Hello fellow mamas, no idea if there's a thread like this (no time to search):
I'm desperate. My 2 year old boy is like a collicky baby. When we are in the house, it feels as if he cries all day long. The only time he doesn't cry is when he is watching TV, and he begs for TV all the time. When I say no he throws a fit. We started showing him TV a few months ago but I try to limit it to one episode a day. I feel guilty just showing him that.
When he does calm down, its usually only for 1-2 minutes as he's interested in something, then he cries again, usually for TV. I am a SAHM and I try to get out of the house. He loves the kid's care at the gym, where he gets to play in the kids gym and go outside. I do take him for walks, to the park, on errands, etc. and he loves all of that. But he cries everytime we have to go out to the car, anytime a transition is involved, cries at night if he doesn't have every toy he asks for in his bed. I do not want to teach him that he can get whatever he wants when he wants it. I don't know how to discipline or deal with the crying, and it is so tempting to give in to get him to stop. I just want to teach him new things, and help him enjoy his day.
He cries about the most simple things - not sitting in THAT chair at lunch, not wanting to change his diaper, not wanting to wait while I get him breakfast, not wanting that breakfast, cries because I put his hat on "wrong," cries because I have to go to the bathroom, etc. AHHH
Due to all of this house is SO messy - I desperately need to clean even if just for a 30 minute interval but I literally feel like I cannot get anything done unless my little guy is in front of the tube. I seriously don't have clean clothes, haven't cooked dinner for a week and half. It feels like the newborn stage!!
Things are unraveling around here. My morale is wearing. I feel like a horrible SAHM and keep thinking of these other moms that have time to dress themselves and their children nicely, knit, cook, clean the house etc. What's the secret? Why am I being defeated by this? Am I a bad mom who just doesn't know how to mother? I'm losing my sanity, the house is an absolute pit (I swear it actually smells), I can never cook because of his crying/tantrums. PLEASE help! Are the terrible two really this terrible?
Ps. It's not an "I'm in pain" type of cry (teething etc.) -- it's an "I don't like this and I want something else" type of cry.
Pps. Our routine has unraveled (except nap and gym in the morning). Maybe this is the problem? He never knows what to do next and I don't know where to direct him? What sort of routine can I have? What can I do with him?
I need your help really badly.
Edited by youngspiritmom - 3/9/11 at 2:43pm