The Incredible ~ONE THREAD~ 3.06 - 3.13

[Sourire]

WELCOME TO THE "ONE" THREAD  for March 6-13!!!!

posted by alexisyael in 2004:

The One Thread is designed for all on the MDC board. No matter where you are in your cycle, you are welcome to join the One Thread! We are also open to those who are "Waiting to be Ready" for one reason or another. We continue to embrace those of us who have become pregnant as well. Feel free to jump in at any time and introduce yourself!

To help keep the list current and manageable, you will be deleted after a month of not posting.

If you would like to be a threadkeeper please let this week's threadkeeper know!

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Waiting to O 

cecelia7

femmeknitzi

HopefullyMama

Taxlady

WildDoula

 

 

 Waiting to Know (2ww) 

Calycanth

nishag 

PatchChild

Sourire 

 Stevi  

VJSJ

MommyMatsumoto 

Waitin' and Marinatin'
  

Waiting for Aunt Flo

Waiting for my otherwise-wonderful-but-on-this-particular-subject-ultimately-infuriating partner to be ready

jojobean    

 WTF IS GOING ON?!?! 

chicajones

gozal

RoseRed

tantylynn

 Waiting to be Ready 
brichole1214

sleepingbeauty

cbaa2010

cygknit

Gemmine 

vivica2 

Mummoth 

slimkins

 ~ GRADUATES~ 

Big congrats to you all!!

March BFP's!

TTCChloeOrConner 

Veronika01

  February BFP's!

not_telling 

DomerJen 

Nicolian 

Hykue  

TalkToMeNow 

Xerxella 

January BFP's!

yellowdart 

ValH 

MelungeonMW  

Mommy2b4

LovingBaby

FarmerCathy

Jaclyn7

vtechmom 

December BFPs!

rockymtnmama 

LadyJennifer 

love4bob

Sarah2881

~savah~

jillybeans

callieollie

bonadl2

Edited by Sourire - 3/12/11 at 7:25am

[Sourire]

Originally Posted by not_telling 

Sourire: I tried to post this twice before, but was having issues....  Were your sis and her boyfriend taking antimalarials during their trip?  Cuz there's at least one kind of antimalarial that can make some people crazy.  And if there was some kinda drug interaction (pot?) I don't know what could happen...

That is an excellent question! I will totally check with my sister, but I'm willing to bet they weren't because her and her bf are both the type of people who really avoid medication as much as possible. When I was living in Africa I witnessed people going a bit nuts while on antimalarial pills (I also witnessed people getting malaria while on antimalarial pills)... moral of the story - I will never touch antimalarial pills again in my life!

Update on my sister... things are getting worse and worse... the last news I had was that her bf was injured when they found him, but I didn't have any details about the injury. Now I do. When he was alone, he actually tried to kill himself because he was so afraid. The injury he had was from slitting his wrists. Luckily he did not succeed, and now he is in a hospital in Bangkok. He is on medication to control the paranoia, but apparently he doesn't really know what's going on most of the time. Tomorrow he is getting an operation to reattach the tendons in his wrists. My poor little sister must be so traumatized, I wish I could be there for her right now!

In other news, DH and I made an offer on a house a few hours ago and I have an appointment at a fertility clinic tomorrow morning. However these things seem kind of unimportant in light of what my sister is going through.

[cygknit]

Originally Posted by Sourire 

In other news, DH and I made an offer on a house a few hours ago and I have an appointment at a fertility clinic tomorrow morning. However these things seem kind of unimportant in light of what my sister is going through.

I can't even imagine all you're dealing with right now. I was tempted to give you the advice to live in the moment tomorrow and during the house offer process, but I know in your shoes I'd never be able to follow it. Just know that there are people here who think what you're doing is as important, too.

[toothfairy2be]

Sourire: First, thanks for the new thread. Second, I'm still thinking about your sister. What a terrible & scary time for both of them. I hope the hospitals in China get him stabilized and back home to Canada soon.

MommyMatsumoto: I'm 6 DPO, that would make us almost cycle buddies.

