Grandparent Visitation-Update #13 - Page 2

[Brentsgurl]

I just sent you a pm as we are in VERY similar situations and i'm sure I might be of some help to you in all this.  We are shooting on 4 years now since the grandparents filed for visitation and we were just served papers again to go back for another round of fighting.  Don't let anything or anyone fool you...even if the parents are on the same page and have showed up to fight together the grandparents (if they have created a bond) will get visitation of your children.  In our case they have one weekend a month 2 nights per month from 5-7, one full week in the summer, grandparents day, their birthdays, 6 hours 3 days before or 3 days after a holiday, and various other time.  Don't think that it's not possible because it is.  The grandparents we are dealing with our completely obsessed with our child and it has come to a point where they have tried ripping our child out of his carseat while the car was moving because we refused to drop him off in a bad situation.  I'd love to chat... :)

[Phoenix~Mama]

Well for me this issue is dormant... *knocks on wood*

I think my ex's Mom finally put her foot down to her husband and refused to add him to the case, because we know it all stemmed from him wanting to cause drama and not her.  We haven't heard anything at all from them in months and I'm hoping it stays that way.  *crosses fingers*  The only way it was going to go to trial was if she re-submitted because she did not show to the conference and the step-dad was never part of the case paperwork.

I'm sorry you are going through this.  *hugs*  It is absolutely ridiculous that a court can tell a parent who can see their child, grandparent or not, if they are bad news a parent should be able to make that judgment call.  Our court systems are very sad.

I wish you luck and strength!!

[Concern Father]

I understand.  I had a restraining order on my ex wife.  She has moved to Arizona from NJ and I have sole custody.  As a result her mother has filed and won for grandparent  visitation.  The following is a quick write up of my case.  I have also posted the video on youtube. 

In Monmouth County NJ Judge Vernoia has made a grandparent visitation ruling with 11 photos of only the children with no grandparent in them.  One of the photos is of the children (4 & 5 years old) at a Rutgers tailgating party with uncontrolled liquor all around.  It was requested to order an evaluation as required by the law to prove that the grandmother has an unusual bond but he refused to.  During every exchange a police officer has to rip the children from their father and the grandmother is constantly threatening to have the father arrested in front of the children and now the children are exhibiting psychological damage that is happening during the visitations and exchanges and they have been returned with bodily injuries.   The grandmother is refusing to feed the children during the visitation.  This has been brought to DYFS attention and the Governor’s office and the video of the complete exchanges has been provided.  It is not expected that any thing will happen to the grandmother because one of her immediate family members is a DYFS employee that has been coaching her and assisting with and using DYFS resources in this case.  This is all documented in the courts and the courts have demonstrated a preference for females in Monmouth County.  

[Phoenix~Mama]

Originally Posted by Concern Father 

I understand.  I had a restraining order on my ex wife.  She has moved to Arizona from NJ and I have sole custody.  As a result her mother has filed and won for grandparent  visitation.  The following is a quick write up of my case.  I have also posted the video on youtube. 

In Monmouth County NJ Judge Vernoia has made a grandparent visitation ruling with 11 photos of only the children with no grandparent in them.  One of the photos is of the children (4 & 5 years old) at a Rutgers tailgating party with uncontrolled liquor all around.  It was requested to order an evaluation as required by the law to prove that the grandmother has an unusual bond but he refused to.  During every exchange a police officer has to rip the children from their father and the grandmother is constantly threatening to have the father arrested in front of the children and now the children are exhibiting psychological damage that is happening during the visitations and exchanges and they have been returned with bodily injuries.   The grandmother is refusing to feed the children during the visitation.  This has been brought to DYFS attention and the Governor’s office and the video of the complete exchanges has been provided.  It is not expected that any thing will happen to the grandmother because one of her immediate family members is a DYFS employee that has been coaching her and assisting with and using DYFS resources in this case.  This is all documented in the courts and the courts have demonstrated a preference for females in Monmouth County.  

Your story is so sad. :-(   My heart and prayers are with your children.

[homewithtwinsmama]

Last I checked Florida has no grandparent rights laws.  I checked because I am afraid of my own inlaws.  It found it funny that I would have to move to where they live to prevent them from having the possibility of getting grandparent rights.  That was a few years back though.  Don't know current statutes.  (just in case the move to Canada isn't workable...)  I hope you never need it.

[Super~Single~Mama]

The District of Columbia does not recognize grandparent rights either. I'm staying put!!

[FearThePenguin]

you should ask for attorney fees when you end up going to court over it. i live in atlanta and here they lean heaving towards letting people have access unless you can prove drug/physical abuse-but even then they want visitation to occur but with supervision. however im not sure about grandparents, though i dont think your situation is uncommon at all. my parents have been really annoying about seeing my son even when i left my parents home because my father was being abusive. and ive had other people tell me similar stories. so at least you know youre not alone. have you asked your lawyer about supervised visitations? that would be a compromise, although they should just let you, THE MOTHER, decide who your children spend time with. wouldnt that be a great world? : )