Hi everyone and
to all the newbies.
I had a very odd conversation with my cousin, who, coincidentally, had her dd 3.5 hours after my ds was born, on the same day. She also had a c/s. I had a very long (23 hours), very annoying labor (posterior baby who wouldn't engage, so I was on my back with back labor for half of it b/c my water spontaneously broke at 3cm). I was exhausted (no sleep for 36 hours), hungry, and mad that I ended up with a c/b, but did it b/c, at the time, it seemed like the best decision for my ds.
Anyway, my cousin was in labor for about 11 hours (after a full night's sleep) but she only knew that she was in labor b/c her bag of waters sprung a slow leak, and the monitors said she was having contractions. She didn't feel a contraction until she was 6cm, and then she zoomed from 6cm-10cm in under 2 hours. She pushed for 2+ hours and decided she'd had enough pushing (baby was doing fine), she was tired, and, b/c her mom had her via c/s 30+ years ago due to a too small pelvis (I can't remember the acronym at the moment), she assumed she also had a too small pelvis (determined by x-ray while in labor - ha) and she requested a c/s (her dr. wanted her to keep pushing but b/c my cousin is an RN, relented). So basicallly, she only felt contractions and/or pushed for less then 5 hours. She was totally ok with it, and plans to have her next by elective repeat.
Now I'm trying not to judge, but I was SO MAD at her for being so ok with things and for requesting a c/b when there really wasn't any valid medical reason for it. I guess, in all honesty, I was mad b/c I did so much to try to avoid a c/b, and I felt so robbed of my desired birth experience. And I know there are other women who feel as I do that there was likely no reason she needed a c/b (baby was 21.5" and 7 lbs. 14 oz.). Why make that choice? I just don't understand it. Of course, maybe I should since she also thinks my AP ways are weird.
Forgive me if I offended anyone -- it wasn't my intention. Just trying to figure out my feelings on this.