. I was apparently one of the very few who wanted to watch, but they were great and set up a mirror for me (as it turned out, I was too distracted to watch, lol).
They said they'd never put a cath in before I was anaesthetized - harder on everybody. But I suppose it's good to ask! Getting it out was no problem either, though I was super nervous it would hurt. Bless those nurses - they waited until I had a full bladder, then while I sat on the potty and peed they took it out - I barely felt anything!
I loved that mesh underwear, lol.
Anyways, back to the birth! DH went to DD as soon as she was out of me. He cut the cord, they swaddled her, and immediately gave her to him. He held her by my face while they stitched me up. He then went with her to the nursery where they just weighed her, and gave her a quick lookover. No ointments or anything at that time - they were very big on promoting bonding at this hospital. By the time I got to the recovery room, DH and DD were right there, and she went to the breast immediately. We had about two hours together, then they took her to get her eye goop, which really wasn't at all as bad as I thought it would be. I didn't fight them on this - they had done so much I'd asked for and I just felt this wasn't important enough to me to push for. DH was always with her when she went to the nursery (after that time, she only went to be weighed each night, and I often went with her for the exercise). I wanted to make sure nobody tried to give her paci's or formula, etc. but honestly the hospital was so pro-BFing there was really no risk of that.
I am a bit confused that some say they couldn't sit up to nurse. I had an automatic adjustable bed and could move myself up and down at will. This actually made breastfeeding a cinch. Also, FWIW, I never used my Boppy. The hospital bed had side rails and I found it easier to use regular pillows - I could squish them and move them to exactly where I needed them. DD's weight was on my upper belly because that's where she had to be to reach my breasts, lol, so there was never any issue of the incision getting in the way. I also wore the hospital gowns the whole time because they snapped open for easy breastfeeding and were so easy to nurse in.
Basically, DD lived on my chest. She nursed as often as possible, and would fall asleep and stay on my chest. It was great, really - I would adjust the bed up, nurse her, she'd fall asleep, then I'd just push the down button and we'd both be asleep in no time! I wish I'd had that adjustable bed at home! My milk came in less then 36 hours after the birth.
I had narcotic analgesics for the first 24 hours, and drank only broth for dinner that night (mine was in the morning). But, I was up and walking around at 10 pm that night. It actually felt good and really helps with recovery. After 24 hours they switched me to just regular anaesthetics and as long as I took it every few hours, I honestly felt no pain at all.
I declined the Hep B shot. Unless your child comes out very sick and there's a chance of a blood transfusion, the chances of getting it are close to nothing. The only reason they give Hep B shots to newborns is b/c that's the best time to "catch" everybody, since vaginal birth mamas are often gone by 48 hours. Really, all this baloney about your newborn catching a sexually-transmitted-dirty-needle disease are such a load of crap. And while I am not anti-vax, I do think it's a rotten idea to challenge the immune system of such a young baby, especially when we KNOW that their immune systems are not mature. I didn't any flack about refusing it, just nodded my head when they said I should do it some time before DD comes into regular contact with other kids (yeah, all those playground-drug-addicts,
My biggest advice to you is find out what hospital policies are. Ask all the questions beforehand so you can be prepared and know what needs to be said and what will be taken care of.