MY too Perfect Story

[Corrine917]

First Hello This is more to gage opinion than to just tell a story. I have been told for YEARS there is no way I will ever conceive so my man and I have just not bothered with Protection for 6 years+ during our relationship FINALLY we get married and 2 months later I find out I'm pregnant! Dr says everything looks fine. I kept waiting for Morning Sickness it never came Craving none, Swelling nope! for 8 glorious months I was Round in the tummy but NO other symptoms, He Hiccuped in my belly and bumped but nothing. I ended up being 9 mo 3 weeks along when we finally decided to do something. We went to hospital and they did patosin. nothing. The machines said there were Contractions and yes my Tummy felt tight but nothing. Dr's were great Nurses were sweet and Baby was Chillin. They broke the water and Nothing it was about 12 hrs of me trying anything they thought of and eventually they had to do a c-section because he turned his head and decided he was not going anywhere! He was born 9.5 lbs and could open his eyes and lift his head before they even cut the cord! I'm a great mom! I love my little boy! He was perfect rarely cries can be self entertained. Loves smiling at me and daddy. SUPER! He is the best. I'm sure If any of this were a struggle I would feel differently but I want to try again SOON! This is not normal right? Women don't sit around 5 months after having a baby with throw-up in their hair and no time for blogs and say god I sure do want another one. I want the morning sickness and everything that follows. I don't feel like I deserve to be with all these Women who Worked for it and the blood sweat and tears they shed and I have had meals more uncomfortable than this entire year. Is this strange. My friend says heck yes have another if there all that easy id have more. But really I don't want an easy one. I'm crazy right?

[Chloe'sMama]

That is great that you had such a wonderful time! I think often times peoples view on the same situation could be different.  I had morning sickness and discomfort at some points (but overall, both good pregnancies), but I would not want a C-section.  I am glad you view it with such a positive perspective!  

I was ready a few months after DD1 was born to do it all again and same with DD2, but would not really want to get pregnant now because of the danger to milk supply.  

[Smokering]

Honestly, you sound like the kind of positive person who'd find something good about having morning sickness. :p Having done it, yes, I think you are slightly crazy (in a good way) to want it - it sucks! You "earn" motherhood by becoming a mother, not by suffering, and I think most of us would forego that part if we could!

I don't mean to be doomy, but the hard part might yet be before you. That's one of the things about motherhood - you never know what's going to crop up! Easy babies can turn into terrible toddlers, food allergies can develop, special needs can make their presence felt, the adventurous little boy can end up in a cast for six weeks... I'm not saying that to discourage you, just to remind you that you'll probably experience drama at some point in your parenting journey - so no need to feel guilty that it hasn't happened yet, or to go looking for a harder experience!

I do have one friend who wanted to do it all again very soon after having her first. In her case, she just LOVED being pregnant (despite having the usual morning sickness/fatigue issues), and really missed not having a baby in her tummy once he was earthside. Personally, I can't stand being pregnant, find the thought of closely-spaced children very daunting, and am constantly surprised by women who deliberately go for two under 2. But hey. :p It's awesome that you're so positive about it! Just remember that even if your next pregnancy is another sail-through, you'll be doing it with a mobile toddler in tow, which really does make things harder.

Congrats on your boy!

[Corrine917]

Thank You for the words. It is so funny how right you are! Like is great but the only family member we have to help with baby sitting and over night stays (DH's mom) is in the hospital on day 3 of unknown septic shock Dr says she could be in there for a week and after that a long recovery and no baby watching. She is strong and I prayed on it and know it is not her time and she will be ok. But Timmy and me are on our own for the next few weeks. Im married to a great husband but he leaves everything baby related to me claiming when baby gets older they will bond. I disagree but enjoy that what I say goes in my house which is new to be the boss! lol! I realize now that Timmy is my rock and he is what makes my life feel perfect (reality shows its not) so I will enjoy our moments and time as much as I can for now and when DH is ready for Timmys terrible twos I will start planning for a little one again our goal is to try one more time if it is a girl I will be done for good! if it is a boy I will immediately start the foster/ adoption process for a little girl since it will take some time. I really do wish I had more people around me I could talk to! Oh Gotta go this wont be checked for spelling Sorry