AFM: What a rollercoaster weekend. My grandmother has been in the hospital for 4 weeks, we all thought she would bounce back from a battle with the flu, but she has decided that she wants these days to be her last. I spent last night and all day today with her & the rest of our family. She had gotten a little better, but has severly declined in the last 48 hours. It is so terrible to see her in so much pain & my heart breaks because I know that her faith in God will lead her home & heal my selfish heart for wanting more time. I feel like the stress in my life right now will lead to any possible conception being shook off from tears. Also my chart is almost a replica of the past, so I'm not getting my hopes up. That and we only had 1 BD & it was accidental. Oh and to dampen the mood in my soul a little more, another cousin is expecting, she is a month younger than me and got married this past September. I feel like a failure. Sorry for the spewing of emotions, I'm just so drained.

[MommyMatsumoto]

Sourire, you sound like such an awesome sister!  I know that having your support means everything to your sister and will help get her through.  What a scary situation!

Cbaa2010, yay for cycle buddies!!  My heart is burdened for you and your family, but it sounds like your grandmother is fixing her eyes on eternity with Christ and that is such a blessing.  I don't know what type of music you listen to, but there is a song called, "There Will Be a Day" by Jeremy Camp, and it came into my head when I was reading about your grandma.  Just be warned, it makes me cry every time I listen to it, but it's absolutely beautiful.   Now, regarding pregnancy during times of "trauma"... a really good friend of mine just found out she is pregnant.  She had a terrible time getting pregnant with her son and was actually trying to avoid right now.  However, her grandmother passed away a month ago and (as our acupuncturist said) the trauma forced ovulation and the one time her and her DH had sex that month, they got pregnant.  So... I hope it brings you a little encouragement in this somber time.  It *is* possible to get pregnant even at times our hearts are breaking.  I'll say a prayer for you. 

[Mummoth]

Sourire~ I hope your sister gets home soon! I bet the embassy deals with things like that all the time, so hopefully she's getting some good information from them. 

AFM~ I'm really embracing my few months off from trying so far! I'm having a whole pot of coffee every day. I'm going to have wine at my housewarming party! There's a few different ways we can arrange things at the new house, and I think I have SO convinced that it makes most sense to just go ahead and set things up so there's a baby room.

[slimkins]

Sourire yes, thanks for starting the new thread. Good luck with the house, and I am so sorry about everything your little sister is going through.

cbaa2010 if you don't spew your emotions, then they will find their own way out. And it usually isn't nice. So sorry about your grandmother.

AFM... I started my period today. We weren't really trying, so, it wasn't a major disappointment. But it was a bit of a surprise. I've never charted, so, I am not a genius when it comes to cycles. Maybe some of you ladies can enlighten me. For the past months, I have been starting on the 8th. Which at first, I had thought I had the regular 28 day cycle, but when I thought about it, all those months were 31 day months... so, I guess I had a 31 day cycle. Well, last month was only 28 days and I start on the 7th this month? Doesn't that make my last cycle 27 days? I'm not normally that wonky, or either I never really paid that much attention.... anyone have any ideas?

oh yeah, please change me back to waiting to be ready. thanks

[Sourire]

Thanks for all the support ladies!

cbaa2010 - I'm so sorry to hear what is going on with your grandma. At least she gets to spend her final moments surrounded by her family, and you have a chance to say goodbye to her. And hey you never know, with all the stuff going on in your life you may forget to think about TTC, and forgetting about TTC is a great way to get pregnant!

slimkins - most people's cycles vary in length by a few days, maybe that is what's going on with you. I would suggest keeping track of the start and end dates of your period from now on, because that information can come in handy for a lot of things (figuring out your due date, knowing when your next period is due, fertility treatments, timing BDing... and the list goes on!)

AFM - I had my appointment at the fertility clinic this morning. All they did was schedule me for a bunch of different tests (hormones, HSG, etc) and schedule a semen analysis for DH. I expected them to test my progesterone and all that given my LP issues, but I was kind of surprised when they said it didn't matter which day I did the test!

[Stevi]

So, our recent little issue about BFP pictures is giving the BSL a lot to talk about. I'm  disappointed in the perception of the One Thread. We are seen mostly as immature, fertile young women who become pregnant easily, and care more about celebrating BFPs than supporting each other through the bad times. Not everybody there feels that way, but enough of them.

