Okay, this month DS will be 31 months and he still doesn't talk very much. We call what he does say "Martian" because he seems to have developed his own language. To give a little background...
He said his first word "Mama" at 7 months old and, a few days later, made his first sentence when he said, "Mama, bye-bye," as I stepped out the door when leaving him with my mom for a couple of hours. He has since said many, many words, but he doesn't use them regularly. He has never once used an English word out of context. It's like he hears a new words, "sits" on it for a while, uses it correctly, waits for our positive reaction, and then won't use the word again for weeks.
He has made longer phrases. His longest one, and we're still not entirely sure why he combined all the words the way he did, was "Shut up! God loves you!" (The last part was probably from watching VeggieTales.)
Over the past month or so, since we moved into our own place (we had spent the last two years living with my parents), he has begun using more English words here and there and doing some other things that show him catching up to the rest of the kids his age, like interacting with a television show or, sometimes, following directions from his Dad or me. I am thinking that being in a confined space with too many adults catering to his every need may have forced the delay rather than it being caused by any disability.
Still, his lack of regular speech caused enough concern in a pediatrician we saw that he was referred to First Steps to help with his apparent language delay. We've gone through the initial consultation, but I haven't heard anything yet about when the official evaluation will take place.
Also, it might be good to note that my little sister and my mom's mom did the same thing. Neither one really used English until they were closer to 5, but they also had older sisters that would translate what they were saying for the adults. DS is the first born, and I honestly hope I don't have to wait for this baby to be born and get old enough to talk before I can find out what DS has been trying to tell me.
Anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to get him to talk in English more? (I am not at all bilingual, so getting him to speak another Earth language wouldn't necessarily work either. lol) We talk to him. We read (or try to read when he lets us see the books for long enough) to him. We describe things to him, and try to point things out to him. We try to do like the First Steps interviewer suggested and offer him choices between, say, juice and milk in hopes that he will actually tell us what he wants. He, instead, either babbles or uses his own form of sign language (like, when he's thirsty, picking up a cup, grabbing my hand, and "forcing" me to take the cup from him.) I've tried everything that is normally recommended, and nothing has really worked.
Since he is starting to use more words, maybe I should just wait and see what happens, but I feel like I'm doing him a disservice by not trying more things. I know that potty training has come to a stand still because he won't tell me when he has to go even though I know he knows when he has to. It's especially frustrating for all of us when he really wants something, is not getting it, and he just screams as he tries to get us to understand, but we have no clue as to what he wants.
As I have heard for years that introducing a new baby can lead to regression of one sort or another, I'm also worried about that since his sister is due in about 4.5 weeks.