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post #21 of 39

No, I wouldn't do that, don't know anyone who has, but I think it's kinda cute.

 

I'm FB friends with two dogs, actually.  orngbiggrin.gif  I should make one for our dog...

post #22 of 39

My husband created a website for our wedding in 1996.  Pretty rudimentary, of course.  And I created a similar rudimentary page for our daughter when she was born.  I actually had a family page.  It was mostly just stuff about my family, photos and that kind of thing.  We don't have any of that any longer.

 

Now my 11 year old does have a facebook page, except it's not really hers.  It's one of mine that I created when I couldn't remember what e-mail address I used for my original page, since I hadn't been to it in so long.  So I deactivated my second page and thought that was the end of it, but once, when I was signing in, I used the e-mail address for that page and the whole thing got reactivated, which really annoyed me.  So I started putting in fake information so that I wouldn't get confused, and then I just ended up making it a page for my daughter to use when she's old enough or has interest.  She basically has no interest right now.  But I did make her a farmville account which she used briefly.

 

I have enough concerns about the privacy issues of facebook that I feel like I should just dump mine, so I don't really want my daughter to put her private information up there.  

post #23 of 39
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Originally Posted by limabean View Post

FWIW, the OP is talking about parents who create FB pages for their infants/toddlers. I don't think it breaks FB's over-13 rule for a parent to create a secondary page of their own that uses their child's name. It's not like the baby is playing Pet City and uploading photos, you know? It's totally different than letting your 9-year-old have her own FB page. 


thank you, yes this is what i asked.

 

and i think i got my answer.

 

post #24 of 39

No but I think my cat does deserve his own page. He could friend other cats and "like" catnip, milk and sleeping.

 

Rhianna

post #25 of 39
No, none of us use Facebook.
post #26 of 39
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Originally Posted by *bejeweled* View Post

No, none of us use Facebook.


Same here.

post #27 of 39
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Originally Posted by velochic View Post

I hope Facebook is gone by the time dd becomes of age.  She's 9 now.


yeahthat.gif Me too! My DD is 8. I was just telling DH, "High school was hard enough. I can't imagine what it's like now with FB."
Edited by *bejeweled* - 3/3/11 at 12:54pm
post #28 of 39

My personal opinion is there is no need to have a FB page for a child, there are plenty of private ways to share photos and information. 

post #29 of 39

Yep. My parents have one, DH's mom has one, all of our siblings have one, every.single.one of my aunts and uncles have one. We live out of state and it is 100% easier to contact my family via fb than its is to contact them through email. We made DD a facebook pretty much as soon as she was born. Both of my businesses have one, the non profit I work with has one, and pretty much all of my friends (I can seriously only think of 2 friends that dont) have a facebook. I wanted a place to post all of her pictures online for everyone in my family to see, and fb was the easiest, most convienent place because everyone was already there. I know a lot of people dont post pictures online of their kids, but I do, and I dont really care if other people post pictures of her either. I update her facebook once a month with something like (actual update):

 

Adaline Z: is 11 monts old today! She is crusing around and trying to walk. She says "cat", "hot", "dog", "hat", "no-no", "yummy", and "duck". She loves to go swimming and play in the bath. She is eating everything and still nursing like a champ! Its almost time for her one year birthday party!

 

I see nothing wrong with this, and I think its a great way to communicate with my family and friends without MY entire facebook being about my kid (because, Im still a person too.). Before I had a kid I found that a lot of my friends only posted mommy related stuff after their kids were born and I found it annoying because I wanted to know what THEY were doing, not that their kid said "uh oh" today. New parents often find every single thing their kids does to be newsworthy (I do), but not all of my friends from high school or where I used to work cares. If they are interested in and care what DD is up to these days, they can friend her.

post #30 of 39
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Originally Posted by limabean View Post

FWIW, the OP is talking about parents who create FB pages for their infants/toddlers. I don't think it breaks FB's over-13 rule for a parent to create a secondary page of their own that uses their child's name. It's not like the baby is playing Pet City and uploading photos, you know? It's totally different than letting your 9-year-old have her own FB page. 

Actually it does.  It may not break the "over 13 rule" but Facebook clearly states that you are only allowed to have one FB page per person, and it does state that having pages for pets and such is now allowed.  People have had their pages deleted by having their pets picture as their profile picture b/c FB thinks that it is a pet page.  My mom has a page for her dog so she can play two Farmville games and get more neighbors, and I refuse to befriend him. 
 

 

post #31 of 39

Facebook kept asking DH if he wanted to friend "Roy LastName." Since DH and Roy have the same last name, he was intrigued--who is this family member? Yeah, then he realized Roy was his 12yo nephew's dog. duh.gif

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My kids have them, but they are older. My sil has one for her dogswhistling.gif  on my opinion of that.  No, I didn't friend her.  She just had a baby so I am waiting and seeing.  



 

post #32 of 39
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Actually it does.  It may not break the "over 13 rule" but Facebook clearly states that you are only allowed to have one FB page per person, and it does state that having pages for pets and such is now allowed.  People have had their pages deleted by having their pets picture as their profile picture b/c FB thinks that it is a pet page.  My mom has a page for her dog so she can play two Farmville games and get more neighbors, and I refuse to befriend him. 

