XH has always been difficult about his parenting time. He's never once gotten him on a Wednesday, is constantly late getting him and bringing him back, changes the schedule all the time, etc. I'm due with DS's first sibling around April 21st. XH keeps changing back and forth from getting DS on Fridays or Saturdays, claiming his work schedule keeps changing and he doesn't want to leave his GF alone with both kids. I am sick of it and I told him last night that he needed to follow the standard court order he agreed to and that's it.
So now he's claiming that he's getting DS for the entire week of Easter for Spring Break. Not only is that the week I'm due, but my sister is coming down that Saturday from across the country, which is NOT supposed to be his weekend. He has never once taken DS for Spring Break or summer. DS is school age and even though we homeschool, the week of Spring Break for the local district will be the week of the 4th, so he should be taking him that week. On top of all that, he and his GF announced last month that their wedding day would be the Saturday before my due date, so he'll be with them that weekend too. So He's going to end up having DS for more than half the month I'm due.
I told XH that if I'm in labor, DS needs to be here even if it's his weekend. He announced that he didn't care if I was in labor, I wasn't getting DS on his time. I wouldn't stop DS from being with him if his GF was in labor (she's pregnant too) and I have a feeling the courts would back me on having DS present to meet his sibling.
Also, do I have the right to request a home visit by a social worker to XH's house? He's living in total squalor (always has) and there's trash and empty alcohol bottles laying around all over the place. His XGF called CPS about it, that's how bad it was, but they didn't do anything. I hate having to send DS there every other weekend. He comes back reeking of cigarettes, exhausted, and the last two times he's been unable to tell me what he ate other than Poptarts and cereal.
I know this is long and complicated. Is there anything I can do?