DD 1 was born in a hospital, no interventions or meds until after the birth itself for a PPH I had.
I used a CNM...
On another thread in Birth and Beyond I discussed how I felt like it was way too "medicalized" for my taste and I do feel that in part it contributed to my PPH...I was also exhausted physically after a 40 hour labor and in the final pushes before DD came out my ctx were literally only coming every 5 minutes...IN THE PUSHING STAGE...So yeah I was tired and my uterus was atonic I believe.
So I am quite possibly preggo for a second time and I so badly want a HB. I have been dreaming about it, reading about it etc. I am already well versed in HB knowledge as I have frequented the HB threads since I was pg with DD 1.
DH is just flat out opposed. He said he can't "stop" me from having a HB but that he probably wouldn't be able to be there because he just can't support it. I said if he was really negative about it would be better if he wasn't there to cloud the whole experience with that negative energy. We weren't fighting he just isn't very interested in listening.
I finally begged him to at the very least meet with some possible HB MWs as soon as we confirm the pregnancy and just listen to them and tell them all his concerns. He said he would definitely do that for me but his mind was already made up so the chances of it being changed are slim to none.
I have done lots and lots of reading on PPH the first time and how less likely it is to occur the second time around, especially in a HB setting for some reason...DH doesn't care, he remains convinced I was going to die. Just to be clear, I was not going to die at all. I had 2 pit injections and uterine massage and MW pulled my placenta out by the cord (which I don't think helped the PPH) I never need a transfusion or anything extreme. Nothing that could not have been handled exactly the same way at home...
So should I just give up HB since DH is so opposed to me doing it? I want him to be supportive but he says he just can't. Have any of you had a HB without your partner? For whatever reason? Part of me would just want to go through with it without DH being there but I can't imagine him not being there for the birth of his child! It is so important to me. I feel more and more drawn to it every day and DH's response is well "I will feel better with you in a hospital"...Yay for DH, what about me?