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post #21 of 33

Hi y'all!  I just found out on Tuesday that I'm pregnant with #4.  This was, um, a big surprise.  We had both agreed that we felt done with 3, but somebody had not quite gotten around to getting that vasectomy yet.  And he's just so irresistible...

 

We'll be having a UC again.  I had my daughter at home with a couple of midwives, and wasn't thrilled with the way they tried to control things.  When I got pregnant again, I just felt like I wanted to be the only one making the decisions!  So with the 2 boys, we had UCs and it was wonderful both times.  Just fantastic experiences all around. 

 

Although I kind of scared myself- my youngest is only 18 months old, and so his birth is fresh in mind.  Plus I watched the video of it with the older two kids the other night!!  Everything was cool and calm until he is crowning, and then I was desperately squealing about him coming out too fast & tearing me ( it turned out he didn't).  That part of labor is the only thing I always find hard to handle and scary.  I think I might look into birth self-hypnosis this time, has anyone done that?

post #22 of 33

I am planning to birth at home. My son (13) was born at home, but we lived in another state, so I cant use the same midwives. I just started talking to local midwives last night, and made appointments for consultation with two of them. I really kind of clicked with the one we're meeting with first (next week), and I already have a feeling she will be the one, but we'll see. I'm getting excited.............  

post #23 of 33
I have been planning a HB for this next one ever since I had my 1st dd in a hospital 18 mths ago. It was not a horrible experience but definitely not what I had hoped for, I wasn't on these forums then and didn't even know HB was an option. I had a midwife lined up that I was pretty sure I was going to use here in central NY, but we recently found out we're moving back to Virginia! So I started my search over again, I've talked to a 2 on the phone, one I talked to for like an hour and really liked. We don't actually move there for almost another month though, so I'll be around 11 wks before I can see her for my 1st appt. I have not even really thought of questions to ask, I've just assumed my husband will have that part taken care of since he's the nervous one about HB:). I just KNOW that's the route I want to go!
post #24 of 33

I am so torn!  I am seriously considering a birth center.  I already toured and liked the physical space quite a bit.  Next Thursday I meet with one of the midwives and I'm hoping that goes well.  I hate that it's part of the consideration, but financially it's more expensive than a home birth or hospital birth so I want to really love it.  Stupid insurance!

 

 

post #25 of 33

We will be deciding between three options: a homebirth with a midwife, a birth center, or a hospital birth with an amazing local CNM who has an 8% c-section rate and a cult following  :)

 

All three have their ups and their downs. A homebirth is my first choice, but not sure if we'll be able to afford it, we're in a fairly small apartment, the closest hospital is one I wouldn't send my dog to, and I worry about possible CPS involvement if something goes wrong. The birth center is a great option, but it's hospital affilliated (to a hospital right across the street) and they have a high transfer rate  :(  plus it's about an hour away. The CNM at the local hospital is a good option, really the only downside to that is I don't want to birth in a hospital.

 

My first birth was in a hospital and drugless, but knowing what I know now I really want a homebirth. Contacting midwives, learning, and planning, and hoping it all works out.

 

Any info on how to deal with having a transfer plan set up and/or dealing with CPS if something goes wrong (is that an irrational fear?)  would be helpful.

post #26 of 33
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Originally Posted by nj's_mom View Post

We will be deciding between three options: a homebirth with a midwife, a birth center, or a hospital birth with an amazing local CNM who has an 8% c-section rate and a cult following  :)

 

All three have their ups and their downs. A homebirth is my first choice, but not sure if we'll be able to afford it, we're in a fairly small apartment, the closest hospital is one I wouldn't send my dog to, and I worry about possible CPS involvement if something goes wrong. The birth center is a great option, but it's hospital affilliated (to a hospital right across the street) and they have a high transfer rate  :(  plus it's about an hour away. The CNM at the local hospital is a good option, really the only downside to that is I don't want to birth in a hospital.

 

My first birth was in a hospital and drugless, but knowing what I know now I really want a homebirth. Contacting midwives, learning, and planning, and hoping it all works out.

 

Any info on how to deal with having a transfer plan set up and/or dealing with CPS if something goes wrong (is that an irrational fear?)  would be helpful.


hmm nj's mom your CNM sounds mysteriously like the one I used for my first birth...do you mind me asking where you are located. I would know for sure just from where you are roughly...hehe

 

as far as transfer plan, that is definitely something that should be laid out plainly with your MW. We have our first MW interview wednesday and I am very interested to hear how it would go down and how involved she would be at the hospital if I had to trasfer. CPS??? Why would you worry about it? Unless you think if the baby wasn't ok that they would somehow blame you for having a HB? I don't know, I know some mamas have that fear with a UC but with a MW in attendance I feel like it is a totally different situation you know?

 

post #27 of 33

We interviewed the HB midwife today and she's everything we could want and more! My husband seemed really satisfied with all her answers to his questions and she gave me more literature than I could have asked for. Im so excited! biggrinbounce.gif

post #28 of 33

I'm planning on having my 3rd HB.  We will use the same midwives that I used last time, along with my sister, and 2 best-friends.  Needless to say I'm quite close with them at this point, so I'm super excited to see them again! 

 

My DH was also really unsure about HB before we had one.  After it was all said and done, he told me that he wouldn't have it any other way.   :)

post #29 of 33

We just hired our homebirth midwife today!

post #30 of 33

I've got an appointment with my homebirth midwife and doula on the 29th. :)

post #31 of 33

We had consultations scheduled with two different midwives. The first one was yesterday, and I think we will just cancel the other one. We both really liked her, so we scheduled the first apointment for April 6. This will be the first homebirth for my husband, and I really want him to feel comfortable, and have all his questions answered. She was wonderful, and addressed all his concerns perfectly.. and all mine too. It's really starting to feel more real now...it's so exciting.  :)

post #32 of 33

We are planning on a HB and I am very excited. This will be my first baby but I really think that I will be most comfortable in my own home. The last time I was pregnant (we lost the baby last August) we were seeing some great midwives at a local birthcenter. Even that time I knew I wanted a homebirth but our insurance won't cover it so we were going to do the birthcenter. After the m/c I realized that I don't want to compromise on anything I don't have to. So we are going to pay out of pocket for the homebirth because that I what I truely feel will be best.

My husband is a very rational thinker and I was worried that he would not like the idea of an out of hospital birth with a MW but I just gave him lots to read and he agrees now that it is statistically safer as long as your MW knows what she is doing and can identify the need to transfer should something come up.

I am so excited to be going back to the same MWs. The work in teams of 3 and we really loved all of them on our team. They were so helpful and comassionate through our loss. They said I could come in right away if I wanted but I decided that I would just wait for the 8 week apointment since I already know we want to work with them and they have all our info. So our first apointment is end of this month! 

post #33 of 33

I'm planning a homebirth this time. My last baby was born at the hospital (induction -> c-section) and it was a really difficult experience for me. I'm struggling to remind myself how pregnancy and birth are normal life events, but I do so multiple times a day because when I'm not pregnant, I know that I want to stay home with a midwife. It's just that pregnancy makes me kind of jumpy/paranoid! So frustrating. I'm just accepting this as part of the process though. I'm really glad that a good friend of mine who's supported me through the last few years is apprenticing with the midwife I'm working with. It will be great to have her there!

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