Just letting it go. Sort of MIL related

[gbailey]

I've had a lot of issues with my MIL and as a result of alot of things she's done and said, have held on to a lot of anger towards her. It had gotten to the point where  I had a splitting headache if I spoke to her for 30 seconds. MIL is not my cup of tea and I am sure I am  not hers. Fortunately, DH and I are on the same page about not having DD alone with her. IL issues are no longer a source of contention in my marriage so being angry is just a waste of my time and energy.I decided to just let it go. MIL lives in another state. I see her about once a year and don't talk to her often.  I have a blessed family and think holding on to anger with MIL or anyone else for that matter is just going to make me miserable so I'm done. It's really not worth it so whatever she's done or said is done and can't be undone.She won't apologize so Iwon't sit around expecting one. The one thing I will do is concentrate on doing things that make me and my family happy and be cordial the once a year I see her. 

[journeymom]

Sounds perfect!  Someone here at MDC said something about how the most useful thing you could do in the drama tug-of-war is to drop your end of the rope. That's what you've done.

[gbailey]

Thanks. You know, I imagined being ticked off at her 5 years from now or longer and I realized that would say more about me and less about her.
 

Originally Posted by journeymom 

Sounds perfect!  Someone here at MDC said something about how the most useful thing you could do in the drama tug-of-war is to drop your end of the rope. That's what you've done.

[peainthepod]

I think letting it go is a very smart strategy. You can't change her, so detaching is the way to go. Life's too short to waste energy on people who only want to hold us back. Besides, abusive people can't stand it when their intended victims don't react to their bad behavior, which makes it all the more satisfying to ignore.

Congratulations on breaking free!