Ds1 is 7 and went to PS for K and part of 1st grade. We took him out after Xmas break b/c we were very unhappy with the curriculum. He has never been tested and is a different type of gifted from me, so it is hard for me to guess what level gifted he is, but as an example, he taught himself to read during K and within 1 year, was reading at a 4th grade level. I really disliked his 1st grade teacher as she seemed to think that "all the other kids would catch up and he wouldn't be ahead by 3rd grade." :-( The only enrichment that they do before 3rd grade is to have a pullout class with some different activities (which he said were too easy), but overall, the whole curriculum just goes too slow for him and I feel that it is a waste of time. On top of that, they assigned a ton of busywork homework that took a long time, not b/c it was hard, but b/c he balked at it and dragged it out. It was just HW for us to get him to do it.
Well, HS has been just okay. My business and family life is suffering b/c of the extra demands on my time. Ds1 and I do not have personalities that mesh very well. Were I him, I would have been thrilled to stay home and be able to read whatever I wanted all day and do lots of math. This does not interest him, and he told me today that the work we do in HS is "too hard." Now, he finishes the work I give him in 5 minutes with no errors, so I know it is not too hard. If anything, it is too easy. At school, he would only have to practice writing the alphabet, instead of writing whole paragraphs like with me. I have scaled back the writing b/c he complains so much, and we do more history and science reading, which he loves, but still, he complains. Then it came out that he would prefer to be in school with his friends, and so he could do easier work.
Part of me would like to say, "Fine, go back to school!" and have my days back. I do not want to be frustrated and irritated all the time, but I also don't want him sitting there all day in school, not learning, and just being happy being social and learning dirty rhymes. Not that being social is bad, but it can't be the most important thing.
I don't know what to do. We can't afford private schools so that is not an option. My only thought is to have him tested and demand they accommodate him with grade advancement or something. Any ideas?