This is hard for me to admit too--but I will. I wet the bed till I was 14.
I also had no allergies, emotional problems (other than being stressed out about the bedwetting!) or urological problems.
I went on a medication when I was 10 that worked like a dream (I have no idea what it was, and when I asked my mom she does not either
: ) until it was time to go off of it. I suspect it was a hormononal medication. Did you know that a hormone is in charge of us holding our urine at night? I was surprised to learn that, but did some research on it as an adult.
I also have had other hormone problems in my life--I needed fertility meds to get pregnant, and went through a very early meno in my 30's. I think for me it was all tied together.
Anyhow, I also got the spankings, humiliation, and the Alarm box from Sears. None of them worked. I had the ultimate motivation to stop--I was often invited to slumber parties and wanted desperately to go. I often did go, and would force myself to stay up all night, but there were 2 vivid memories that I had where I fell asleep and wet my sleeping bag. Oh my goodness--how horrible!! Bribes also did not work for me (my mom actually promised me a horse--something I had been dreaming of all my life--and I still could not do it!)..
I was a very clean, normal looking girl. I got straight "A"s in school and loved to read and play the flute. So this was not some kind of cognitive or emotional problem I had...and certainly not a case for abuse or CPS to be called. But I am sure I did smell badly when I first woke up in the morning--as did my P.J.s and sheets and mattress. I had a dry night only a few times a year till I was 14.
Finally I suddenly just stopped wetting. It was like a light switch being thrown on--I just stopped.
Now my 7 year old has the same problem, and I thank God for Goodnights!!! Those big night time pull ups are a great thing for her. They do hold every leak--and work great. She even went on a sleep over, and no one knew she had it on. She took the old one home in a large ziplock bag I packed for her, and no one was the wiser.
I personally think Depends would be fine--I wish I had that when I was younger. You could ask him how he feels about it. And yes, they will hold with no leaks. That is what they are made for! I worked in an old folks home one summer during college and over half our residents wore them. You may too some day!! They did not find them humiliating--waking up soaked with your own urine is humiliating...not using a product that prevents it. They are a blessing.
I agree a good urologist may be in order, but other than that he may just need to grow out of it. The urologist we saw for my daugher was not surprised when I told him I wet till 14--he said it is much more common than you would think. My mom wet till 12, and her mom did too--so I know it is hereditary.
Hang in there,