Mamas, I'm looking for a little BTDT support.. E has hit this place where she wants to be more independent (I think). She sits up strongly now and enjoys spending most of her time on a blanket on the floor playing with toys. She is less happy when she's being held as she wants to be able to move around on her own... but this means that the only thing she really wants to be held to do is nurse, and for that she needs Mama and not me. So she doesn't really want much to do with me physically these days. If she's going to snuggle to sleep it's with Mama, if she's going to be held on a lap it's Mama's lap.. going to bed is generally a Mama activity as well.
Mommy activities these days seem to be high chair eating, Mommy reads while she plays on the floor, Mommy makes faces while she rides in the stroller, Mommy swings her around or bounces her up and down. I miss my snuggly baby!! She's on the move and doesn't want to hang out for much physical contact with me at all. It makes me feel like she doesn't like me much and likes Mama more... even though H says she feels like she only likes her for her breasts. At least she's getting what little snuggles there seem to be lately!
I think part of the difficulty for me also lies in how much like H she can be. It's not a bad thing, they're just both go-go-go types and like to be constantly on the move. H jokes that it took me ten years to slowly wear her down to my preferred level of calm, steady action. E doesn't want to sit and read books with me, or calmly gaze at each other and play peek-a-boo, or any other calm, slow activities that I had fantasies would be lovely with a baby.. She's happiest out of the house, like her Mama... I'm happiest in the house doing things slow and steady. She's LOUD, energetic, enthusiastic about her world.
She definitely attacks her world with gusto, which is wonderful... but how do I encourage the things that I want, those slow, steady, focused activities that we can enjoy together? How do I get my snuggly baby back?