I almost feel as if I'm being personally slapped. I have been trying longer than any of them, am probably older than all of them, and received so much support on this thread when things were at their worst. The women on this thread were here when my first donor and good friend died suddenly. They were here when I lost my business and my first pregnancy immediately afterward. They were here again when I lost my second pregnancy. They were here when I made the heartbreaking decision to stop TTC for a man I thought was "the guy", and still here when I came back after realizing that he wasn't. And you know, women who have graduated or moved on from this thread come back to check in on me! I do not have that kind of support anywhere else in my life.

I don't spend as much time here as I used to, as I'm trying to keep TTC as more of an everyday thing than the obsession it used to be. But even now, women who have only been here for a few days post messages cheering me on or poo-pooing the arrival of AF.

Now, I know the women on the Bitter Sushi Ladies do the same thing for each other. I've looked through their thread many times, mostly to check on old friends from The ONE Thread. So, why all of the venom? Why has this become one thread against the other? We are all trying to accomplish the same thing. We need to try better to accept each other, our different points in this journey, and our different paths to get there.

We can disagree with somebody and not create some big firestorm of controversy! Someone suggested that the BFP pictures might be too hurtful for others, most people felt they would rather keep seeing them posted. They didn't disagree that it hurt sometimes to see the BFPs, they just disagreed with banning them. So, where is the problem here? An idea was put forth and rejected. Big deal. Now let's move on.

You know what's funny? Somebody just suggested that the BSL add something about "acceptance" to their opening post and was told that it should be a group decision. So, in BSL majority rules, it's a democracy, but in the ONE thread we aren't allowed to do the same without reprisal?

[Stevi]

Did my previous post sound bitter? Maybe I should have posted it over there? Sorry, for some reason this is really bugging me.

[Sourire]

Hey Stevi, I don't follow the BSL thread so I had no idea what was going on there. I am sorry it upsets you so much. There have been disagreements in this thread a few times since I have been here, and most people end up agreeing to disagree and then everything continues as before :)

I've been on the One Thread for over 6 months and I think its wonderful. I have tried out a few other threads but stopped posting in all of them because none of them has the atmosphere of the One Thread. I am getting so much support right now for what I am going through in my life, I think everyone here is absolutely wonderful.

Nobody in the One Thread judged me when I got SUPER depressed about TTC after only 3 months of trying... I was never made to feel like I hadn't been trying long enough to feel that kind of pain. Thanks to the people here I am actually doing a lot better now (5 months later) than I was then!

When I started the new thread yesterday I did a cleanup of the list in the first post and I was shocked at how few people were remaining! I hope we get plenty of fresh new faces soon to bring more support, more discussions and most of all MORE BFPs!!!

[not_telling]

Stevi: That is disappointing to hear...  Maybe I wouldn't have been better off in the BSL thread.  I'm 36 and it took me 12 months to conceive DS when I was 33.  My cycles were horrible, sometimes 60+ days and anovulatory.  I know 12 months is a drop in the bucket for people who have been trying 2+ years...but I only knew of one other person at the time for whom getting pregnant was hard (about 2 years for her) and I felt damn bitter that it was so hard for me.  I wasn't part of MDC at the time, but could have so benefitted from being part of this thread back then.  It only took 3 months this time, yes...and I thank the stars above and hope hope hope that this is a sticky baby....  I really like this ONE thread, in part because it's INCLUSIVE of people with a variety of fertilty backgrounds.

cbaa2010: Re. getting pregnant when under a lot of stress....after my 12 months of TTC, I finally conceived DS during one of the most emotionally stressful weekends of my life.  Like, so stressful I felt perpetually sick.  So, I do think there's something to be said for that.  Hoping this cycle turns out differently than you expect.

[Sourire]

I just got back from reading the entire March BSL thread and I have to say that I was surprised by some of the NICE things that people there said about the One thread!

I can see how you would be upset by some people's comments Stevi, but to me it seemed like for every negative comment about the One thread, someone else had a positive comment! Basically what I am taking away from all the discussions in both threads is that the two threads have really different purposes and everyone should choose the one where they feel most comfortable. Someday I may feel bitter and discouraged enough to go join BSL, but for now I am most comfortable here!

[Stevi]

Sourire...   Do you think so? I did notice the positive posts, it just seemed as if the negative ones stood out more. Maybe I'm just moody? I have a blasted Yeast infection that I cannot treat by regular means, the humidity is making my weak, and I'm just feeling crummy overall. Sigh.

Everybody think Fertile Thoughts!