 

That makes sense. I didn't know about that FB rule. I guess I was more addressing the idea that the OP was asking specifically about infants/toddlers, and people were saying, "No, my 9-year-old doesn't have a page because it would break the rules." I see the concept of creating a page for a baby more like creating a page for a dog -- an extension of the parent's page, rather than belonging to the subject of that page. 

post #33 of 39
I have a FB friend who did this for her son and the "Facebook police" figured it out and shut it down. Since you need to be 13 years old for a FB page, and he clearly was not, they just deleted it without any warning.

Just a head's up for you parents who have a page for your little one. They apparently do indeed monitor this stuff, though I am sure that it is totally random as to who gets "caught".
post #34 of 39
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No, none of us use Facebook.



Nobody in our family does either. I am sincerely hoping that my kids will never ask me for one. So far, they have no idea what it is, and have no interest in computers for social life. I hope we can keep it that way, at least until they are out at college - then I can just ignore their invitations to Friend them, or whatever it is, which I do to everyone else's email that hits my inbox. Delete is a very easy key to hit. ;)

 

Yeah, I have a very low opinion of the Facebook kind of culture. My thinking is if someone never bothered to call me or email me in 20 years, why would I want to bother to see photos of them all aged and wrinkly now?  Yeah, and I am bugged by people talking on cellphones or texting and surfing the web constantly, and actually, am a real stick-in-the-mud.

 

My kids may well hate me for it when they grow up and see what I caused them to 'miss'. Oh well.  :)

 

post #35 of 39
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Nobody in our family does either. I am sincerely hoping that my kids will never ask me for one. So far, they have no idea what it is, and have no interest in computers for social life. I hope we can keep it that way, at least until they are out at college <snip>

 

Love it or hate it, teen/tween culture has completely changed. FB/Twitter *IS* socializing. The kids who DON'T use them...aren't socializing as much.

 

 

 

post #36 of 39
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Love it or hate it, teen/tween culture has completely changed. FB/Twitter *IS* socializing. The kids who DON'T use them...aren't socializing as much.

 

 

 

 

I would argue that FB/Twitter is absolutely NOT socializing.  It's sharing information.  That's it.  Socialization is so very much more complicated than these websites/services.  FB/Twitter are tools only.  Just as the telephone, meetings, church, clubs, bars, the gym, blogs, MDC... are all tools for socializing.  There are still plenty of tools for kids to use to socialize.  They don't need to use ALL of them.

 

And I would argue that if they have to socialize face-to-face, it will make them better communicators.  It's easy to say things to people behind the protection of a screen, but if you had to say it to their face, would you act that way?  In-person relationships lead to more thoughtful interactions, IMO.  This is something I think it's important to teach kids and if you let them have FB when they are little, besides the fact that it's illegal, it's not teaching them very effective social skills.  This is my personal opinion, and I know there are plenty of people who do not hold that opinion, so I'm sure I'll get some flak about saying that, but I stand by it.
 

 

post #37 of 39

  I hope Facebook is gone by the time dd becomes of age.  She's 9 now.



Facebook might be gone, but social networking has only begun. Its likely that your child will not remember a time when something like facebook wasnt around. I  didnt get email before high school and I can barely remember what life was like when you actually had to wait a week for a letter to arrive.

 

post #38 of 39
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I would argue that FB/Twitter is absolutely NOT socializing.  It's sharing information.  That's it.  Socialization is so very much more complicated than these websites/services.  FB/Twitter are tools only.  Just as the telephone, meetings, church, clubs, bars, the gym, blogs, MDC... are all tools for socializing.  There are still plenty of tools for kids to use to socialize.  They don't need to use ALL of them.

 

And I would argue that if they have to socialize face-to-face, it will make them better communicators.  It's easy to say things to people behind the protection of a screen, but if you had to say it to their face, would you act that way?  In-person relationships lead to more thoughtful interactions, IMO.  This is something I think it's important to teach kids and if you let them have FB when they are little, besides the fact that it's illegal, it's not teaching them very effective social skills.  This is my personal opinion, and I know there are plenty of people who do not hold that opinion, so I'm sure I'll get some flak about saying that, but I stand by it.
 

 


I DO think that all of the above IS socialization - forms of socialization. Using FB/Twitter/etc. etc. ad nauseum does not necessarily mean that they do not have face to face time. One does not negate the other...it's an add-on, an enhancement. That's all. Some may argue that the above provide too *much* socialization...in class, in the bathroom, and so on. I know a whole bunch of moms who would swear that forums like MDC is a good percentage of their socialization time redface.gif You'd be hard pressed to find many who say that participating in discussions is not socializing.

 

But, eh, to each their own.

 

post #39 of 39

I agree, it IS a form of socialization, and one they need to learn for our culture. How to communicate tactfully and appropriately, in short bites, without being misunderstood is a very important skill. Kids can be awkward at this, just as they can be awkward at in person communication.They can also be bullies, but there's no shortage of RL bullies either.  Before the SAHM gig, I worked at a large corporation and email -- preferably short, succinct, professional email -- was the communication medium of choice, even if the person was in the same room or building. It was economical, didn't interrupt people if they were busy, and very importantly, a written record was created. Social networks and online communication are part of our culture, both personally and professionally. I mean, look at us right now. 

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