DS (18 mos) has been going to bed around 7:15 and doesn't fight it (much) anymore because we finally figured out his real bed time--we had been putting him to bed around 8:30. But then he either gets up to nurse every 3-4 hours, finishing with a wake-up around 4am at which point he doesn't want to go back to sleep. He fusses until around 6ish, then will fall back asleep until 8 IF we put him in his carseat and drive him around. Then he'll take a half hour nap around 11 and that's it for the day. He is cranky, clingy, and impossible most of the day.
DH and I have been trying to take turns doing the nighttime parenting, but it's getting to both of us and we've both lost our tempers more than once--with each other, and poor DS.
The thing is, he was sleeping beautifully after I used Dr. Gordon's plan back in November. It went pretty smoothly, with only a couple rough nights and he was taking a nice 1-1.5 hour nap every day. He was happy and well-rested. Then we went to my in-laws for Christmas for two weeks and he got really sick (not to mention it was a mostly negative atmosphere) and everything went back to the way it was.
So far I've tried doing Dr. Gordon again--but this time he's fighting it. He'll stay up for hours and hours alternately crying or burrowing or trying to get comfortable in his bed, my bed, on top of me, whatever. If I let him nurse, he doesn't want to let go and it gets to the point that my nipple is burning in pain because he'll latch on for an hour or more (he's never needed more than 15 minutes to get all the milk he needs since the day he was born, so this is really painful for me). But he doesn't go to sleep while he's nursing anymore. He just slows down. If I try to pop him off (a la No-Cry Sleep Solution), he freaks out.
I think he has all his teeth already (besides his 2 yr molars maybe?), but I've been trying tylenol at night to help him sleep just in case. We've also tried homeopathic calm-down stuff, and herbal remedies.
NOTHING IS WORKING. If I don't get some unbroken sleep soon, I'm probably going to have a complete breakdown. If your advice is to not try to nightwean him at all, don't bother. Seriously. I'm at my limit and I can't do it anymore. It's making me not want more children at all, and I have thoughts of putting him in daycare just so I can have time in the day to SLEEP. Nursing has never been easy for us for a variety of reasons, and I'm trying to stick it out until he's 2, but I can't do it at night. I'm so sick of being in pain. I'm trying to juggle a part-time job, night classes, and just getting dinner on the table, and I'm having serious detachment issues when it seems like all DS is bringing to the family is overwhelming exhaustion and pain.
I could really use any ideas, or encouragment before I fly off the handle and let him cry it out.