Thanks for sharing this person's blog. I enjoy it. We're going through a bit of a crisis here with DS8 who is brilliant and creative and wonderful. I can't seem to let go of the idea that SOME subjects have to be forced! What the heck is wrong with me! I think it's hurting my child. (but I get waffle-y because I think that the lack of CHALLENGES will hurt my child, will fail to help him have self-esteem from having accomplished something that was hard; will lead him to take "the easy way out" and then he will feel he's "behind" other kids and not knowing the things they know (most of his friends are homeschooled in a slightly more formal way). So I don't want him to suffer that whole "underachievement" thing so I try and get him to do "lessons" and then we end up in a coercion situation.
Now I think that if I stop "lessons" (by which I mean the MEREST of writing practice, reading practice and math; I'm talking work that takes less than an hour if he just did it but way more than an hour if you count the resultant drama), I'm just waffling AGAIN...I am starting to lose all confidence in myself as being able to manage this. Seriously. I suck at this. Where is my TRUST? Where is my assurance that it will all be OK?
I am wondering if I just need to de-school myself. Mind you, I'm about a thousand years old and haven't been in school in ages, but what I mean is the mindset. I was the high-performing little girl who got the A's so daddy would be happy with me. It all had nothing to do with learning, but everything to do with getting the adults to clap like trained seals whenever they saw my report card. But on the plus side, I developed tremendous confidence that I could handle anything that was handed to me, school-wise.
Maybe I should just take a period to de-school and just say OK we are going to be pure unschooling for the rest of this school year and I will stop tormenting him. I'm sure I can think of something clever to tell the school district by way of reporting.
Thanks for listening. I realize this is a rant but I do feel very down in the dumps about the idea that I might have been flubbing things up for my kid.