[Laggie]

Bitter Sushi Ladies is (often) a place for VENTING about how everybody is pregnant but you... I'm oversimplifying but some days it's very much like that. 

I feel it is inappropriate to go over there and read that venting and then come and tattle about it over here. 

ETA: but I also like the BFP photos... unless I'm having a downer day and then I stay away from the Fertility section altogether. 

Edited by Laggie - 3/7/11 at 3:39pm

[Sourire]

Originally Posted by Stevi 

Sourire...   Do you think so? I did notice the positive posts, it just seemed as if the negative ones stood out more. Maybe I'm just moody? I have a blasted Yeast infection that I cannot treat by regular means, the humidity is making my weak, and I'm just feeling crummy overall. Sigh.

Everybody think Fertile Thoughts!

Hey Stevi... maybe it just depends on prior expectations? I find that whenever someone tells me a movie is really great, I am disappointed and whenever I hear that its awful, I am pleasantly surprised... my opinion of the movie ends up depending more on my expectations than the actual movie!

You may have gone to the thread expecting everyone there to be wonderful and supportive like I'm sure they are most of the time, and been very disappointed by some of the things you read. I went there after reading what you said here, and I expected that everyone would be bashing the One thread... so when I read the posts like that, I wasn't really surprised but when I read posts such as this one, I was really impressed!

Sorry about your yeast infection... those things are awful! I have only had one in my life, but when I used to wear disposable pads I would always get the most horrendous rash every month and I couldn't do anything to make the pain and itching go away except wait until my period was over... I can totally sympathize with your pain!

[Stevi]

Ahhh, but it's okay to come over here and read about our discussions and go over and tattle about it there? Whatever.

I have a right to vent as well, and did so.

I have never before discussed what goes on in other threads, but this involved me personally, so I felt I had the right.

I do not begrudge the right of BSL members to vent, I even have many of the same feelings (and have every dang right to have them!), and many women are members of both threads.

[Stevi]

Sourire...   That makes sense, expectations can totally affect our perception.

[nicolian]

Congrats to TTCoC!! WOOT!

Good luck with house, Sourire!! How exciting!

I'm sorry to see there are any hard feelings or 'drama' over any ttc thread. I have never dealt with infertility, but my heart goes out to the women (and men) who do. And not in a, 'oh, you poor dear, you' pity sort of way. But my mother-heart hurts for them.. and I always send nothing but love and best wishes to anyone TTC - whether for 1 cycle or 100 cycles. It's impossible to compare pains and struggles. I hate it when people try to. You never know the kind of battles someone else is fighting - just as they will never truly know yours.

ETA: HOLY CRAP!! Congrats to Xerxella and TTMN as well!!

Edited by nicolian - 3/7/11 at 5:32pm

[brichole1214]

Having a pretty good day so far...other than the fact that the Provera i've been on since Friday usually starts working by now yet still no sign that AF is coming!!! BLAH!!! I only have 6 more days of the pills left and then my period SHOULD be here no later than a week in half after i take my last pill so we'll see!!!

I just wanna say that I send out LOTS of HUGS and LOVE to those who are TTC...whether you just started your journy or you've been trying for years.  I am 27 and started TTC 6 years ago and a year ago FINALLY over came my struggle.  Granted I didn't try for a full year after me and my X-H split up...but it still took me and my current DH 31 months to get pregnant and a lot of people just brushed me off for years because they thought i was "TOO YOUNG" to be dealing with fertility issues.  When I first came to the "ONE THREAD" i was already a year in a half or more into my TTC and I was accepted right away!! I also found comfort in the INFERTILITY ONE THREAD where i'm still the thread keeper most months (only took off during my pregnancy).  I am greatful that no one here has ever judged me for my age or how long i've been trying to get pregnant and I'll ALWAYS be here to support other women who are going through the same things that I've gone through.  It always saddens me when I see the same women who are still here since i've gotten my BFP and i was almost scared to even post my BFP back last April.  But then I thought about it and STEVI was one of the ladies who kept me encouraged that month because I was already ready to throw in the towel and just give up!!!  I am greatful for the friends i've made on this thread and I've always felt welcome!!! (Even now that i'm not actively trying, you still listen to my other problems in life even if they have nothing to do with TTC)  I love you ladies and I hope that we all can continue to support each other and when it arises we will always remember to AGREE TO DISAGREE on things that we just can't agree on lol...