I felt like with DD adopted last year, I had so much sympathy and compassion for her birth mom. I genuinely grieved that she couldn't take care of DD. This was a case of not being able to parent, I feel through no fault of her own.
Now fast forward to our current foster daughter and her mom chose not to parent. Now she is going to start getting visitation. I just feel some anger. Not that I would ever display it. Here is a perfectly healthy, happy, normal, loved child and her mom left her and now is drifting back into her life, probably to eventually cause her emotional harm.
How did others deal?