I have a bright, very verbal 2.5 year old. I love her to death, but the constant crying and whining is getting to me and I don't know how to improve things. I realize that a certain amount of this is age, but she is more whiny and cries more often than her peers. I think its a combination of personality and response to environment (mainly how we parent her, I guess). I don't think that DH and I act like this, so while I guess it could be something she's mimicking, I don't know who she's getting it from
One little tiny thing goes wrong and she sobs. I misunderstand what she asked me to do, do it a little differently and she whines and cries. Or if she asks me to do something or for something, and I approach the request in such a way that she thinks I'm not doing what I said I would (even though I am), the breaks down into tears. I try to say "I can't understand your whining. When you can ask in a normal voice, I can help you" She generally goes a long with this idea after crying for another 5-10 seconds, but then the same thing happens less than 3 minutes later.
This is practically constant. I don't know what to do. I don't want to "feed" the whining, so to speak. I want her to learn to communicate her wants and needs without doing that (I feel this is important not only so I don't lose my patience with her in the short term, but because it's important later in life as well). But, on the other hand, I don't want to make her feel as though she's not allow to feel whatever it is she's feeling.
Help please! Books, blogs, comments, questions, suggestions--I'll take 'em all!