DS and I have moved out of the house that I own but that X and I have paid for 50/50. The house is for sale, X still lives there. Since then, X has come to see DS on a couple of occasions during the day when DS is being watched by family (we've moved in with my family) because I'm unavailable.
The last time X was at my family's home, he went to my "room" and left the house with a box of my personal items - journals, letters, pictures, etc from childhood and on). I'm not going to go in to how unbelievable, disappointing, etc it is that he was here to spend time with DS and basically stole my stuff to snoop through. I just need to think through what happens next and how I should deal with visits now.
X's schedule frees him up in the day (when I'm not around) but since this incident, I'm not willing to allow X in to the family home to see DS if I'm not there. That means he will see DS a lot less. I think I am making the right decision but do feel unsure about keeping DS from X. On the other hand, he blew his chances at showing he can make good decisions, be trustworthy, etc. so I feel like although I am making the decision which ends up restricting his access to DS, it's of his doing.
I'm really just sick about this whole situation, I mean I can't even process what is happening or what I should do. I do care about X as a person who has been in my life for years and for who I feel terribly for because his life is so messed up and he doesn't even seem to realize it, but I'm not putting myself or DS in his world anymore.
Thanks for the opportunity to post, not even sure what I'm looking for by posting this, I just have a lot to process at this point. I've tried to make things as easy as possible in terms of us both being in DS life as much as possible but it's taking a toll on me and I'm not sure what X is owed.