I would, between part and full time. I'm one of those parents that prefers to work than be at home though. My oldest is in school and the youngest (3.5 years) would rather be at daycare/preschool than at home. My only wish would be a little more flexibility... but I love working.
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Ceinwen, interesting what you said about being better at work than at home... I guess I'm still figuring out if I'm better at work or at home... A lot of the time I feel so bored playing with DS (guilty!) but then I have days where we are so connected and I love being with him, which I would hate to give up. I think I would prefer to do neither, to be honest! The only times I really feel are 'time off' are when I am reading a book or hanging out with friends. It's strange - I had such a strong work ethic during my pre-motherhood life, most people would describe me as a very disciplined, conscientious and driven person. I still am in lots of ways but I find single parenthood SO exhausting, it just feels like work would be another thing to resent and take time away from me recharging my batteries. Maybe I just haven't found the work yet that is really ME and makes me feel fulfilled.
It turns out the university don''t have bursaries for part time study, only full time. Bleah. Could still apply for external funding but the prospects are not as likely for an artsy-fartsy 'unecessary' degree like mine. Full time this year is not feasible for me b/c there's no way I could afford the childcare unless I was working...I could perhaps do it full time the following year when DS starts school fulltime, but even then it'd be a stretch. So I'm now thinking, I might just work a minimal amount of hours per week (which wouldnt make me any better off financially, all but 30 dollars of the amount I earn would just get taken off my benefit/welfare payments), like 4-6, doing the breastfeeding counselling stuff, to keep in the loop and see how I feel doing that and whether I want to do more once DS is in school. Just getting a feel for it.
This is a really neat thread! Those of you who recall my story know I most relate most to Sparklefairy in that yes I would work/attend school even if I didn't have to but I wanted to find the right fit. It took me a while I tried a couple different things but I finally found a way to work from home and make an AMAZING income. Due to MDC rules I can't gush in detail but I will say I am paying my college tuition at a private catholic college in cash (well a check) instead of loans ---- and I am providing for my dd all while working only 15-20 hours a week and I set my own schedule. So yes I can attend all field trips, schedule around ballet class, etc.
What I am doing works really well for me and I am happy to share a little of my story and what I am doing in a private message but I also want to say we all have to find our way. I went from having a abusive ex who used money (and my fear of being away from my dd to work) as a way to control me. Now I am rid of him and fully supporting my dd on my own terms. Where there is a will there truly is a way!!!!
I tried staying at home and I was not really spending as much quality time with my dd. Now I feel I have the best of both worlds.
I hate staying home with my ds. I love him with all my heart and soul, but I just was not meant to be a SAHM. I love working though, and picking him up form daycare, and playing with him in the evenings though. I end up exhausted but fulfilled at the end of the day, and its completely worth it!