So I'm about 8.5 weeks now, and I still don't what I'm doing as far as hospital vs. homebirth. I do know that I will have midwife care rather than OB, but thats all I'm sure about. Here's my delimmia. I don't have heath insurance. Planned on getting some before next baby, but then, well, this little one is a total surprise. So I think I will quaify for pregnancy Medicaid, which is great. But in Ohio, homebirth isn't covered by Medicaid. I've been told that homebirth midwife care costs between 2500-3000 dollars, possibly more if you want a birth tub.
Without writing a book and going into a ton a detail I'll just say that I've realized that we can't afford to pay for a homebirth if I want to take more than a few weeks maternity leave. The $3000 I could spend on a homebirth could easily pay for a 10 week maternity leave for me plus hiring the awesome doula I had at my last birth. If I do end up with another hospital birth, I will NOT do it without a doula.
So I keep trying to figure out whats more important? Having a homebirth or having a nice long maternity leave. I'm really leaning toward the maternity leave. Babies need their mamas a lot in those early weeks. But I'd love to hear some other opinions. Be honest!
P.S. My last birth in the hospital was great. My entire labor was 7 hours from the very first contraction to having the baby in my arms. No interventions I hadn't agreed to. Just a hep lock in my arm (which after I pulled out twice, the midwife told the nurse to leave it out) and a few minutes of external monitoring every now and then. Our doula was amazing and really supported me in reminding me to be up, moving around, etc. My L&D nurse was really supportive of my natural birth, even though I left my birth plan in the car. All of my nurses afterward kept telling me what a great job I did and just generally seemed supportive of natural birth. I breastfed immediately, and didn't feel pressure from anyone to do any newborn procedures I didn't want to do. It was nice having an IBCLC on hand for when I had questions. DS slept snuggled in my arms, 'cause the bassinette made him cry.
I realize that maybe I got lucky, and things might not go as well every time. But I guess I'm just trying to give you all a little bit of an idea of where I'm coming from. I just don't have all the horrible hospital birth memories that some mamas have, kwim? Still, I'd love to try a homebirth, and I just can't get that out of my head....