My 6-year-old daughter is a VERY staunch vegetarian. She started realizing around the age of 3/4 that the meat we eat is actually animals. Finally, she decided on her own (trust me, I did not push this on her) that she was no longer going to eat meat.
She has stuck by it...I've watched her bypass bacon and pepperoni...things I know she loved because she believes it isn't right. My husband and I are not huge meat eaters anyway and we totally honor her wishes and lifestyle. I'd say the husband and I are vegetarian 90-95% of the time...possibly even more.
My parents are HUGE meat eaters. MASSIVE. If there's not meat on the table, it isn't a meal type people. We've explained 100 times that my child does not eat meat and that we really don't eat much, either. EVERY time we go over to eat, they promise she'll have food. This weekend? Ranch style beans and toast. Wow. A really healthy meal there!!!!!
Today while we were all out with out of town visitors, we decided to go out to eat. They wanted to go to a hot dog stand. (Eye roll.) I asked what the heck she was going to eat at a hot dog stand and I'm dead serious, they told me she could eat fries for lunch. Fries? That's it???? They then began to argue with me about how she ate a hot dog with them and she liked it and kept insinuating that I'M the one who is not letting her eat meat.
We get to the hot dog stand and she sees chili on the menu. I ask and its full of meat. My Mom gets some and says, "well, there's not really a lot of meat in here." IT'S NOT THE POINT! She isn't veggie because she's picky; she's veggie because she believes in animal rights.
My daughter then tells me how, when she was at their house, they placed a hot dog in front of her at dinner and told her she could not leave the table until she took a bite of it. FIRST: I HATE THAT RULE! We don't abide by it. All it does is create a huge standoff.
Second...why would you force a child to eat against her morals? Would they force someone who is Kosher to "just try" some Jell-O??
Our distorted relationship goes far past all this...but I'm really taking issue when they're aren't respecting my child. I've already told them this...that it involves RESPECTING her and treating her like a human. They don't care.
I've had it up to *HERE* and I don't know what to do. Has anyone ever had grandparents not agree with something like this?? What did you do?