In your circle of friends/family - Page 3

[AbbieB]

I am sad to say that out of the 8 males in our family that I know their status, only our son is intact. 2 of the adults that I know of were circumcised as adults for medical reasons, and based on the info I have learned here, most likely for unnecessary reasons. My nephew was circumcised last month.

Of the momma friends with sons that I have had over the last 7 years, I think all of them were intact. Many of the boys live in the Midwest. (Just saying for the PP that thinks she's alone. )

[NSmomtobe]

As far as I know, my entire family is intact, except for one cousin who was circumcised because his mother (my aunt) wanted to "keep the peace" with her husband. (They are now divorced, of course.) 

My DH is circumcised and I would assume his brother (and probably father) is as well. I was talking to his brother's wife this summer about the fact that DS is intact and how easy diaper changes are. They live in Alberta, the province with the highest circ rate. They have a daughter and are TTC#2. She told me that her brother and his 2 sons are circumcised but that if she has a boy, he will not be.

All of my friends, except for a few online ones (2 in particular that I tried to talk out of circumcision) have left their sons intact.

ETA: As for why, my grandmother recently told me that she couldn't imagine "cutting on" a baby, so she left her sons (my dad and his 2 brothers) intact. My brothers and my friends' sons were born in Nova Scotia, where circumcision is not offered in the hospitals. I was telling my mother recently that it not offered here anymore, and she said it wasn't offered when my brothers were born either (1980s) and then tried to imply that circumcision hasn't been practiced in the past 60 years--after all, even my father isn't circumcised! But that doesn't explain why my husband, who was also born in NS (in the 1970s) is.

Edited by NSmomtobe - 4/2/11 at 7:19am

[MyBoysBlue]

The only people I know in real life who are circumcised have either married into the family or were circed later in life for bogus medical reasons (circed at 6 for not being retractable yet).

[christifav]

My son is the only male in my family who is intact. My sister has told me that if she ever has a son, he will remain intact, but she has no children yet. All my cousins boys have been circ'd. :-(

[JulianneW]

Speaking of circle of friends...last night I happened to be at dinner with my dh and his male friends. Turns out 3 of the 5 men are intact, 1 circumcised and one unknown. Our circumcised friend would not circumcise his children. 

[Friday13th]

This is fascinating.  DH and his nephew are intact (the only males on that side of the family) and I'm an only child.  Of our close friends, no one circs.  I know a few people that we're not close to who do but most of our circle of friends do not. DH also has several friends who are intact.

What's funny is my grandmother commented that circing was "old fashioned" when we told her we weren't going to.  (this coming from a woman with a husband who was surely intact)

[happysmileylady]

I find it fascinating that so many people know so much about the penises of people they aren't married to.

In my family, I know my DH is circ.  I wouldn't have a clue about his dad, he has no brothers or nephews on his side.

I have three girls, my sister has 2 boys, but I have only changed the diaper of one of them, he is circ.  The other, he's technically a stepson, and he came to our family potty trained, so no diapers to change.  No reason to really know, because no reason to discuss it with them.

My brother, don't know, again, no reason to ask him, or my mom.  My brother has one son, but I don't know because I haven't ever changed his diaper (don't know why though, he's the same age as my other young nephew...I guess I just haven't ever babysat him for long enough.) 

Among my friends, there are a few boys, but it's just not something we have ever discussed, so I just don't know.  Maybe it's because I have all girls?  Since I don't have a boy, it's not something that I have had a reason to bring up or discuss with anyone?  Is it really all that common to sit around discussing among parents of boys?

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by happysmileylady 

Among my friends, there are a few boys, but it's just not something we have ever discussed, so I just don't know.  Maybe it's because I have all girls?  Since I don't have a boy, it's not something that I have had a reason to bring up or discuss with anyone?  Is it really all that common to sit around discussing among parents of boys?

It is probably partly because you have all girls. I wouldn't say that I "sit around discussing" the topic. But, my mom mentioned that my brother is intact a long time ago, while we were talking about hospitals (she was under a great deal of pressure to formula feed on schedule and to circ, and refused to do any of that). She and I discussed it a few times after that, when discussing circ, in general. I don't actually know for a fact that my brother's two boys are intact (my SIL and I rarely talk about much of anything), but I seem to recall hearing it, and I can't imagine either my brother or my SIL allowing a circ to be done. I talk about almost anything with my sister, but I've also changed the diapers of all three of her boys, so I know their status. But, yeah - once you have a boy, the subject can come up in several different ways.

[outlier]

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Originally Posted by Storm Bride 

It is probably partly because you have all girls. I wouldn't say that I "sit around discussing" the topic. But, my mom mentioned that my brother is intact a long time ago, while we were talking about hospitals (she was under a great deal of pressure to formula feed on schedule and to circ, and refused to do any of that). She and I discussed it a few times after that, when discussing circ, in general. I don't actually know for a fact that my brother's two boys are intact (my SIL and I rarely talk about much of anything), but I seem to recall hearing it, and I can't imagine either my brother or my SIL allowing a circ to be done. I talk about almost anything with my sister, but I've also changed the diapers of all three of her boys, so I know their status. But, yeah - once you have a boy, the subject can come up in several different ways.

Agreed.  I have never asked anyone if they're circed or have/will circ their kids (other than my sister), but friends have brought it up since we had our son.  I guess they wanted to share their "wrestling with the circ decision" stories with someone who's been through it. 

[JulianneW]

Originally Posted by outlier 

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Agreed.  I have never asked anyone if they're circed or have/will circ their kids (other than my sister), but friends have brought it up since we had our son.  I guess they wanted to share their "wrestling with the circ decision" stories with someone who's been through it. 

Lol 

I also have never ask someone "oh btw are you circumcised" or "will you circumcising your children."

I have shared the fact that I would not circumcise my children with some friends. They have in turn opened up to me. Sometimes it has been right away and other times they bring it up themselves months later. The only reason I know their statuses or if they would circumcise their children is because they volunteered the information.

Being open about the issue breaks down a lot of misconceptions. Including my own.

[WaitingForKiddos]

Below age 30 there are 3 intact guys (including DS) and 4...soon to be 5 circumcised. Of those under 20, 3/4 are intact. 

[EchoSoul]

I think it's fair to assume our son is the only one that's intact. No one's asked yet besides my fiance's parents and my parents; and we had the general, "You should. He'll get infections if you don't!", but none of my aunts and uncles or cousins have asked yet. If they do, we'll be open about it. But I just have a feeling he's the only intact one.